i'm a guy but i truly wish to be a girl. all my friends are girls and we have so much fun together, shopping, hangin' out, just having fun. how do i let them know i really love being feminine and do you think they'll say it's ok. the other day they kidded me about doing a make-over with me and my heart just pounded so fast. i don't know if they were just kidding or if they thought that would be cool. thanks so much.Hi, just a little advice would be great.?
chances are, they can feel that you are wanting to be Feminine. woman are pretty good are sensing that. and you know, I think it's great that you can feel who you are, even if it's in a different body. Just tell them, and if they are not okay with it. then just find some friends who are. BUT chances are, they will be okay with it. You seem like a sweet-heart. and I hope you get your make-over.
God Bless , Smooches!Hi, just a little advice would be great.?
they're girls....they already know.
well to me youre who ever you wont to be and if they really are friends then they will axcepy you no matter what you choose to be in life even if you wont to be a dog or even a squrille they shouldn't care what you choose to be do yeah keep in touch ok email em at ';coolpeoplehello@yahoo.com'; ok by good luck and even though you like to be a girl i still respect you cause your'e not afreid to ask ?'s about your'e self ok by again and email me
ok by
sincerly
gabriel gallegos
Just tell them if they are your true friends . They would like you for who your are. They might be shock at first but they may know all ready and waiting for you to tell them. Don't hide what you are feeling. IF you don't tell you will be in misery.So i would tell them. I don't think they will quit being your friends. Girls are not like boys. They usually accept people for they are. That what they are. If i was your friend . I would still be your friend. I have also have a friend with the same problem and i accept her for her and not what she is.
be true, be urself...express urself don't hold back...lol
Yikes...to each their own, and if they're your true friends they won't judge you or crucify you with your choice...just be aware that not everyone in america (or the world) fully accepts that kind of move...and people show their discrimination pretty aggressively at times. Other than that.....to each their own. Kinda curious though as to why....you just can't be an effeminite man? Are you homosexual, or just enjoy being in a woman's shoes? And by being a girl, like how much so? We talkin surgery estrogen/testostorene make-over? Cause THAT within itself can be risky too...health wise that is.
ow that's bad....u r a guy,and what about ur appearance are u really a gentelman or a bit like a girl? or r u just wish if u r a girl?
i dun really understand why r u want to be a girl. God want u to be a guy, just realise it...and become a gentleman,maybe becoz u spent ur time mostly with girl,thats why u think like that,spent ur time with boys,u'll feel and know the differences then.gud luck
to your own self be true..........who cares what anyone else thinks.
SOOOOOOOOOOO,,,go ahead and have a ball with the gal friends and if they are OK with it No problem
be yourself
if they are your true girl friends they would want you for you . and should support you in wanting to be a girl so tell them.and if they dont like it tell them they wasnt a real friend. so you go girl be beautful. o.k
so r u lyk gay?.. if u r...u carnt elp it can ya. mayb u shud just say ur gay 2 em lyk ... as a joke.. but no lyk in a sarcastic voice n if dey actually say ewwww summat lyk dat.. den well, dey dunt lyk ppl hu r gay. but if dey say dey dunt mind den.. well dey dunt mind
Wednesday, July 28, 2010
18 and wandering can i be pregnant if we didnt finish? HELP ADVICE!!!?
Okay so I have been having unprotected sex with my bf he is clean and I guess in a way we are trying to get pregnant and yes we are ret able to take care of a baby But what I'm wandering c we had sex twice the other day but he didn't ever get to nut we got to tired so can I still get pregnant even if he didn't nut18 and wandering can i be pregnant if we didnt finish? HELP ADVICE!!!?
Precum can get you pregnant.18 and wandering can i be pregnant if we didnt finish? HELP ADVICE!!!?
YES!!!!! you can get pregnant from pre-*** i did with my miscarry!!! don't let anyone tell you it isnt possible it IS!!!!!!! good luck!!!
You can get pregnant from pre c*m.
Hope you guys are sure about the baby thing...
Precum contains sperms, so chances are probable.
that 1st juice is the most potent so yea ..............of its precum
Precum can get you pregnant.18 and wandering can i be pregnant if we didnt finish? HELP ADVICE!!!?
YES!!!!! you can get pregnant from pre-*** i did with my miscarry!!! don't let anyone tell you it isnt possible it IS!!!!!!! good luck!!!
You can get pregnant from pre c*m.
Hope you guys are sure about the baby thing...
Precum contains sperms, so chances are probable.
that 1st juice is the most potent so yea ..............of its precum
Never give advice unless it is requested or a life/death situation?
What do u think about that?Never give advice unless it is requested or a life/death situation?
It depends on the situation for example who is he or she, when we give advice, more importantly how we say it.
In fact I agree with you. i don't like to advise others but some times I can't control myself and do it while I know that it is useless.Never give advice unless it is requested or a life/death situation?
Absolutely. In your mind, you are helping others but most people think you are bragging. And something that works for me may not necessarily work for others, so that could make a situation awkward. I don't give advise, I seek advise and then judge if it is any good for my life.
The difference between giving advice and sharing a similar experience.
Advice is like telling you what to do and expecting you to do it.
Sharing a similar experience can help a person develop their own
solution.
Nope, I think people should advise others.
Nah
It depends on the situation for example who is he or she, when we give advice, more importantly how we say it.
In fact I agree with you. i don't like to advise others but some times I can't control myself and do it while I know that it is useless.Never give advice unless it is requested or a life/death situation?
Absolutely. In your mind, you are helping others but most people think you are bragging. And something that works for me may not necessarily work for others, so that could make a situation awkward. I don't give advise, I seek advise and then judge if it is any good for my life.
The difference between giving advice and sharing a similar experience.
Advice is like telling you what to do and expecting you to do it.
Sharing a similar experience can help a person develop their own
solution.
Nope, I think people should advise others.
Nah
What is up with my ten year old son, Advice?
My ten year old has been acting very strange. He has started to wet the bed,he has started to well touch himself in public and no mater what we do to try and stop that it dose not work. It is like he goes into a trance and dose not even realize what he is doing. He has also been crying allot, and also having allot of fits of rage. My husband has had to restrain my son and so have i. We are not sure where this behavior is coming from, he has never acted like this before. I am not sure what to do, Advice?What is up with my ten year old son, Advice?
THOSE are signs of sexual abuse,it doesn't mean that it is,but those are VERY VERY strong indications that it is.Please take him to someone like a therapist to talk to,he may be too embarrassed or ashamed to tell you,it's not a reflection on you as a mother if he won't tell you some kids just won't but always let him know that you are there no matter what to talk to and that there isn't anything that he can't tell you and that you will still love him no matter what and that your on his side.
This could be a family member,a peer,anyone really doing this,sexual predators are great liars/manipulators not just of their victims but of all the people in their lives,that how they get away with it or access and gain the trust of their victims in the first place.You have to consider everyone that has access to your son,sorry to say even your husband.
What is most striking is that you write ';started'; making me think that these are newer behaviors...meaning that they were obviously triggered by something....if that turns out not to be the case check for illness.Hope it gets better and you he gets help.What is up with my ten year old son, Advice?
I don't want to get all jumpy with answers about something I don't know well enough about, but here is a possibility:
Perhaps he is depressed?
Children exhibit symptoms of depression differently than an adult or teenager would.
They cry a lot, they're very aggitated and angry. They may complain of aches, pains, being tired a lot.
They're very frustrated.
Wow. Get him to a doctor right away. This is serious stuff. Could even be the result of abuse. Has he been spending time with a male member of the family? Or is he being bullied at school?
Something's not right in his life, something happened. I'd start with a regular doctor to look for signs of trauma or known conditions that could explain this. If nothing comes from it, then a visit to a psychiatrist couldn't hurt.
there is definetly something wrong he doesn't want to discuss. i would definetly take him to a primary care physician and then to a therapist... this is only if it coincides with your beliefs. (i.e. doctors, therapist etc.) as a mom i would be screaching for advice as well..
i think you should take him to see a councilor. they're be able to help him figure out what is bothering him. or try to talk to your son. hope this helps.
Bring this up to his Pediatrician or your Family Doctor. Get a referral for a Therapist. There is something going on that you are not being told.
Get him to a therapist/counselor now. There is something wrong and he's afraid or embarrassed to tell you. Don't wait.
Someone touched him.
your son has (or is) being sexual abused...find out by whom.
take him to a doctor. but maybe he's autistic...
Ugh,I hate to agree with him..but some..most of the things you say sound about the same..just a bit is different..I suggest you let him know that you love him..(it's best to have it just you and him..less pressure for him,makes it easier on you both)Their right when they say find out if someones abusing him..but do it softly..I know personally that anything public about it forces you to tell lies and/or be ashamed.
..I don't know for sure,but I went through a lot of that stuff in one way or another..it's a horrible thing,he's about the age I was to..I promise you he's unknowing about why he's wetting the bed..I was figuring out ways to hide it/make it look as though something different happened etc'...Don't rule this out..I know you might not ';buy it';,But my mother missed totally what was happening..Don't assume no one's a possible ';suspect';...Family is just as hard to trust..as a stranger..probably more..I promise you that.
Go soft on him is all I can say.It's tough stuff.
10 yrs old and wetting the bed is not a ';DIETARY PROBLEM'; this has never happened b4 and there are other characteristics that show there is nothing wrong with his stomach.
He is being abused in some way by someone he knows. especially if his behavior has been going on for a while.
My Honest advice would be to talk to him 1st alone and assure him that he is in NO way in trouble for anything and he has done Nothing wrong! and that talking with you will stay between you and him as long as what he has to say does not leave him vulnerable to being hurt in any way. don't yell at him and try and force him to tell you because he will with draw from you completely and fear that more harm will come to him. Just ask questions about alot of different thinks that could have happened. you will eventually ask the right question to where you get a look, a physical reaction, or an answer. and then you will know.
If he does admit to some1 abusing him you need to call the police 1st and immediately file charges and tell them you are taking him to Your Dr. or to the Emergency room and you want them to meet you there.
take him to the DR. and tell him everything that is going on. Tell him you are suspecting abuse in some way or that he has admitted to you what is happening to him.
No matter what it is you need to find out. and get him the help he needs for all your sakes.
Take him to a doctor instead of asking yahoo answers! Those are all signs of sexual abuse, and I don't want to scare you unnecessarily, but you need to talk to him and ask what's bothering him and if something's wrong. If he says ';nothing'; or resists talking, talk to his doctor or school counselor about finding a psychologist. Even if he's not being abused, clearly something is really bothering him and you need to get to the bottom of it.
And NO, psychologists won't just put him on medication (in fact, psychologists can't write prescriptions) like other posters have suggested. They are trained professionals who know how to help children in emotional distress. Yes, if he has no emotional issues, it's time to look for dietary concerns, but the most urgent possibilities should come first.
(Also, someone asked about spending time alone with a male relative. Not all abusers are male! But you should consider who he's been left alone with since just prior to the strange behavior.)
Good luck!
There are a few possibilities. One is that it could be dietary....sweetners such as aspartame, nutri-sweet, drinks such as diet coke which has such swwetners...some people can react very badly to these and actually they are bad for anyone. MSG is another food additive (621) that has bad effects. Now they only have to put the number of the additive on the food packet so you don't get to find out what it is. If you want a full list of the codes I can send it to you.
PS. watch out for psychologists who are re-knowned for sexual abuse on minors. Also watch out for anyone diagnosing such things as ADD, ADHD, SAD, Bi-Polar or any of the ';traditional'; psych labels which were invented and voted into being but have no scientific or medical basis and only made to enable prescribing drugs, for which they get kick-backs from the drug companies (a fact not mentioned by other posters to this answer who defend such people).
So allergy to certain foods could also change mood. Truly, it can have devastating effects.
Second, there may be problems at school. A child who is having difficulty with studies can get stressed and, like any adult, it can show up in their mood and behaviour. Bullying can also cause this.
My advice would be to take him for a standard medical check at a holistic natural health doctor such as a chiropractor.....but not a regualr doctor who will end up putting him on psychiatric drugs or sending him to someone who will put him on such drugs. They will tell you these drugs are necessary, but they are NOT. What is needed is a look into any allergies, nutritional deficiencies (sometimes low on a particular vitamin), or even any medical condition such as a tooth infection that is undiscovered.
Second look into how he is doing at study, if there are any kids giving him a hard time, or teachers for that matter. Check how much sugar he is having in his diet and cut sugar intake down. Make sure he is getting plenty of protein.
Welcome to message me for more help.
