Relationship Problems... Girls advice would be helpful but all advice is welcome.?

Alright my girlfriend and I are ';taking a break'; long story... Anyways she invited me to come and watch a basketball game with her on Saturday night. I am somewhat hessitant because she is the one that said she needed the space. I would love to go with her but I know that I would want to be able to hold her hand or kiss her, and I just know that it would be akward. We have been dating for 3 years and things have been fairly serious. I will provide any more information if needed.Relationship Problems... Girls advice would be helpful but all advice is welcome.?
Don't go, tell her you want to respect the space she wants and you will find it too difficult to be around her as a 'friend' (since you still care and can't do the couple things while on this date). It will only frusterate you to be around her and not kiss and hold hands, especially if it doesn't seem to be bothering her. Let her know what its like to want to be with you since she wanted the space. Let her miss you.Relationship Problems... Girls advice would be helpful but all advice is welcome.?
She invited you ... take it one step at a time!
Honestly, if it were me, I'd be inviting my ';boyfriend'; because I missed the security of the relationship and because that way I'd know where he's at. If she truly wants a break, she shouldn't be asking you. Honestly, sounds like she's using you.
OK here is what i think she is thinking don't come after me if I'm wrong or anything. i think she is feeling like you may not love her, or she doesn't love you. one thing i would do is every time i saw her i would tell her she is beautiful if you don't already. try bringing her flowers for some random reason. give her reasons to stay with you and to want to be with you all the time. all the little things count man. another thing you could try is writing her a poem, or something like that girls really like that stuff. if you don't want that approach you could always try the take her out for supper rather then having her invite you somewhere, if she's inviting you i would go. it's always nice to pamper your girl to try a manicure or something to do with her hair, if their is something you know she is not confident about try giving her a gift to make that prettier, for example most girls hate their feet so get a pedicure for them. this will not also boost their confidence but it will also give you bonus points for getting her something. if all else fails try dancing with her under the stars, one night, just you and her. even if you don't think your a good dancer at least you'll get to hold her in your arms she may like the feeling of being in your arms which will make her fall even more in love with you
Take her up on her offer, and be casual and relaxed with her. She is probably trying to rekindle 'you', and so wants to see how you react around her. Let her take the lead, and if she still wants to be your partner then she will show you through her actions.





Good luck.
Hun if she's the one who wanted the space and the one who asked you to the game maybe she's realizing it's not space she needed. maybe it's you. Don't put yourself out there without letting her know your thoughts. Be honest and whatever happens will happen. Ask her thoughts and what she is feeling towards you and make your decision from there. It's always awkward after any fight or any separation but those who over come the weird feelings are the ones who respect each other more.
At least go... it will show that you understand but are willing to help her let go for awhile. Trust me, I had same situation and is now back together with her same time you two been together. Just keep offering her things like drinks, food, or massage. Who cares if it is girly! Do IT!!!
Im in the same boat as you. or was. we were going fairly serious for a while then we got into some arguements over the stupidest stuff. for example, we were in walmart one time and i wanted to switch shampoo's becuase mine wasnt working like it used to. i picked up two bottles from the clearance/sales shelf at the end of the shampoo/soap aisle. They were like 86 cents a peice and i was thinking hey thats great, if they dont work out no big loss. But she made this big deal about the scent (it was strawberries and cream...i get her point there... but my hair gel is also scented so it covers up the smell completely) and starts saying all this stuff like thats so gross im never going to come near if your using that stuff. and it was totaly retarded. Anywho...where i was going with this...turns out we were both coming to the same conclusion...we werent satisfied with where our relationship was going. it started out as best friends then turned into more of a passionate physical love with serious talking inbetween. we still chatted just to chat and joked around and played odds and end games like twister or shot some pool or ping-pong, but the relationship was taking on a more serious passionate state of mind. We broke off for a week and just talked about everything, basically analyzed our entire relationship up to this point and told each other every little thing that bugged the other person but they never let it show. like there was an occasion where she wanted to meet up with me cause she needed someone to talk to but she didnt really express it completely becuase she didnt want to sound to needy becuase she knows i dont like it when she is whiney and high maintenance. If i had known thats what she wanted or needed i would have dropped my schedule for her but she failed to express it fully and i blew it off, thinking she just wanted to see me for seeing me, and i was busy that day running errands.