PS. watch out for psychologists who are renowned for sexual abuse of minors and try to label and then drug children while they live on the kick-backs they get from the drug companies who quote them on their prescriptions of certain drugs....a fact not mentioned by other posters. It starts off with psychologists and next thing you know they are in the hands of psychiatrists and labeled for life with a disability that is most usually caused by the drugs they prescribe. Take your son to a NATURAL HEALTH practitioner also qualified as a doctor so there is no chance of such happening.
GIVE THAT ***** A SPANKIN!!!!!
make him clean the gutters
that should toughen him up
Bad parenting.
THOSE are signs of sexual abuse,it doesn't mean that it is,but those are VERY VERY strong indications that it is.Please take him to someone like a therapist to talk to,he may be too embarrassed or ashamed to tell you,it's not a reflection on you as a mother if he won't tell you some kids just won't but always let him know that you are there no matter what to talk to and that there isn't anything that he can't tell you and that you will still love him no matter what and that your on his side.
This could be a family member,a peer,anyone really doing this,sexual predators are great liars/manipulators not just of their victims but of all the people in their lives,that how they get away with it or access and gain the trust of their victims in the first place.You have to consider everyone that has access to your son,sorry to say even your husband.
What is most striking is that you write ';started'; making me think that these are newer behaviors...meaning that they were obviously triggered by something....if that turns out not to be the case check for illness.Hope it gets better and you he gets help.What is up with my ten year old son, Advice?
I don't want to get all jumpy with answers about something I don't know well enough about, but here is a possibility:
Perhaps he is depressed?
Children exhibit symptoms of depression differently than an adult or teenager would.
They cry a lot, they're very aggitated and angry. They may complain of aches, pains, being tired a lot.
They're very frustrated.
Wow. Get him to a doctor right away. This is serious stuff. Could even be the result of abuse. Has he been spending time with a male member of the family? Or is he being bullied at school?
Something's not right in his life, something happened. I'd start with a regular doctor to look for signs of trauma or known conditions that could explain this. If nothing comes from it, then a visit to a psychiatrist couldn't hurt.
there is definetly something wrong he doesn't want to discuss. i would definetly take him to a primary care physician and then to a therapist... this is only if it coincides with your beliefs. (i.e. doctors, therapist etc.) as a mom i would be screaching for advice as well..
i think you should take him to see a councilor. they're be able to help him figure out what is bothering him. or try to talk to your son. hope this helps.
Bring this up to his Pediatrician or your Family Doctor. Get a referral for a Therapist. There is something going on that you are not being told.
Get him to a therapist/counselor now. There is something wrong and he's afraid or embarrassed to tell you. Don't wait.
Someone touched him.
your son has (or is) being sexual abused...find out by whom.
take him to a doctor. but maybe he's autistic...
Ugh,I hate to agree with him..but some..most of the things you say sound about the same..just a bit is different..I suggest you let him know that you love him..(it's best to have it just you and him..less pressure for him,makes it easier on you both)Their right when they say find out if someones abusing him..but do it softly..I know personally that anything public about it forces you to tell lies and/or be ashamed.
..I don't know for sure,but I went through a lot of that stuff in one way or another..it's a horrible thing,he's about the age I was to..I promise you he's unknowing about why he's wetting the bed..I was figuring out ways to hide it/make it look as though something different happened etc'...Don't rule this out..I know you might not ';buy it';,But my mother missed totally what was happening..Don't assume no one's a possible ';suspect';...Family is just as hard to trust..as a stranger..probably more..I promise you that.
Go soft on him is all I can say.It's tough stuff.
10 yrs old and wetting the bed is not a ';DIETARY PROBLEM'; this has never happened b4 and there are other characteristics that show there is nothing wrong with his stomach.
He is being abused in some way by someone he knows. especially if his behavior has been going on for a while.
My Honest advice would be to talk to him 1st alone and assure him that he is in NO way in trouble for anything and he has done Nothing wrong! and that talking with you will stay between you and him as long as what he has to say does not leave him vulnerable to being hurt in any way. don't yell at him and try and force him to tell you because he will with draw from you completely and fear that more harm will come to him. Just ask questions about alot of different thinks that could have happened. you will eventually ask the right question to where you get a look, a physical reaction, or an answer. and then you will know.
If he does admit to some1 abusing him you need to call the police 1st and immediately file charges and tell them you are taking him to Your Dr. or to the Emergency room and you want them to meet you there.
take him to the DR. and tell him everything that is going on. Tell him you are suspecting abuse in some way or that he has admitted to you what is happening to him.
No matter what it is you need to find out. and get him the help he needs for all your sakes.
Take him to a doctor instead of asking yahoo answers! Those are all signs of sexual abuse, and I don't want to scare you unnecessarily, but you need to talk to him and ask what's bothering him and if something's wrong. If he says ';nothing'; or resists talking, talk to his doctor or school counselor about finding a psychologist. Even if he's not being abused, clearly something is really bothering him and you need to get to the bottom of it.
And NO, psychologists won't just put him on medication (in fact, psychologists can't write prescriptions) like other posters have suggested. They are trained professionals who know how to help children in emotional distress. Yes, if he has no emotional issues, it's time to look for dietary concerns, but the most urgent possibilities should come first.
(Also, someone asked about spending time alone with a male relative. Not all abusers are male! But you should consider who he's been left alone with since just prior to the strange behavior.)
Good luck!
There are a few possibilities. One is that it could be dietary....sweetners such as aspartame, nutri-sweet, drinks such as diet coke which has such swwetners...some people can react very badly to these and actually they are bad for anyone. MSG is another food additive (621) that has bad effects. Now they only have to put the number of the additive on the food packet so you don't get to find out what it is. If you want a full list of the codes I can send it to you.
PS. watch out for psychologists who are re-knowned for sexual abuse on minors. Also watch out for anyone diagnosing such things as ADD, ADHD, SAD, Bi-Polar or any of the ';traditional'; psych labels which were invented and voted into being but have no scientific or medical basis and only made to enable prescribing drugs, for which they get kick-backs from the drug companies (a fact not mentioned by other posters to this answer who defend such people).
So allergy to certain foods could also change mood. Truly, it can have devastating effects.
Second, there may be problems at school. A child who is having difficulty with studies can get stressed and, like any adult, it can show up in their mood and behaviour. Bullying can also cause this.
My advice would be to take him for a standard medical check at a holistic natural health doctor such as a chiropractor.....but not a regualr doctor who will end up putting him on psychiatric drugs or sending him to someone who will put him on such drugs. They will tell you these drugs are necessary, but they are NOT. What is needed is a look into any allergies, nutritional deficiencies (sometimes low on a particular vitamin), or even any medical condition such as a tooth infection that is undiscovered.
Second look into how he is doing at study, if there are any kids giving him a hard time, or teachers for that matter. Check how much sugar he is having in his diet and cut sugar intake down. Make sure he is getting plenty of protein.
Welcome to message me for more help.
PS. watch out for psychologists who are renowned for sexual abuse of minors and try to label and then drug children while they live on the kick-backs they get from the drug companies who quote them on their prescriptions of certain drugs....a fact not mentioned by other posters. It starts off with psychologists and next thing you know they are in the hands of psychiatrists and labeled for life with a disability that is most usually caused by the drugs they prescribe. Take your son to a NATURAL HEALTH practitioner also qualified as a doctor so there is no chance of such happening.
GIVE THAT ***** A SPANKIN!!!!!
make him clean the gutters
that should toughen him up
Bad parenting.
I need some advice..could i be pregnant?
ive come of my pill for 3-4 weeks now... and ive had unproctected sex with my boyfriend. ive bin having headaches,dizziness,feelin wierd,having cramping like period pains,i need to wee alot more often. and my moods havent bin normal lately. please help me.
34 minutesI need some advice..could i be pregnant?
Take a test is you've been off the pill for 4 weeks.I need some advice..could i be pregnant?
Well you should for one, obviously, take a pregnancy test. If this comes up negative %26amp; you still have no period and you are late...for more than a week or so, you need to contact your OBGYN you could have had a miscarriage and not even know. Sometimes this does happen and you can have all the signs of a pregnancy and have already lost the baby. And you need to be sure to see the doc asap - you will need most likely need a DNC done. If you have a positive result contact your OBGYN, and get in to get some blood work %26amp; an ultrasound.
i read this question and got it right away . yes u can very likely be pregnant i got the same symptons and i ended up pregnant. so yeah best wait for ur missed period. i found out in my 8th day of my missed period.
You very well could be pregnant. I would go see the doctor and get a test!!
I would spell check before you ask questions though. It's very hard to read.
Yes you sound like you pergnant! and it sounds like you are ready to be a mother
maybe
possibly
my main symptom was sore and hard nipples..cartridge scars
34 minutesI need some advice..could i be pregnant?
Take a test is you've been off the pill for 4 weeks.I need some advice..could i be pregnant?
Well you should for one, obviously, take a pregnancy test. If this comes up negative %26amp; you still have no period and you are late...for more than a week or so, you need to contact your OBGYN you could have had a miscarriage and not even know. Sometimes this does happen and you can have all the signs of a pregnancy and have already lost the baby. And you need to be sure to see the doc asap - you will need most likely need a DNC done. If you have a positive result contact your OBGYN, and get in to get some blood work %26amp; an ultrasound.
i read this question and got it right away . yes u can very likely be pregnant i got the same symptons and i ended up pregnant. so yeah best wait for ur missed period. i found out in my 8th day of my missed period.
You very well could be pregnant. I would go see the doctor and get a test!!
I would spell check before you ask questions though. It's very hard to read.
Yes you sound like you pergnant! and it sounds like you are ready to be a mother
maybe
possibly
my main symptom was sore and hard nipples..
My freind is obsessed with asian girls which he only wants to date is there any advice i could give?
I don't know if there's a problem with my buddy but it seems he only has a taste for asian women i dont see it to be a big deal since it's his choice but in a womens perspective is it wrong ??? My freind is obsessed with asian girls which he only wants to date is there any advice i could give?
No. It's nobody's choice except his.My freind is obsessed with asian girls which he only wants to date is there any advice i could give?
it is wrong to a certain degree... if you think about it, he is dating exclusively... it is bad for the asian girl he is dating because she does/doesn't know that he is dating her simply because she is of a certain race and that would be shallow...
i would say it is a bad thing because for people to date exclusively, for this situation, they are close-minded... and possibly racist/uncle tom...
he may also be chauvinistic because some of his attraction may stem from the stereotypes of asian women as submissive and subservient (i find it bullshit and he'll get a rude awakening)
Asian fetish alert.
No. It's nobody's choice except his.My freind is obsessed with asian girls which he only wants to date is there any advice i could give?
it is wrong to a certain degree... if you think about it, he is dating exclusively... it is bad for the asian girl he is dating because she does/doesn't know that he is dating her simply because she is of a certain race and that would be shallow...
i would say it is a bad thing because for people to date exclusively, for this situation, they are close-minded... and possibly racist/uncle tom...
he may also be chauvinistic because some of his attraction may stem from the stereotypes of asian women as submissive and subservient (i find it bullshit and he'll get a rude awakening)
Asian fetish alert.
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I need your advice I really need some help don't know what to do what would be best for my little girl?
Her mother and I are curently going through a court battle in regards to her residence. I asked what contact I can have with my daughter until then but on all the dates I have proposed she has said she is working. But she said she only works every 2nd Sat so I can see her this Sat but then in the same letter she said she is working every weekend until Sat 7th July (as you can see this is not every 2nd Sat) But then she went on to say if I drop going for residence then I can have her for half the holidays and staying contact every fortnight comencing this weekend. Should I give up on residence and take the contact or should I stick to my initial intentions.I need your advice I really need some help don't know what to do what would be best for my little girl?
Whatever you feel to be best for your daughter...However,do it through the court so that she cannot keep changing the rules,which she may well do if something upsets her....I need your advice I really need some help don't know what to do what would be best for my little girl?
Wait a minute, your screen name is Deborah A. You are fighting for custody of a 3 year old with your EX WIFE? Was it a lesbian marriage? I am so lost. '; Now the child is calling another man daddy. '; Way lost.
I gave up the fight, I believed what I was told. Silly me trusted there dad would stick to his word. I spent 7years with out my children. I have returned letters and memories of them telling me to f off. Stick to your guns.
Go for what is best for your daughter - your feelings and your wife's feeling do not count in this instance - your daughter is paramount.
I am not saying this lightly - sounds like wife is using her against you.
Continue fighting for residence. Your daughters Mother will continue playing these vicious games. Just by doing what she is doing now by denying visitation with your daughter is proof enough that she is not a good mother. It may be hard right now but think of how much harder it will be when she holds all the cards. Fight for your little girl you are what is best for her.
Hi,
I would stick to your initial intentions, because there is nothing stopping her changing her mind, when it suits her!.
At least with the courts, a decision will be met, and you both will have to stick to it!.
So keep going, don't let her bully you into changing your mind, good luck.
If your reasons for residencial custody are legit then stick to your guns. But remember to handle this situation in the best interest of your daughter and not out of spite for each other for the problems that led to this situation. Always be friendly and compromise with every situation, she will come around and before you know it, you will have this situation worked out totally different then the court orders.....Just always be friendly and walk away when the situation is not.
I dont belive in trying to take a child off the mother unless there is a good reason as in drugs or abuse doing it to get back at someone is wrong.I think you should have the right to see your daughter and she shouldnt be putting barriers up if you two cant come to an agreement together get a mediator you could drop the residence order to keep the peace but go to court and get access sorted .You both need to realise that its whats best for the child at the end of the day and there is no point trying to get back at each other you need to talk to your ex and sort it out because your just going to end up hurting your daughter .Your trying to take your daughter away from the mother which i think would do more harm than good to the child im sure you could be civilised with your ex for the sake of your child.
Try explaining this to her mother, say how you feel, try not to gety heated or too upset as it may result in her shutting down and things becomming more difficult. It could be she is really buisy and isnt thinking straight or it could be more sinister than that- that shes trying to deter you from seeing your daughter, its hard to say from whats happening and what you have described, maybe ask her what her motives are? (in a quizative way a oppose to iterally shouting at her ';what is the meaning of this...';
My guess is shes written to you so try responding to her in the same way, by letter, photocopy and keep the original with everything you do. Give her a few days to respond and if she doesnt then your left with not much choice if you want to see your child.
I hate to say it as they are pricey but this is what lawyers are there for, they do cost but atleast you know things that do happen will near enough be written in stone and contradicotry letters are likely to be a thing of the past as a lawyer will be writing a letter and not her.
I know you have the childs interests at heart, but please try to keep calm and just be there (if you do get the opportunity) for your daughter, as a product of a divorced relationship, I can say for me the negative effects of divorce are the arguements before the divorce (which apparently were much about me and my sister- though with no thanks from either me or my sister!) and are the parts where the child feels very uneasy and worried and their entire world is changing and all they can see is one or the other parent whom they depend on will not be around as much- if atall, and this means they loose a big part of their live that they have always had there. Its abit like having a docor tell you, you will loose both your legs or both your arms or soimething, and that there is no wheel chair or crutches or whatever, you just have to go with it. Arguing over it worsens the build up which makes it all the more painful for everyone involved.
You do sound like you have her best interests at heart and I'm sure my parents did too. But I also think they let their pride rule thier decisions and the ';sticking together for the children'; which they also did for 8 years also doesnt work!
I hope it works out for you I really do, I can appreciate its hard for fathers, but if its any help, my dad won custody of both me and my sister (my mum didnt have enough money to house us both and my dad said he wouldnt pay for my violin lessons if he didnt get custody.) my dad was very manipulative though so I dont recommend doing this. Its resulted in me hating him and my sister feeling sorry for him. It seems the truth will out in the end as I'm not the first to have experienced a situation like this I'm sure!
You will always be a part of your daughters life and please dont forget this!
Whatever you feel to be best for your daughter...However,do it through the court so that she cannot keep changing the rules,which she may well do if something upsets her....I need your advice I really need some help don't know what to do what would be best for my little girl?
Wait a minute, your screen name is Deborah A. You are fighting for custody of a 3 year old with your EX WIFE? Was it a lesbian marriage? I am so lost. '; Now the child is calling another man daddy. '; Way lost.
I gave up the fight, I believed what I was told. Silly me trusted there dad would stick to his word. I spent 7years with out my children. I have returned letters and memories of them telling me to f off. Stick to your guns.
Go for what is best for your daughter - your feelings and your wife's feeling do not count in this instance - your daughter is paramount.
I am not saying this lightly - sounds like wife is using her against you.
Continue fighting for residence. Your daughters Mother will continue playing these vicious games. Just by doing what she is doing now by denying visitation with your daughter is proof enough that she is not a good mother. It may be hard right now but think of how much harder it will be when she holds all the cards. Fight for your little girl you are what is best for her.
Hi,
I would stick to your initial intentions, because there is nothing stopping her changing her mind, when it suits her!.
At least with the courts, a decision will be met, and you both will have to stick to it!.
So keep going, don't let her bully you into changing your mind, good luck.
If your reasons for residencial custody are legit then stick to your guns. But remember to handle this situation in the best interest of your daughter and not out of spite for each other for the problems that led to this situation. Always be friendly and compromise with every situation, she will come around and before you know it, you will have this situation worked out totally different then the court orders.....Just always be friendly and walk away when the situation is not.
I dont belive in trying to take a child off the mother unless there is a good reason as in drugs or abuse doing it to get back at someone is wrong.I think you should have the right to see your daughter and she shouldnt be putting barriers up if you two cant come to an agreement together get a mediator you could drop the residence order to keep the peace but go to court and get access sorted .You both need to realise that its whats best for the child at the end of the day and there is no point trying to get back at each other you need to talk to your ex and sort it out because your just going to end up hurting your daughter .Your trying to take your daughter away from the mother which i think would do more harm than good to the child im sure you could be civilised with your ex for the sake of your child.
Try explaining this to her mother, say how you feel, try not to gety heated or too upset as it may result in her shutting down and things becomming more difficult. It could be she is really buisy and isnt thinking straight or it could be more sinister than that- that shes trying to deter you from seeing your daughter, its hard to say from whats happening and what you have described, maybe ask her what her motives are? (in a quizative way a oppose to iterally shouting at her ';what is the meaning of this...';
My guess is shes written to you so try responding to her in the same way, by letter, photocopy and keep the original with everything you do. Give her a few days to respond and if she doesnt then your left with not much choice if you want to see your child.
I hate to say it as they are pricey but this is what lawyers are there for, they do cost but atleast you know things that do happen will near enough be written in stone and contradicotry letters are likely to be a thing of the past as a lawyer will be writing a letter and not her.
I know you have the childs interests at heart, but please try to keep calm and just be there (if you do get the opportunity) for your daughter, as a product of a divorced relationship, I can say for me the negative effects of divorce are the arguements before the divorce (which apparently were much about me and my sister- though with no thanks from either me or my sister!) and are the parts where the child feels very uneasy and worried and their entire world is changing and all they can see is one or the other parent whom they depend on will not be around as much- if atall, and this means they loose a big part of their live that they have always had there. Its abit like having a docor tell you, you will loose both your legs or both your arms or soimething, and that there is no wheel chair or crutches or whatever, you just have to go with it. Arguing over it worsens the build up which makes it all the more painful for everyone involved.
You do sound like you have her best interests at heart and I'm sure my parents did too. But I also think they let their pride rule thier decisions and the ';sticking together for the children'; which they also did for 8 years also doesnt work!
I hope it works out for you I really do, I can appreciate its hard for fathers, but if its any help, my dad won custody of both me and my sister (my mum didnt have enough money to house us both and my dad said he wouldnt pay for my violin lessons if he didnt get custody.) my dad was very manipulative though so I dont recommend doing this. Its resulted in me hating him and my sister feeling sorry for him. It seems the truth will out in the end as I'm not the first to have experienced a situation like this I'm sure!
You will always be a part of your daughters life and please dont forget this!
Any advice for me before i take the Virginia Beach Police exam?Is this different from other civil servicetest?
Yeah. Study for it. ';Study guides prepared by the test developer, Stanard and Associates, are available for purchase for $5.00
(check or money order only; addressed to City Treasurer).';
Also: ';For applicants with concerns about the written exam, ECPI offers an 8-hour preparatory class to all police
applicants.';
(check or money order only; addressed to City Treasurer).';
Also: ';For applicants with concerns about the written exam, ECPI offers an 8-hour preparatory class to all police
applicants.';
Any advice for someone is nervous to go to a commercial audition?
dont give one word answers, be yourselfAny advice for someone is nervous to go to a commercial audition?
Forget everything you know.
Forget everything you know.
I am 14 and currently in school but trying to look for a summer job, any advice on where I should apply?
I am turning 14 in July by the way, so will i even be able to get a job?I am 14 and currently in school but trying to look for a summer job, any advice on where I should apply?
2 things for you to look at - (1) the YA ';resolved questions'; section, where this Q has been asked and answered 1000's of times and (2) a newspaper that will read ';14 million out of work and only 2 million jobs available';....look in your neighborhood for odd jobs there...sorry :[I am 14 and currently in school but trying to look for a summer job, any advice on where I should apply?
Okay so I think the person above me is a bot or something because he posted that same thing on another unrelated question. Anyway I think you have to be 16 to get a job, I'm not sure though try doing some research about that in your area.cartridge scars
2 things for you to look at - (1) the YA ';resolved questions'; section, where this Q has been asked and answered 1000's of times and (2) a newspaper that will read ';14 million out of work and only 2 million jobs available';....look in your neighborhood for odd jobs there...sorry :[I am 14 and currently in school but trying to look for a summer job, any advice on where I should apply?
Okay so I think the person above me is a bot or something because he posted that same thing on another unrelated question. Anyway I think you have to be 16 to get a job, I'm not sure though try doing some research about that in your area.
I'm gonna join an Iron Maiden cover band and I'm gonna be Paul DiAnno- please give me advice?
What you need to do is keep your hair crazy not spiked, wear leather half punk half metal, wear a spiked wristband, listen to a few of his songs and start singing like he does (somewhat punk and somewhat metal) also in the middle of a show take your shirt off and get really into the music and then just get drunk. To be honest be yourself and have fun man any body that wants to sing and cover the greatest band in the world would be a hard thing to do but should be fun to.
I hope this helped but the best thing you need to do is just look at his videos and see what he does and how he sings.
Check out this website and there is some info on his singing style and life.
Be cool brother and i did add you as a contact.
UP THE IRONS.I'm gonna join an Iron Maiden cover band and I'm gonna be Paul DiAnno- please give me advice?
Please don't
I hope this helped but the best thing you need to do is just look at his videos and see what he does and how he sings.
Check out this website and there is some info on his singing style and life.
Be cool brother and i did add you as a contact.
UP THE IRONS.I'm gonna join an Iron Maiden cover band and I'm gonna be Paul DiAnno- please give me advice?
Please don't
Men I need advice can a man be in-love with his live in girlfriend which he share a baby with fall in-love?
with the other woman who also, has a baby by him the the babies are 15 months apart .is it possible that he can love them the same . would a man tell about the baby with the other woman?Men I need advice can a man be in-love with his live in girlfriend which he share a baby with fall in-love?
yeah it's called being a liar and a cheat... you have tow woman that you need to come clean with... They will meet one day.. Trust me... you don't want everything to come out when the kids go to school.. you need to come clean...You are not in love with both of these woman... One of them you are lusting after. You have a choice to make and it is not fair to them that you are playing the field and having babies.. How would you feel if they did that to you? all I can tell you is that they are going to be hurt and your live in girl friend may try to hurt you because you are playing on her emotions and no woman likes that. You need to grow up and realize that you can not have your cake and eat it too...Men I need advice can a man be in-love with his live in girlfriend which he share a baby with fall in-love?
a love triangle almost always has a self destruct mechanism built in .in rare cases it can work but it's rare because jealousy is a inborn human trait and the fuse that destroys relationships.
yeah it's called being a liar and a cheat... you have tow woman that you need to come clean with... They will meet one day.. Trust me... you don't want everything to come out when the kids go to school.. you need to come clean...You are not in love with both of these woman... One of them you are lusting after. You have a choice to make and it is not fair to them that you are playing the field and having babies.. How would you feel if they did that to you? all I can tell you is that they are going to be hurt and your live in girl friend may try to hurt you because you are playing on her emotions and no woman likes that. You need to grow up and realize that you can not have your cake and eat it too...Men I need advice can a man be in-love with his live in girlfriend which he share a baby with fall in-love?
a love triangle almost always has a self destruct mechanism built in .in rare cases it can work but it's rare because jealousy is a inborn human trait and the fuse that destroys relationships.
What advice would you give someone/a company who is about to implement an ERP system?