To sum it all up. accept her invite to the game and go there with her, but dont focus on holding her hand or think about kissing her, your main objective should be just to get her to laugh and make sure she has a great time. dont get serious with her, just build your back up through being her friend and making her laugh so she wants to be around you more. If things go good that night call her on the phone and just talk about meaningless stuff just to get her back on the phone and open the communication channels between the two of you. then later in that week start to try and get her to open up to you and talk about your relationship. talk about the low points and the high points and try to get inside her head so you can feel what she is feeling. dont move to fast when you try to open this conversation up, but be persistent and be prepared to start with yourself. I dont know how open your significant other is but i find things go much smoother and its easier to get her to talk if you start with yourself and get her into the mood of the conversation so when it finally swings over to her, she already knew it was coming and had alot of time to remember and prepare her responses so she doesn't use the cop out ';well, i dont know...just stuff...like i cant express it in words.'; Its not going to be easy and most of it will rely on you. take it slow, make her laugh, and start with yourself. you cant expect anything from her that your not willing to do yourself. good luck with it. i'll check up on this over the next veiw days in case you have any more ?'s. once again good luck. make her laugh. enjoy her for who she is not what she is...untill she is ready again.
Go watch the game with her. Just because the two of you aren't in a relationship doesn't mean that you can't be friends. I know it might be hard just to be her friend because of the feelings you may have for her but it's better to have her as a friend than not have her at all. Who knows this break might do the two of you some good and may make the relationship stronger in the future. Nothing's wrong with holding her hand. Try kissing her goodbye on the cheek.
Don't be the first to make a move. If she wants to hang out then she wants to hang out. If she wants to try something else then tell her that you guys need to talk about where your relationship is going. Don't let her use you.
You know that kills me, taking a break, how do you do that with some one you love?To me it`s, i want to find out if you are the one i still want to be with so i`m going out for a little time to find out.Ask her if that`s the case and if it is go for it.If it`s cool with her then she doesn`t want you any more.unless she can`nt find someone fast enought.
If you're still in love with her; GO!, but let her make the moves, remind her of her wishes and ask her if she's thinking about forgetting ';THE BREAK'; or what! Tell her how you feel about being around her knowing that she needs her space, and remind her how hard it is for you to be around her and not feel as if you can be yourself! Good Luck!
If it's been a long break , then she has had time to think things over and obviously wants you back. Accept her invitation. Maybe she has something to tell you .. just ask her how she has been .. take it easy .. don't be posessive.. that is a turn-off for women. Good Luck! :)
I don't think you should go, because it will be hard emotionally, you guys have been together 4 3yrs, and It would be hard to spend time with her and not be able to show affection, either you can just tell her the truth and just say you are not ready to hang out as friends, or just tell her you have made other plans.
Maybe this is her way of easing back in. You can always ask her ';what about our break';. If she still wants the break...I wouldn't go with her. She can't have lil pieces of you...its the whole thang or nothing at all.
maybe she invited you to go because she's done with the break. or maybe she wants to slowly move back into the relationship with you. it would be hard to do, since you want to treat like she's still your girlfriend. i would go and see how she acts...I wouldn't invite you unless I wanted to get back together with you!
Well maybe she wants you to make a move to see how long you can take this ';break';.
let her make the moves--sounds like she feels she out of control and needs to be in control--
It sounds like she may still be interested. Ask her what she expects from you - make her tell you what she wants. That way you don't break any hidden rules that all of us girls have but never really say...


It is ok for you to set boundaries. Tell her if you can't handle being just friends right now because you can't separate your feelings for her quite yet. It may make her rethink her feelings for you - honesty is sexy!
If she is inviting you over, she wants to try to patch things up. Try to treat this as like a first date.
I think you should go... yes, it will be hard, but she invited you for a reason obviously. You're just going to have to restrain your urges to treat her like your girlfriend, since you are taking a break. If you don't think you can do it, or it's too painful, don't go... but be upfront with her and tell her why. Maybe she is trying to make an effort to patching things up?
So, your question is... should you go or not? don't if it makes you uncomfortable. She asked for the time apart not you right? So give her time apart.
tell her just that, if she doesn't understand then she asked for a break without fully understanding it...she wanted the space...you will possibly screw up that or maybe she wants you to smother her so she has an excuse...girls aer tricky, her easons could be scandeless or off the wall...no you should do what she first asked of you.