- Identify the correct ERP product for the respective business
- Choose the correct implementation partner (who is competent and has a good reputation)
- Choose the appropriate modules to implement (dont overdo or underdo)
- Form a good core team who can work dedicatedly for the project - along with a competent project manager who can handle all issues
- Set proper timelines
- Get a complete buy in from all stake holders, especially heads of departments
- Devise a plan to keep the core team productive in a different role post implementation period
- Invest in proper hardware / network for speed
- Devise a proper strategy for implementation (single unit, all units)
- Choose the correct implementation partner (who is competent and has a good reputation)
- Choose the appropriate modules to implement (dont overdo or underdo)
- Form a good core team who can work dedicatedly for the project - along with a competent project manager who can handle all issues
- Set proper timelines
- Get a complete buy in from all stake holders, especially heads of departments
- Devise a plan to keep the core team productive in a different role post implementation period
- Invest in proper hardware / network for speed
- Devise a proper strategy for implementation (single unit, all units)
I need to advice could i be pregnant??
i was suppose to start on thursday or friday i have some cramping a back ache but af yet im extremly tired i took a test yesterday morn it was neg and yes im ttc for 8mths now i had intercourse on all the right days i think i might just wait to see if my period shows u in the next week or so or what should i do??? thanksI need to advice could i be pregnant??
Well I hope that you are. But i suppose you can only wait to see if your period does arrive and if not take a test. Ill keep my fingers crossed for you. Good luck. xxI need to advice could i be pregnant??
Well if you are late just wait another week then test again because you could have other factors why it late (stress, extreme weight gain/loss...etc.) I would just take a HPT and then if still no period make an appointment with a doctor and have a blood test done.. Good luck! God Bless.!%26lt;3
Well I hope that you are. But i suppose you can only wait to see if your period does arrive and if not take a test. Ill keep my fingers crossed for you. Good luck. xxI need to advice could i be pregnant??
Well if you are late just wait another week then test again because you could have other factors why it late (stress, extreme weight gain/loss...etc.) I would just take a HPT and then if still no period make an appointment with a doctor and have a blood test done.. Good luck! God Bless.!%26lt;3
What would your advice be?
i have a man he works while i stay home with the baby. i understand he is tired but i do everything i cook, clean and wash everything. i give him massages and cut his hair and shave his beard. I run his bathwater cut his toe and finger nails. i wash his dirty A$$ draws in the sink if we dont have money to wash clothes . When I want something little he wont do like get me a drink when i try to relax. he is not cheating or anything he is just lazy and he wont massage me like i want. and i find myself the one asking for XXX all the time. its like Hello taking care of the baby is actually not as easy as He thinks. when he gets paid yea he buys me all these things and takes me out nice places but thats not what im looking for i want someone to cater to my every need. PLEASE TELL ME WHATS WRONG!!!!!!What would your advice be?
Well my mom always said a relationship we always be how it started, if you always catering to his needs how can he cater to yours, in a way you have created a monster. You are doing the things you are suppose to do as a wife (hope you are married to him if not that is whole other story) any woo, but a man will only do what you allow him to. I don鈥檛 know how long you to have been together or how many children you two have, but it will be very difficult to change him over night if this is what he is use to doing or getting. You asked the question what is wrong. You spoiled him and now you have to break him. I would love to talk more, but it is a lot to type on here email me and I can give you more advice if you want.What would your advice be?
It is about habits and patterns and giving. He will take whatever you are willing to give. And you are giving too much. He is not willing to give and you can't make him. He has to want to change. All you can do is:
1. Not give some much.
2. Tell him how you feel.
Tell him how you feel in an environment where there is no anger. Talk about how ';you'; feel and not about what he will or won't do.
Decide what ';gifts'; you feel like giving and which are ';over the top';. I think washing out clothes so he can work is good. Cutting toe and finger nails is way over the top.
And NO ONE should cater to someone else... except once in a while as a ';gift';.
Stop being a slave for him then! Why should you do all these extra stuff for him, he's not a BABY. You spoil him too much and it's ridiculous! Do nothing more than to cook and clean the house.
I don't think there is anything truely wrong. It sounds to me like you both have gotten comforatable in the pattern of life, maybe him more than you. If you really think there is a problem, talk to him about it. He may just need to hear it at a good time so he can think about the way the relationship is going.
Well my mom always said a relationship we always be how it started, if you always catering to his needs how can he cater to yours, in a way you have created a monster. You are doing the things you are suppose to do as a wife (hope you are married to him if not that is whole other story) any woo, but a man will only do what you allow him to. I don鈥檛 know how long you to have been together or how many children you two have, but it will be very difficult to change him over night if this is what he is use to doing or getting. You asked the question what is wrong. You spoiled him and now you have to break him. I would love to talk more, but it is a lot to type on here email me and I can give you more advice if you want.What would your advice be?
It is about habits and patterns and giving. He will take whatever you are willing to give. And you are giving too much. He is not willing to give and you can't make him. He has to want to change. All you can do is:
1. Not give some much.
2. Tell him how you feel.
Tell him how you feel in an environment where there is no anger. Talk about how ';you'; feel and not about what he will or won't do.
Decide what ';gifts'; you feel like giving and which are ';over the top';. I think washing out clothes so he can work is good. Cutting toe and finger nails is way over the top.
And NO ONE should cater to someone else... except once in a while as a ';gift';.
Stop being a slave for him then! Why should you do all these extra stuff for him, he's not a BABY. You spoil him too much and it's ridiculous! Do nothing more than to cook and clean the house.
I don't think there is anything truely wrong. It sounds to me like you both have gotten comforatable in the pattern of life, maybe him more than you. If you really think there is a problem, talk to him about it. He may just need to hear it at a good time so he can think about the way the relationship is going.
Any help or advice would be appreciated?
i'm 18 yrs old and i've never met my father. he completely denies my existence. a yr ago i tracked him down.... i never wanted a dime from him... i only wanted to know who he was. when i did finally get up the nerve to call him he told me i was not his problem and hung up.
does anyone else here feel like i am entitled to the money he would have been paying in child support? initially i didnt want it but i feel like if he refusing to have any contact with me and myself(now) and my mother have taken care of me..... arent we owed that? he didnt want to be an actual father but he still was supposed to help support me, correct? do you feel it would be morally correct to sue him?
**if you do and you know of any good lawyers in Illinois please let me know.
peace and blessings to all
SakinaAny help or advice would be appreciated?
It wouldn't be incorrect to sue him. Just wish you hadn't waited so long. It can be done, Get yourself a lawyer that will take just a percentage of what you will initially get.
It won't make your father happy but you derserve something especially if he's treating you the way he is. He's gotten awway with enough all ready.
GODD LUCK!Any help or advice would be appreciated?
Dear Sakina,
I can imagine how you feel about your father.
I read from your profile that you are now a moslem girl as myself.
I belive that what you should do is to pray allah to forgive your father and try hard to get intouch with him again as mach as you can. Do not sue your father! Just try to forgive him no matter how many times he hangs up the phone and does not answer.
ok. #1 Did he sign the birth certificate or acknowledge paternity at any point in your life?
#2 Has he been reported to Illinois that he not given your mom child support for the last 18 yrs?
Ok, if he has acknowledged paternity, he should be listed as a deadbeat dad, or that he is behind 18 yrs in child support. I'm not sure how the law goes, but usually in Illinois, the child support enforcement keeps tabs on deadbeats. Not sure of any lawyers, but maybe you can contact the Illinois Department of Health and Human Services. On the website, they have listed numbers you can call to find out specific information. You may be able to obtain a lawyers name that can help you in your situation. Good Luck.
yes ,go for it .if your father has brought u in this world he should be responsible for you.best of luck .i hope u succeed.may god help u.
go get em
Hi Living, Am really sorry that your dad is a rotten BASTARD. No one needs to be treated the way that the SON OF A *********
DID YOU. I really think that it had to be court order about child support and support for your mom. If this didn't take place,i don't think you have a leg to stand on. But in my book you deserve every last penny. A Friend.
Clowmy
Your mother should have been entitled to child support while you were a minor. I dont know if its possible for you to get any money from him, but I'm willing to bet your mom is eligable. I dont know where you live in Illinois, but if you live near Woodstock in McHenry county, there is an excellent lawyer with the last name Gitlin. I forgot his first name, but he is supposed to be one of the best out there. I think there is only one lawyer named Gitlin in woodstock.
I was 21 years old when I talked to my biological dad for the very first time, and it was over the phone, too. We ended up meeting in person about a month after that. The reason I called him was because I wanted to meet him and get to know him. I wanted to be able to talk to him and just basically have something I had never had before...a dad and daughter relationship. It never crossed my mind to ask him for any kind of money or anything.
Well, I don't know what I was expecting, but it didn't turn out anything like I wanted it to. If I would have stopped and thought about it first, then I never would have called him in the first place.
I want you to think about it long and hard before you decide to do anything about your dad. You're right to think that it was wrong that he went all that time and couldn't even support his own kid.
It takes a sorry piece of sh*t to make a baby and just take off without a backwards glance!
But you know something????%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;The way I see it is like this%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;I looked forward to meeting my dad %26amp; ended up meeting a man that did me a bigger favor than a lot of other ppl would do for me!....HE STAYED OUT OF MY LIFE!!!!!!!
God Bless!
i'm in the same situation..i'm gonna sue him for the back child support [over 100,000$]
Did your mom ever try to get child support from him? She might have a better chance of getting something from him financially than you do, Try contacting your local Child Support Enforcement Agency. It would be in the blue pages of your phone book. They can tell you all your local laws/restrictions/limitations, etc. They can also help you find a pro bono (free) lawyer in your area who would specialize in that sort of case. There might be a statute of limitations on this case, so time is of the essence. Good Luck... I went through something similar.
he should definatley have to pay ans far as a lawyer i cant help you there but yea the money is owed to you and your momcartridge scars
does anyone else here feel like i am entitled to the money he would have been paying in child support? initially i didnt want it but i feel like if he refusing to have any contact with me and myself(now) and my mother have taken care of me..... arent we owed that? he didnt want to be an actual father but he still was supposed to help support me, correct? do you feel it would be morally correct to sue him?
**if you do and you know of any good lawyers in Illinois please let me know.
peace and blessings to all
SakinaAny help or advice would be appreciated?
It wouldn't be incorrect to sue him. Just wish you hadn't waited so long. It can be done, Get yourself a lawyer that will take just a percentage of what you will initially get.
It won't make your father happy but you derserve something especially if he's treating you the way he is. He's gotten awway with enough all ready.
GODD LUCK!Any help or advice would be appreciated?
Dear Sakina,
I can imagine how you feel about your father.
I read from your profile that you are now a moslem girl as myself.
I belive that what you should do is to pray allah to forgive your father and try hard to get intouch with him again as mach as you can. Do not sue your father! Just try to forgive him no matter how many times he hangs up the phone and does not answer.
ok. #1 Did he sign the birth certificate or acknowledge paternity at any point in your life?
#2 Has he been reported to Illinois that he not given your mom child support for the last 18 yrs?
Ok, if he has acknowledged paternity, he should be listed as a deadbeat dad, or that he is behind 18 yrs in child support. I'm not sure how the law goes, but usually in Illinois, the child support enforcement keeps tabs on deadbeats. Not sure of any lawyers, but maybe you can contact the Illinois Department of Health and Human Services. On the website, they have listed numbers you can call to find out specific information. You may be able to obtain a lawyers name that can help you in your situation. Good Luck.
yes ,go for it .if your father has brought u in this world he should be responsible for you.best of luck .i hope u succeed.may god help u.
go get em
Hi Living, Am really sorry that your dad is a rotten BASTARD. No one needs to be treated the way that the SON OF A *********
DID YOU. I really think that it had to be court order about child support and support for your mom. If this didn't take place,i don't think you have a leg to stand on. But in my book you deserve every last penny. A Friend.
Clowmy
Your mother should have been entitled to child support while you were a minor. I dont know if its possible for you to get any money from him, but I'm willing to bet your mom is eligable. I dont know where you live in Illinois, but if you live near Woodstock in McHenry county, there is an excellent lawyer with the last name Gitlin. I forgot his first name, but he is supposed to be one of the best out there. I think there is only one lawyer named Gitlin in woodstock.
I was 21 years old when I talked to my biological dad for the very first time, and it was over the phone, too. We ended up meeting in person about a month after that. The reason I called him was because I wanted to meet him and get to know him. I wanted to be able to talk to him and just basically have something I had never had before...a dad and daughter relationship. It never crossed my mind to ask him for any kind of money or anything.
Well, I don't know what I was expecting, but it didn't turn out anything like I wanted it to. If I would have stopped and thought about it first, then I never would have called him in the first place.
I want you to think about it long and hard before you decide to do anything about your dad. You're right to think that it was wrong that he went all that time and couldn't even support his own kid.
It takes a sorry piece of sh*t to make a baby and just take off without a backwards glance!
But you know something????%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;The way I see it is like this%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;I looked forward to meeting my dad %26amp; ended up meeting a man that did me a bigger favor than a lot of other ppl would do for me!....HE STAYED OUT OF MY LIFE!!!!!!!
God Bless!
i'm in the same situation..i'm gonna sue him for the back child support [over 100,000$]
Did your mom ever try to get child support from him? She might have a better chance of getting something from him financially than you do, Try contacting your local Child Support Enforcement Agency. It would be in the blue pages of your phone book. They can tell you all your local laws/restrictions/limitations, etc. They can also help you find a pro bono (free) lawyer in your area who would specialize in that sort of case. There might be a statute of limitations on this case, so time is of the essence. Good Luck... I went through something similar.
he should definatley have to pay ans far as a lawyer i cant help you there but yea the money is owed to you and your mom
I'm scared I might be pregnant with a boy...advice?
I am pregnant with my first child and I have not found out the sex yet. I am scared it is a boy...not because I don't want a boy or hate boys...that's not it at all. I love this baby with all of my heart even though I'm not very far along...but my dad abandoned me and I was never close to any uncles or anybody and I never met my brother. I have five sisters...so I know all about girls. But I know nothing about boys and when I try to picture my baby as a boy I can't. I can picture bonding with a girl because I raised my last two sisters...when they were born I fed them bathed them changed their diapers because my mom was too depressed. But I have no experience with boys and I can't picture myself raising a son.
I will love my baby regardless, I know that, but I'm intimidated and scared. I can so easily picture bondign with a girl...but the boy thing is so unknown.
Has anyone else ever felt this way?I'm scared I might be pregnant with a boy...advice?
Your husband is a boy.I'm scared I might be pregnant with a boy...advice?
i think it will all come natural to you soon as u have the baby if its boy its just a momma thing but its crazy how it just all comes natural lil boys are sooo sweet. stop stressing about it it will all work out the way it is suppose to
NO!!!! You'll figure it out
a boy needs his mamma. You can teach him to be a wonderful person, and he will find a man figure.
Boys are easy, you will know what to do. Women have been to it for ages, no one get a guide book. Enjoy your boy or girl!
you're going to be a mom, and regardless of the sex, you're gonna be a good mom. And trust me, boys aren't that difficult. You'll be okay
no but im glad that you will love your baby regardless of their sex
nooo
I think your feelings are totally normal after reading some of your background history. Here is the thing, you will be fine.
Do you have a close guy friend who you can go to to ask questions? Or a good Girlfriend who has sons? If you do, then ask one of them if they will be your walking talking reference guide to doing things like Potty Training and such. I also think that if you have someone to go to to ask questions of, you won't feel so overwhelmed.
If you don't have any friends like I have described, then look for a good book about raising children, it can be a good reference guide.
Well obviously you need a guy to hav a baby so if its a boy it can bond with its dad!
I have never felt that way and it may be a bit different than you expected but as you raise your baby you will learn what to do so don't worry about it.
I am only 17, so I really have no idea
BUT
from what I have heard, it comes naturally.
You will bond with your boy, if it is a boy and you will love him, and be a good mum, people do it all the time.
You seem like you have family around for support also.
Good luck
and remember, it is a learning experience, and you will do well. :)
Hmm. Well, I never felt this way because I never got pregnant :] Well, you will know how to raise a son. You're probably just worried too much. Just don't worry.
Don't worry. As babies, girls and boys are basically the same except for their genitalia. As the baby grows up, you'll know what to do. Everyone has fears and doubts during pregnancy. You'll be fine.
When your baby arrives, whether it's a girl or boy, you will love him/her regardless of the sex. You'll see..
Meanwhile, don't worry about whether it's a boy or girl. This may be the perfect opportunity for you to learn that not all guys are the same, and maybe you'll love this little boy more than anyone in the entire world.
I'm sure it has happened before. In fact, I know a 17 year who just had a child, the dad left, she lives with her single mom, and she loves the baby more than anything. So, cheer up and try to be positive.
Good luck :)
get a Dionysian
just relax its a baby either way love is all you need. if you dont know about boys you will learn , girls and boys need the same thing, love, food , drink, sleep, and safety. plus if you have internet access well you can google everything!!
I was nervous to have a boy and when I went to my ultrasound it was a boy! I was kinda upset because I couldn't see myself with a boy. Now I am SO excited to have a boy. I know I can't see myself with one buy my husband pointed out all the great things about boys. I've asked him many questions about boys and asked women who have boys questions about their little boys. It's made me feel wonderful. Congrats!
Don't worry about it is my advice. You will do fine. Just remember that boys tend to be more attached to their mothers than girls. But they aren't as much as a fuss either. You won't have to spend tons of money on a boy, or at least you won't have to spend as much as you would if you were having a girl. My mom felt that way about my brother. But look at it this way, you've got a husband there to pull you through.
First of all Congrats... Yeah we are humans and it's quite normal to feel scared That's why it's called feelings as we don't have control over them..
You are scared bz, well u know you have given the answer yourself..
Trust me it will be fine, you will be a great mother!!! Child is gonna be yours and you won't even look at it as a boy or a girl.. IT'S A BABY MY BABY...
Good luck
Thread a needle, and lay down on your back. Have someone else hold the threaded needle over your stomach. Give it a second.If the needle spins in circles, it's a girl, if it rocks back and fourth, it's a boy. Don't be worried about anything. If it's a boy, just raise it with the knowledge of how yyou don't want him to be.
You're in my prayers and good luck! :]
Yeah, I have all sisters, too, so I was hoping for a girl! I have a few nephews, and I love them, but boy babies are kind of a scary thing! Good thing I had a girl, huh? But really, I think I would have been fine with either. You just have to learn about them as an individual and love them regardless of gender. You will be fine!
Don't worry about it.....boy or girl a first parent has so much to learn.....you'll be fine......
i've been around a lot of babies.. none of my own but you need to relax, the more stress you put yourself in, the more danger you put your baby in. once you have the baby, instincts will kick in. if it is a boy, you'll do fine for the first few years. once you hit four or so, that's when you should worry because his personality will kick in. have fun with him and don't be afraid, he'll sense that and worry to. Be comfortable and love your baby. Congratulations!
i have a sister too, but when i was 14 my mom had my little brother!
Let me tell you, boys are totally awesome! Boys and their mothers have special relationships! And they are way too much fun! I loved my little bro, he's the greatest!
And i was older when my mom had him, so i kinda helped raise him.
chill out! theres alot of books written about raising baby boys. go to your libary and your sure to find one. i never wanted to play with barbies and glitter so i was happy i had a boy to play with trucks and diggers. boys are louder than girls and most are alot faster but think of this if it is a boy as a fun challenge.
If the baby is a boy, bond with him. Just be happy and don't panic :)
No matter what you'll figure it out-
with boys you just have to give them their space- they're pretty independent... dont be insulted if he'd rather hang out w/ his friends- dont fuss over him too much %26amp; definitely put him in sports- where he can interact w/ plenty of other males %26amp; not feel like he is left out. It will be good- all kids are different anyway, you'll just have to pay attention to him- he'll let you know what is working %26amp; what isnt by his behavior. congrats btw, %26amp; best of luck-
That's exactly how I was. No experience with boys, and I REALLY wanted a girl. But it's a boy. I was disappointed, for a few days. But you have the perfect chance to raise a GOOD man, that doesn't treat women wrong or leave. You will bond with him, but it's not wrong to be a little sad if it's a boy. I cried in the ultrasound room, and my fiancee thought it meant I didn't love the baby. It's totally normal, my friends were mad when they found out they were having girls.
If it helps, I've also heard boys are easier to raise, and most boys take to their mothers, where girls will take to their fathers if they are around.
It took me awhile to get into it, but now I can't wait. I hope he looks just like his dad (who is awesome).
All I can tell you is that once the baby is born, it won't matter if it's a boy or a girl, you'll bond with it regardless. Just because you can't picture yourself doing it, doesn't mean you won't.
You sound kinda out of it lady.
I will love my baby regardless, I know that, but I'm intimidated and scared. I can so easily picture bondign with a girl...but the boy thing is so unknown.
Has anyone else ever felt this way?I'm scared I might be pregnant with a boy...advice?
Your husband is a boy.I'm scared I might be pregnant with a boy...advice?
i think it will all come natural to you soon as u have the baby if its boy its just a momma thing but its crazy how it just all comes natural lil boys are sooo sweet. stop stressing about it it will all work out the way it is suppose to
NO!!!! You'll figure it out
a boy needs his mamma. You can teach him to be a wonderful person, and he will find a man figure.
Boys are easy, you will know what to do. Women have been to it for ages, no one get a guide book. Enjoy your boy or girl!
you're going to be a mom, and regardless of the sex, you're gonna be a good mom. And trust me, boys aren't that difficult. You'll be okay
no but im glad that you will love your baby regardless of their sex
nooo
I think your feelings are totally normal after reading some of your background history. Here is the thing, you will be fine.
Do you have a close guy friend who you can go to to ask questions? Or a good Girlfriend who has sons? If you do, then ask one of them if they will be your walking talking reference guide to doing things like Potty Training and such. I also think that if you have someone to go to to ask questions of, you won't feel so overwhelmed.
If you don't have any friends like I have described, then look for a good book about raising children, it can be a good reference guide.
Well obviously you need a guy to hav a baby so if its a boy it can bond with its dad!
I have never felt that way and it may be a bit different than you expected but as you raise your baby you will learn what to do so don't worry about it.
I am only 17, so I really have no idea
BUT
from what I have heard, it comes naturally.
You will bond with your boy, if it is a boy and you will love him, and be a good mum, people do it all the time.
You seem like you have family around for support also.
Good luck
and remember, it is a learning experience, and you will do well. :)
Hmm. Well, I never felt this way because I never got pregnant :] Well, you will know how to raise a son. You're probably just worried too much. Just don't worry.
Don't worry. As babies, girls and boys are basically the same except for their genitalia. As the baby grows up, you'll know what to do. Everyone has fears and doubts during pregnancy. You'll be fine.
When your baby arrives, whether it's a girl or boy, you will love him/her regardless of the sex. You'll see..
Meanwhile, don't worry about whether it's a boy or girl. This may be the perfect opportunity for you to learn that not all guys are the same, and maybe you'll love this little boy more than anyone in the entire world.
I'm sure it has happened before. In fact, I know a 17 year who just had a child, the dad left, she lives with her single mom, and she loves the baby more than anything. So, cheer up and try to be positive.
Good luck :)
get a Dionysian
just relax its a baby either way love is all you need. if you dont know about boys you will learn , girls and boys need the same thing, love, food , drink, sleep, and safety. plus if you have internet access well you can google everything!!
I was nervous to have a boy and when I went to my ultrasound it was a boy! I was kinda upset because I couldn't see myself with a boy. Now I am SO excited to have a boy. I know I can't see myself with one buy my husband pointed out all the great things about boys. I've asked him many questions about boys and asked women who have boys questions about their little boys. It's made me feel wonderful. Congrats!
Don't worry about it is my advice. You will do fine. Just remember that boys tend to be more attached to their mothers than girls. But they aren't as much as a fuss either. You won't have to spend tons of money on a boy, or at least you won't have to spend as much as you would if you were having a girl. My mom felt that way about my brother. But look at it this way, you've got a husband there to pull you through.
First of all Congrats... Yeah we are humans and it's quite normal to feel scared That's why it's called feelings as we don't have control over them..
You are scared bz, well u know you have given the answer yourself..
Trust me it will be fine, you will be a great mother!!! Child is gonna be yours and you won't even look at it as a boy or a girl.. IT'S A BABY MY BABY...
Good luck
Thread a needle, and lay down on your back. Have someone else hold the threaded needle over your stomach. Give it a second.If the needle spins in circles, it's a girl, if it rocks back and fourth, it's a boy. Don't be worried about anything. If it's a boy, just raise it with the knowledge of how yyou don't want him to be.
You're in my prayers and good luck! :]
Yeah, I have all sisters, too, so I was hoping for a girl! I have a few nephews, and I love them, but boy babies are kind of a scary thing! Good thing I had a girl, huh? But really, I think I would have been fine with either. You just have to learn about them as an individual and love them regardless of gender. You will be fine!
Don't worry about it.....boy or girl a first parent has so much to learn.....you'll be fine......
i've been around a lot of babies.. none of my own but you need to relax, the more stress you put yourself in, the more danger you put your baby in. once you have the baby, instincts will kick in. if it is a boy, you'll do fine for the first few years. once you hit four or so, that's when you should worry because his personality will kick in. have fun with him and don't be afraid, he'll sense that and worry to. Be comfortable and love your baby. Congratulations!
i have a sister too, but when i was 14 my mom had my little brother!
Let me tell you, boys are totally awesome! Boys and their mothers have special relationships! And they are way too much fun! I loved my little bro, he's the greatest!
And i was older when my mom had him, so i kinda helped raise him.
chill out! theres alot of books written about raising baby boys. go to your libary and your sure to find one. i never wanted to play with barbies and glitter so i was happy i had a boy to play with trucks and diggers. boys are louder than girls and most are alot faster but think of this if it is a boy as a fun challenge.
If the baby is a boy, bond with him. Just be happy and don't panic :)
No matter what you'll figure it out-
with boys you just have to give them their space- they're pretty independent... dont be insulted if he'd rather hang out w/ his friends- dont fuss over him too much %26amp; definitely put him in sports- where he can interact w/ plenty of other males %26amp; not feel like he is left out. It will be good- all kids are different anyway, you'll just have to pay attention to him- he'll let you know what is working %26amp; what isnt by his behavior. congrats btw, %26amp; best of luck-
That's exactly how I was. No experience with boys, and I REALLY wanted a girl. But it's a boy. I was disappointed, for a few days. But you have the perfect chance to raise a GOOD man, that doesn't treat women wrong or leave. You will bond with him, but it's not wrong to be a little sad if it's a boy. I cried in the ultrasound room, and my fiancee thought it meant I didn't love the baby. It's totally normal, my friends were mad when they found out they were having girls.
If it helps, I've also heard boys are easier to raise, and most boys take to their mothers, where girls will take to their fathers if they are around.
It took me awhile to get into it, but now I can't wait. I hope he looks just like his dad (who is awesome).
All I can tell you is that once the baby is born, it won't matter if it's a boy or a girl, you'll bond with it regardless. Just because you can't picture yourself doing it, doesn't mean you won't.
You sound kinda out of it lady.
Is it okay to skip p90x recovery week, advice?
I am done my first 90 days by this friday, and will be beginning the second round on monday.
Do I need a recovery week before I start the 90 days over again.Is it okay to skip p90x recovery week, advice?
I would just to give your body a well deserved rest. You don't have to stay completely still though! Do other, easier exercises while you are waiting to start round two.Is it okay to skip p90x recovery week, advice?
No, recovery is just as important as the workout itself your body needs the time to rebuild torn muscles. If you over work them then you're just damaging them. The workouts involved with the recovery week are great and very beneficial to your body's healing. So no don't skip the recovery week.
dont skip it. when you rest that is when you gain the most muscle you dont gain muscle when your acutally working out. and your body will need the rest anyway. so i suggest not to skip it its not like it will hurt. just eat healthy when your not doing hte p90x tho.
Do I need a recovery week before I start the 90 days over again.Is it okay to skip p90x recovery week, advice?
I would just to give your body a well deserved rest. You don't have to stay completely still though! Do other, easier exercises while you are waiting to start round two.Is it okay to skip p90x recovery week, advice?
No, recovery is just as important as the workout itself your body needs the time to rebuild torn muscles. If you over work them then you're just damaging them. The workouts involved with the recovery week are great and very beneficial to your body's healing. So no don't skip the recovery week.
dont skip it. when you rest that is when you gain the most muscle you dont gain muscle when your acutally working out. and your body will need the rest anyway. so i suggest not to skip it its not like it will hurt. just eat healthy when your not doing hte p90x tho.
I've been called for an interview with a marketing company called Three Stars Media, any advice?
They sent me to their website (www.threestarsmedia.com) and it looks like a great place to work. I know all of the basic tips for interviewing, but does anyone know some extra special tips that might help put me over the top?I鈥檝e been called for an interview with a marketing company called Three Stars Media, any advice?
I just checked out the Web site and they seem like they love extracurricular activities. I'd maybe talk about that, like ask the interviewer about their sports programs. It looks like they have a flag football league, ask about their record.I鈥檝e been called for an interview with a marketing company called Three Stars Media, any advice?
Read the following links and judge for yourself:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_hfuC7IbVdE
http://www.phishbucket.org/main/content/view/3596/
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/User:Spelunkster/Scammer
http://www.aboutus.org/User:snagalot/ThreeStarsTeam.com
http://www.complaintsboard.com/complaints/three-stars-media-c177469.html
Read the comment ';My Three Stars SCAM experience';. RUN from this company !
Do you know where the company is? Like how to drive there? It may sound like a basic suggestion, but it's actually not. I had an interview once at an industrial plaza where there were hundreds of businesses in there. MapQuest got me to the building, but then inside the complex it was a confusing maze. Long story short, I was late for the interview. I suggest driving down to the building the day before, see where to park, see where the office is so you can be early for the interview.
I work in the marketing field and I think it is very important to bring samples of your work with you to an interview. I don't know what kind of position you are going for, but if you have any type of portfolio then definitely bring it! I went to the web site and the company looks really cool. Too bad I don't live in Florida or I would totally apply there haha.
Just remember to dress professionally, have a recent copy of your resume and show up with a smile on your face. Good luck
Do as much research as you can on their website. That should provide you with questions to ask. In addition to your own more personal questions. One question that seems to come up in interviews: ';where do you plan to be in five years?'; I suggest you offer an answer that implies that you would like to be with the same firm but at an appropriate level to your performance. Feel like you need to so both personal ambition and loyalty. Good luck.
I definitely suggest looking into their website so that you can get a feel for the company: what they do, what their main aims are. You want to be able to ask pertinent questions and show your interest. Also do a little bit of research into the media industry as well.
Hey, congrats! Definitely go prepared. Have a portfolio ready with previous work in case it's needed. Also, have questions ready! Companies love when you inquire about what the position entails - it shows that you're really interested.
Good luck!
Ask questions about their business, and then react off of that. Be very inquisitive about their history. Companies like that sort of thing.
So...what are the basic tips??? I am having trouble nailing interviews.
It does look like a fun company to work at! I don't know what else to tell you but good luck!
I just checked out the Web site and they seem like they love extracurricular activities. I'd maybe talk about that, like ask the interviewer about their sports programs. It looks like they have a flag football league, ask about their record.I鈥檝e been called for an interview with a marketing company called Three Stars Media, any advice?
Read the following links and judge for yourself:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_hfuC7IbVdE
http://www.phishbucket.org/main/content/view/3596/
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/User:Spelunkster/Scammer
http://www.aboutus.org/User:snagalot/ThreeStarsTeam.com
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http://www.complaintsboard.com/complaints/three-stars-media-c177469.html
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Do you know where the company is? Like how to drive there? It may sound like a basic suggestion, but it's actually not. I had an interview once at an industrial plaza where there were hundreds of businesses in there. MapQuest got me to the building, but then inside the complex it was a confusing maze. Long story short, I was late for the interview. I suggest driving down to the building the day before, see where to park, see where the office is so you can be early for the interview.
I work in the marketing field and I think it is very important to bring samples of your work with you to an interview. I don't know what kind of position you are going for, but if you have any type of portfolio then definitely bring it! I went to the web site and the company looks really cool. Too bad I don't live in Florida or I would totally apply there haha.
Just remember to dress professionally, have a recent copy of your resume and show up with a smile on your face. Good luck
Do as much research as you can on their website. That should provide you with questions to ask. In addition to your own more personal questions. One question that seems to come up in interviews: ';where do you plan to be in five years?'; I suggest you offer an answer that implies that you would like to be with the same firm but at an appropriate level to your performance. Feel like you need to so both personal ambition and loyalty. Good luck.
I definitely suggest looking into their website so that you can get a feel for the company: what they do, what their main aims are. You want to be able to ask pertinent questions and show your interest. Also do a little bit of research into the media industry as well.
Hey, congrats! Definitely go prepared. Have a portfolio ready with previous work in case it's needed. Also, have questions ready! Companies love when you inquire about what the position entails - it shows that you're really interested.
Good luck!
Ask questions about their business, and then react off of that. Be very inquisitive about their history. Companies like that sort of thing.
So...what are the basic tips??? I am having trouble nailing interviews.
It does look like a fun company to work at! I don't know what else to tell you but good luck!
I've been thinking about getting a breast augmentation, should I get silicone or saline? Any advice?
I have the choice of saline or silicone. My doctor gave me pros and cons for both but wanted some outside advice. Also does anyone have advice on what questions I should be asking my doctor?I've been thinking about getting a breast augmentation, should I get silicone or saline? Any advice?
Get neither. Keep it real.I've been thinking about getting a breast augmentation, should I get silicone or saline? Any advice?
I had my breast augmentation awhile ago and had salines put in. I love them. Smooth saline's are less likely to develope capsular contracture and are less costly, which is why I chose them. I haven't had any complants about the feel of mine, they're soft and feel natural unless I flex the muscles in my chest, but that's partly because I had them placed under the muscle.
I do recomend saline, they're less costly and easier to maintain (if you need size adjusted, the fill can be changed without having to get new implants).
Also, make this desicion for yourself. If you get implants, get them for you. You don't need to concern yourself with what other people will think. I've had people say they hate implants, others love them, and others don't really care.
If your ever critsized, just tell them when everyone else has to move their boobs to button their pants, yours will be right where they are now. They're like super boobs :)
I started http://www.NATURALBREASTSENHANCEMENT.INFO in December of 2007. By the time I went on break at the end of May 2008, I had grown from a 32A/B to a small 32C! My beginning cup size was closer to an A, but I refused to buy that size due to having one breast larger than the other. My breasts are now the same size and I am sitting at a 32C and enjoying every minute of it! I am completely satisfied with my progress! All of it by natural method, no painful surgery, pills or creams.
saline.. that's what I'm getting once i get mine done my doctor actually recommended it... and for people that do not get it.. I want mine done because it will help me feel better about my body... u have your preference we have ours!!!
Hormones control breast size and you can stimulate them by regular daily massage and nipple stimulation, and it's free!
Here's the bigger question. Will either really boost your self-confidence?
I say go with what genetics gave you.
Small breasts are hot, keep 'em the way they are.
saline is more natural to the body...that is if it breaks or ruptures
Get neither. Keep it real.I've been thinking about getting a breast augmentation, should I get silicone or saline? Any advice?
I had my breast augmentation awhile ago and had salines put in. I love them. Smooth saline's are less likely to develope capsular contracture and are less costly, which is why I chose them. I haven't had any complants about the feel of mine, they're soft and feel natural unless I flex the muscles in my chest, but that's partly because I had them placed under the muscle.
I do recomend saline, they're less costly and easier to maintain (if you need size adjusted, the fill can be changed without having to get new implants).
Also, make this desicion for yourself. If you get implants, get them for you. You don't need to concern yourself with what other people will think. I've had people say they hate implants, others love them, and others don't really care.
If your ever critsized, just tell them when everyone else has to move their boobs to button their pants, yours will be right where they are now. They're like super boobs :)
I started http://www.NATURALBREASTSENHANCEMENT.INFO in December of 2007. By the time I went on break at the end of May 2008, I had grown from a 32A/B to a small 32C! My beginning cup size was closer to an A, but I refused to buy that size due to having one breast larger than the other. My breasts are now the same size and I am sitting at a 32C and enjoying every minute of it! I am completely satisfied with my progress! All of it by natural method, no painful surgery, pills or creams.
saline.. that's what I'm getting once i get mine done my doctor actually recommended it... and for people that do not get it.. I want mine done because it will help me feel better about my body... u have your preference we have ours!!!
Hormones control breast size and you can stimulate them by regular daily massage and nipple stimulation, and it's free!
Here's the bigger question. Will either really boost your self-confidence?
I say go with what genetics gave you.
Small breasts are hot, keep 'em the way they are.
saline is more natural to the body...that is if it breaks or ruptures
I need some advice how long is it supposed to last? ( may be tmi)?
ok so yesterday i woke up and when i went to the bathroom i had really nasty bloody slime stuff in my underwear and when i wiped i was bleeding so i called my dr and she said to go to the ER so i did and they told me it was bloody show that it was ok and sent me home well for the rest of the day yesterday and all day today i have been having nasty bloody discharge and was wondering if its normal to still be having it or is this something more than bloody show?I need some advice how long is it supposed to last? ( may be tmi)?
How far along are you? If they say its just your bloody show, then I would say thats what it is. I would get worried if it becomes bright red or more like a period. But if it is kind of slimy and kind of resembles bloody snot, then I think you are fine for now.
Good luck!I need some advice how long is it supposed to last? ( may be tmi)?
I'd go into a different ER than you went into. They should be doing more then what they were doing. Bleeding during pregnancy is never good. And i don't know why your doctor is acting like it is fine. But yeah, go to a different doctor.
How far along are you? If they say its just your bloody show, then I would say thats what it is. I would get worried if it becomes bright red or more like a period. But if it is kind of slimy and kind of resembles bloody snot, then I think you are fine for now.
Good luck!I need some advice how long is it supposed to last? ( may be tmi)?
I'd go into a different ER than you went into. They should be doing more then what they were doing. Bleeding during pregnancy is never good. And i don't know why your doctor is acting like it is fine. But yeah, go to a different doctor.
If you could give your past-self 2 words of advice, what would they be?
Enjoy lifeIf you could give your past-self 2 words of advice, what would they be?
Fart and laugh.If you could give your past-self 2 words of advice, what would they be?
People won't respect you if you don't respect yourself
get over yourself
Be yourself!
Don't marry
Stop it!
in 1994, it would be: Buy Iomega.
keep on
Hang in.
Be Yourself.
l. Never get married.
2. Never have kids.
Chill Out
Swim Away!
Live fully!!!
GIDDY-UP!! Whoa!!!.....lol
easy bud
NO DRUGS
Why did you **** him why?????? was it because of the fancy car?????
be realistic.
if you're realistic, you're open minded, and it wouldnt be hard for you to understand things.
SLOW DOWN
say no (at least once in a while)
No excess.
Never saynever.....
don't f*ck!!!
I'll go further...I can narrow it down to ONE word.
WAIT.
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Master's Degree
control youself
Love Yourself! (really)
wear protectioncartridge scars
Fart and laugh.If you could give your past-self 2 words of advice, what would they be?
People won't respect you if you don't respect yourself
get over yourself
Be yourself!
Don't marry
Stop it!
in 1994, it would be: Buy Iomega.
keep on
Hang in.
Be Yourself.
l. Never get married.
2. Never have kids.
Chill Out
Swim Away!
Live fully!!!
GIDDY-UP!! Whoa!!!.....lol
easy bud
NO DRUGS
Why did you **** him why?????? was it because of the fancy car?????
be realistic.
if you're realistic, you're open minded, and it wouldnt be hard for you to understand things.
SLOW DOWN
say no (at least once in a while)
No excess.
Never saynever.....
don't f*ck!!!
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Master's Degree
control youself
Love Yourself! (really)
wear protection
Need Advice on Second Mortgage When First Is Foreclosed On?
My first mortgage was foreclosed on but the second continues to hound me (6 years later). They keep refiling every six months to keep themselves on my credit report. How long can they do that? I thought that they could only be on the report for 7 years total.Need Advice on Second Mortgage When First Is Foreclosed On?
Actually 7.5 years on the CREDIT reports but if the total is substantial expect that they may take it to court.
Check your states Statute of Limitations for COLLECTIONS.
IF they file suit and it is outside the SOL for COLLECTIONS you simply GO TO COURT when summonsed and tell the Judge sorry this is outside the SOL for COLLECTIONS and the case will be dropped.Need Advice on Second Mortgage When First Is Foreclosed On?
They will probably end up filing suit once it gets close to the 7 1/2 year limit. A judgement will then stay on for 10 years.
Actually 7.5 years on the CREDIT reports but if the total is substantial expect that they may take it to court.
Check your states Statute of Limitations for COLLECTIONS.
IF they file suit and it is outside the SOL for COLLECTIONS you simply GO TO COURT when summonsed and tell the Judge sorry this is outside the SOL for COLLECTIONS and the case will be dropped.Need Advice on Second Mortgage When First Is Foreclosed On?
They will probably end up filing suit once it gets close to the 7 1/2 year limit. A judgement will then stay on for 10 years.
My wife and I are looking to adopt a newborn baby, I am looking for helpful info and advice. ?
We cannot have children of our own and long to raise a family.
We are in our 30's, currently shopping for a home, married 3 years, own my own business, and full of love to give.My wife and I are looking to adopt a newborn baby, I am looking for helpful info and advice. ?
Dunno much about adoption, however my cousin was in the same situation with his wife. But they have very very strict rules with adoption. My cousin can not adopt because he exceeded the weight limit to adopt a child. So they ended up adopting a little boy from Russia, It is cheaper and a whole lot easier then adopting here. Good luck though!!My wife and I are looking to adopt a newborn baby, I am looking for helpful info and advice. ?
Try going over seas they are fairly cheap in japan and china. Even go around to a nearby adoption agency and adopt one. The older they are the cheaper they are. The younger they are the more expensive they will be.
I think adopting a newborn baby is a great idea! Actually my brother was an adopted newborn also. I have learned though that the process takes long but is definitely worth it!
best to ask in the adoption section, they are great there and will tell you everything you need to know and send you to all the right places ! good luck x
We are in our 30's, currently shopping for a home, married 3 years, own my own business, and full of love to give.My wife and I are looking to adopt a newborn baby, I am looking for helpful info and advice. ?
Dunno much about adoption, however my cousin was in the same situation with his wife. But they have very very strict rules with adoption. My cousin can not adopt because he exceeded the weight limit to adopt a child. So they ended up adopting a little boy from Russia, It is cheaper and a whole lot easier then adopting here. Good luck though!!My wife and I are looking to adopt a newborn baby, I am looking for helpful info and advice. ?
Try going over seas they are fairly cheap in japan and china. Even go around to a nearby adoption agency and adopt one. The older they are the cheaper they are. The younger they are the more expensive they will be.
I think adopting a newborn baby is a great idea! Actually my brother was an adopted newborn also. I have learned though that the process takes long but is definitely worth it!
best to ask in the adoption section, they are great there and will tell you everything you need to know and send you to all the right places ! good luck x
What is up with my ten year old son, Advice?
My ten year old has been acting very strange. He has started to wet the bed,he has started to well touch himself in public and no mater what we do to try and stop that it dose not work. It is like he goes into a trance and dose not even realize what he is doing. He has also been crying allot, and also having allot of fits of rage. My husband has had to restrain my son and so have i. We are not sure where this behavior is coming from, he has never acted like this before. I am not sure what to do, Advice?What is up with my ten year old son, Advice?
you all need to grow the hell up :)
Now anyways I think your son has been molested he has all of the obvious signs of it. Sit him down and talk to him but if that dose not work i would suggest talking him to his pediatrician and to a psychologist.
P.S People should not call others trolls without some proof because half the time the people calling others trolls tend to be the trolls :)What is up with my ten year old son, Advice?
All except for the crying, I know exactly what is going on with him. Its calling starting puberty. The crying needs to stop. That isn't normal for him to be crying. Touching himself in public isn't normal either. I just re-read your details and saw this. If he was in his room then he can go all out and touch himself all he wants, but he should not be doing it in out in public. For the most part though this sounds like the beginning to puberty. I'm surprised your husband hasn't latched on to this yet.
Your son might have gone through an experience where someone else touched him. He has some classic signs of that. I would talk to your son and try to get to the bottom of what is bothering him.
If that does not work, I would recommend taking him in to see a psychologist who may be able to help him.
Hmmm....The crying, the trance, the bedwetting and, the fits of rage, indirectly yet collectively, seem to suggest that something is going on at school. That is cause the wide scope of behavior you have described.
being a brat :P all boys do it.. :)
not getting enought attention hittin puberty and dosent care what he sleeps in haha
TROLL
umm.... OMG! maybe its an excorscism. haha jkjkjk. y dont u just ask him
you all need to grow the hell up :)
Now anyways I think your son has been molested he has all of the obvious signs of it. Sit him down and talk to him but if that dose not work i would suggest talking him to his pediatrician and to a psychologist.
P.S People should not call others trolls without some proof because half the time the people calling others trolls tend to be the trolls :)What is up with my ten year old son, Advice?
All except for the crying, I know exactly what is going on with him. Its calling starting puberty. The crying needs to stop. That isn't normal for him to be crying. Touching himself in public isn't normal either. I just re-read your details and saw this. If he was in his room then he can go all out and touch himself all he wants, but he should not be doing it in out in public. For the most part though this sounds like the beginning to puberty. I'm surprised your husband hasn't latched on to this yet.
Your son might have gone through an experience where someone else touched him. He has some classic signs of that. I would talk to your son and try to get to the bottom of what is bothering him.
If that does not work, I would recommend taking him in to see a psychologist who may be able to help him.
Hmmm....The crying, the trance, the bedwetting and, the fits of rage, indirectly yet collectively, seem to suggest that something is going on at school. That is cause the wide scope of behavior you have described.
being a brat :P all boys do it.. :)
not getting enought attention hittin puberty and dosent care what he sleeps in haha
TROLL
umm.... OMG! maybe its an excorscism. haha jkjkjk. y dont u just ask him
Im probably just being paranoid, but would like some advice?
Heya ladies, Im currently 8 weeks pregnant and last night I felt a pulling sensation in the middle of the lower abdomen, it lasted for about 5 minutes. Ive just had that feeling again it was very brief. I just went to the loo now and when I wiped there was some discharge that had a light brown tinge to it (sorry if TMI).
I just wanted to know if any other pregnant ladies experienced this and were okay, or is it something to worry about?
Thanks everyone!Im probably just being paranoid, but would like some advice?
hey hun, try not too worry its normal to feel like that.
I had alot of cramping at the start of my pregnancy, it was petty bad at the start and i was convinced it was something bad but everything is just fine, Im 19 weeks now. I still feel the odd twinge and get mild cramps if ive been walking alot.
Dont worry about light brown discharge aslong as the blood isnt bright red. Speak to your doctor though if your really concerned.
xxIm probably just being paranoid, but would like some advice?
It doesn't matter what advice we give, we don't know your medical history but I would contact your doctor and ask their advice - Long time ago I had that but doctor said it is when my next period would have been due (scans were just invented at that time) when my daughter was pregnant with her 2nd child she had bleeding like you and they done an internal scan to double check things, everything was ok, she had a lovely baby girl 4 weeks early 6lb 1oz 2 years ago
I had the same thing, the pulling / stretching pains. The OB said it was the uterus and the ligaments growing and stretching out. I also had spotting at 7 weeks (bright red) that lasted a full week, but thankfully all was fine. My daughter is completely healthy, though I was so scared at the time!
Didnt know you were 8 weeks as well!
Its weird ive felt this the past few days but thought nothing of it and assumed it was my dinner going down or because i was laying on my front?
im no expert but like the others say, its probably normal! i would check with the doc to be sure though. x
It is probably just normal cramps. I know when I was about that far along I had period like cramps. Also, brown blood is old blood. I wouldn't be worried unless it was bright red. Congrats on your pregnancy!
heya hunni,
that sfine hun u wil always get these pains now, i still do at 19w xx
if u get any more brown or it turns lighter see the dr but for a tiny spec i wouldnt worry xxx
hugs and love x
I just wanted to know if any other pregnant ladies experienced this and were okay, or is it something to worry about?
Thanks everyone!Im probably just being paranoid, but would like some advice?
hey hun, try not too worry its normal to feel like that.
I had alot of cramping at the start of my pregnancy, it was petty bad at the start and i was convinced it was something bad but everything is just fine, Im 19 weeks now. I still feel the odd twinge and get mild cramps if ive been walking alot.
Dont worry about light brown discharge aslong as the blood isnt bright red. Speak to your doctor though if your really concerned.
xxIm probably just being paranoid, but would like some advice?
It doesn't matter what advice we give, we don't know your medical history but I would contact your doctor and ask their advice - Long time ago I had that but doctor said it is when my next period would have been due (scans were just invented at that time) when my daughter was pregnant with her 2nd child she had bleeding like you and they done an internal scan to double check things, everything was ok, she had a lovely baby girl 4 weeks early 6lb 1oz 2 years ago
I had the same thing, the pulling / stretching pains. The OB said it was the uterus and the ligaments growing and stretching out. I also had spotting at 7 weeks (bright red) that lasted a full week, but thankfully all was fine. My daughter is completely healthy, though I was so scared at the time!
Didnt know you were 8 weeks as well!
Its weird ive felt this the past few days but thought nothing of it and assumed it was my dinner going down or because i was laying on my front?
im no expert but like the others say, its probably normal! i would check with the doc to be sure though. x
It is probably just normal cramps. I know when I was about that far along I had period like cramps. Also, brown blood is old blood. I wouldn't be worried unless it was bright red. Congrats on your pregnancy!
heya hunni,
that sfine hun u wil always get these pains now, i still do at 19w xx
if u get any more brown or it turns lighter see the dr but for a tiny spec i wouldnt worry xxx
hugs and love x
I am going to be seperating from my husband of almost six years and am scared to start over any advice?
We have been together for seven years and married for almost six- we are still going to remain friends and I am waiting until after the holidays to make it easier on our two children before I look for a job and a new place but I am wondering where to start, what to do, Am I ever going to find THE ONE???? I guess I am just very SCAED!!!! I have never been on my own- I went from home to him and then to kids and now we are leaving eachother- HELP!!!I am going to be seperating from my husband of almost six years and am scared to start over any advice?
Oh my god, that sounds like ME! I had only one child though. Be careful. You may want to remain friends, but that may not be possible. I am only speaking from my own experience and hope yours will be different.
Of course you will find the ONE! You know even though you are separating from your husband does not mean that you were not meant to be with him for those 7 years!
I`m sure you have learned a lot and been through a lot! You are much stronger than you think. I hope for everyone`s sake that you guys will get along for the children's sake. I`m sure you will meet someone who is right for you AND the kids.
Good luck with everything.I am going to be seperating from my husband of almost six years and am scared to start over any advice?
I understand. I just starting living on my own with my daughter, first time EVER being alone. I left my ex in February after 6 years. Yes, it's scary and takes getting used to. Dont worry about finding the one right now.... don't rush into anything. Try and cherish your freedom and independence, and be a great role model for your kids.
concentrate on kids, job and home. you works on these things then you will be alright. try to stay single for awhile til your in the right frame of mind.
the bes thing is to just get out there and do it u will find it easy once u have experienced it, its hard getting divorced but u just got to do it, take it one day at a time focus on your kids and go on with your life go to work go out and enjoy life.lol
my parents were married for about 10 years then divorced and got back together and so on. i know it may hurt u alot, but just try to go on a d8 if someone asks u. then see how u feel. if u dont feel ready, then dont go on a d8 again for a while til u feel u r ready. u will know when u r ready. just dont let ur emotions get to u. just talk to ur kids about how they would feel if u go on a d8. they would really appriciate it if they are old enough to understand.
Tough situation to be in, especially with children. If you can remain on good terms it is easier for the kids. You just have to go out and start applying at any job you are qualified for. If you do not have any job skills I suggest you get some schooling. Maybe even go to Beauty School. Hairdressers make good money and can set their hours for when their kids are in school. You don't say why you are separating but you should think about staying close to your ex so the kids still have their father in their lives. Good Luck and God Bless.
It's natural to be scared. Just take care of yourself and your kids first and foremost. Don't make the mistake of thinking that the next guy that comes along will be ';the one'; because chances are, he won't be. Don't dive headlong into something new when you're just getting out of a long relationship. It will be tempting, when you start dating again, but take things slow. If you find you need help with the kids, or just need some time for yourself, don't be afraid to ask for it. Divorce is stressful, to say the least. Good luck with your new future!
If you feel in your heart that there is a chance for you and your husband in the ';future'; to reconcile then you do not date even if he does you keep yourself only for your husband he will have the utmost respect for you and will run back to you BUT in the meantime you watch,read or listen to ANYTHING concerning how to SAVE a marriage how to be a Godly wife and I promise you this if your heart is in the right place you will win your husband back but you have to stay STRONG and let him go.....I would also suggest you join a gym get yourself back into shape (after having children our bodies do not seem to bounce back to prebaby stage for most of us anyways) if you do this it will bring a smile upon yourself and it will bring an attraction to your husband of the way it used to be between the two of you in the beginning...I will pray for you! you do have God's favor and that alone will give you the strength to endure!
You are a woman and much stronger than you dare imagine!
First of all make sure this is what both of you want. Make sure that you two have'nt just gotten yourself in a rut of some kind. Its sad that marriage does'nt seem to work out anymore for anybody, but if this is what you must do, take time, and make sure the two of you sit down with your children and talk to them about whats going on, and make sure they know it is not there fault.
good luck and godbless.
I can understand your anxious about the future since it's going to be a big change in your life. Just take it one step at a time. Sometimes you have to crawl before you can walk and walk before you can run. Find a job you can live with and an apartment you can afford. Don't worry now about finding ';the one
Give yourself a break from mine and get to know yourself on your own, alone, before you get involved in some rebound relationship.
Believe in yourself. Good luck.
STDs are rampant. Before having sex, make sure your guy is tested for HIV and Herpes. For men, there is no medical test available for the newer STD HPV. For men, the HPV test is only available in scientific studies. If you are 26 years old or under, you many be able to get an HPV vaccine that protects you against the worst strains of HPV.
I am so sorry to hear that, i read all the answers that people have given you cause i didnt really know how to answer or to say anything that would make your day feel at ease a little but i agree with Julie. Take it easy and good luck
Oh my god, that sounds like ME! I had only one child though. Be careful. You may want to remain friends, but that may not be possible. I am only speaking from my own experience and hope yours will be different.
Of course you will find the ONE! You know even though you are separating from your husband does not mean that you were not meant to be with him for those 7 years!
I`m sure you have learned a lot and been through a lot! You are much stronger than you think. I hope for everyone`s sake that you guys will get along for the children's sake. I`m sure you will meet someone who is right for you AND the kids.
Good luck with everything.I am going to be seperating from my husband of almost six years and am scared to start over any advice?
I understand. I just starting living on my own with my daughter, first time EVER being alone. I left my ex in February after 6 years. Yes, it's scary and takes getting used to. Dont worry about finding the one right now.... don't rush into anything. Try and cherish your freedom and independence, and be a great role model for your kids.
concentrate on kids, job and home. you works on these things then you will be alright. try to stay single for awhile til your in the right frame of mind.
the bes thing is to just get out there and do it u will find it easy once u have experienced it, its hard getting divorced but u just got to do it, take it one day at a time focus on your kids and go on with your life go to work go out and enjoy life.lol
my parents were married for about 10 years then divorced and got back together and so on. i know it may hurt u alot, but just try to go on a d8 if someone asks u. then see how u feel. if u dont feel ready, then dont go on a d8 again for a while til u feel u r ready. u will know when u r ready. just dont let ur emotions get to u. just talk to ur kids about how they would feel if u go on a d8. they would really appriciate it if they are old enough to understand.
Tough situation to be in, especially with children. If you can remain on good terms it is easier for the kids. You just have to go out and start applying at any job you are qualified for. If you do not have any job skills I suggest you get some schooling. Maybe even go to Beauty School. Hairdressers make good money and can set their hours for when their kids are in school. You don't say why you are separating but you should think about staying close to your ex so the kids still have their father in their lives. Good Luck and God Bless.
It's natural to be scared. Just take care of yourself and your kids first and foremost. Don't make the mistake of thinking that the next guy that comes along will be ';the one'; because chances are, he won't be. Don't dive headlong into something new when you're just getting out of a long relationship. It will be tempting, when you start dating again, but take things slow. If you find you need help with the kids, or just need some time for yourself, don't be afraid to ask for it. Divorce is stressful, to say the least. Good luck with your new future!
If you feel in your heart that there is a chance for you and your husband in the ';future'; to reconcile then you do not date even if he does you keep yourself only for your husband he will have the utmost respect for you and will run back to you BUT in the meantime you watch,read or listen to ANYTHING concerning how to SAVE a marriage how to be a Godly wife and I promise you this if your heart is in the right place you will win your husband back but you have to stay STRONG and let him go.....I would also suggest you join a gym get yourself back into shape (after having children our bodies do not seem to bounce back to prebaby stage for most of us anyways) if you do this it will bring a smile upon yourself and it will bring an attraction to your husband of the way it used to be between the two of you in the beginning...I will pray for you! you do have God's favor and that alone will give you the strength to endure!
You are a woman and much stronger than you dare imagine!
First of all make sure this is what both of you want. Make sure that you two have'nt just gotten yourself in a rut of some kind. Its sad that marriage does'nt seem to work out anymore for anybody, but if this is what you must do, take time, and make sure the two of you sit down with your children and talk to them about whats going on, and make sure they know it is not there fault.
good luck and godbless.
I can understand your anxious about the future since it's going to be a big change in your life. Just take it one step at a time. Sometimes you have to crawl before you can walk and walk before you can run. Find a job you can live with and an apartment you can afford. Don't worry now about finding ';the one
Give yourself a break from mine and get to know yourself on your own, alone, before you get involved in some rebound relationship.
Believe in yourself. Good luck.
STDs are rampant. Before having sex, make sure your guy is tested for HIV and Herpes. For men, there is no medical test available for the newer STD HPV. For men, the HPV test is only available in scientific studies. If you are 26 years old or under, you many be able to get an HPV vaccine that protects you against the worst strains of HPV.
I am so sorry to hear that, i read all the answers that people have given you cause i didnt really know how to answer or to say anything that would make your day feel at ease a little but i agree with Julie. Take it easy and good luck
My puppy is crazy and wild and i need advice ive tried to use my own and it doesnt work?
he is a pit bull black lab mix. he still does his business in the house at night. he cant wait till morning. he refuses to keep his paws down and everytime you go to pet him he puts his paw up so you can pet him on the head. he is hyper and he chews everything. he jumps on everyone and scratches them. he wont listen when you tell him to get down and he basically doesnt like to listen at all.
when i take him for walks he refuses to heal(walk slowly no pulling) and he rips and pulls me as i walk him. when we are walking it is like he is in a zone and doesnt kno im there. what can i do to help him.
sadly i cant take him to training right now.My puppy is crazy and wild and i need advice ive tried to use my own and it doesnt work?
Try watching the dog whisperer...a lot of times he works with disobedient dogs, and shows their owners how to manage them.My puppy is crazy and wild and i need advice ive tried to use my own and it doesnt work?
It depens on how old he is. You can't excpect a very young puppy to be completly housebroken, but if he is old enough, you need to make sure he goes potty before bed and as SOON as you get up. Get him into a habit. And you don't need to take him to training, do it yourself. Dogs are a lot smarter then we give them credit for. It just takes repitition and praise for a job well done. I don't know about the pitbull side but I have 3 labs and they learned very quickly it just took spending the time to teach them. Also, we watched the dog whisperer a lot. I know it sounds corny, but some of his stuff really works!! Especially the walking stuff. I can walk my 120lb, 90lb, and 40lb lab all together, and I weigh about 130! (And yes, I know they are overweight!)
Anyway, it's going to take some work and time on your part to train your pup. Be patient, if you train him well know, when he does grow out of the puppy stages (usually about 2 yrs for that size dog) he will be a great, trained dog.
Oh, and that's another thing, when my two boys turned two it was like night and day, one day they were eating the couch and the next day they were SO much calmer! I don't know what it was... must be puberty!
The business part will be easy.When I got my new puppy(JRT/MIX)I was determined to not have a dog that had accidents.I got him a pet taxi,just a little bigger than him.I brought him home in it.Then left him in it about 30 mins when we got home.Took him outside and said outside.he walked around for a while then went.I rewarded with a good boy and we went inside ,back to taxi(he was scared)I left it open for him.Every 2 hours out we went to same spot.Never any trouble.He goes to bed in the taxi now,at first I locked it up and took him out every 3 hours,Now he's 7 months and good to go.Give it a try,remember they have to run and play and chew.Buy him toys and when he chews anything else get his attention and give him his toy.He will remember the toys and the no chews.hope this helps.
First thing first, get a crate and put him in it at night and anytime he is alone. Crate training is one of the best ways to house break a dog. Second, you didnt say how old he was, but start looking for basic obedience training classes. Do some research on the web or go to the Library and look for books on training that you can do, and FOLLOW THE ADVICE!!! Don't try training for one day or two then say he can't learn. He can, but you need to be persistant.
1. Buy a crate and crate train for housebreaking. The crate will also help relieve you of the chewing and jumping issues.
2. Train that dog NOW. http://www.leerburg.com You could not take that dog to training classes as it behaves now anyway - so start on your own and remember dogs have only about a 10 minute tolerance for training so you need to do it bit by bit everyday!
There are lots of places on the internet which will help you learn how to train your animal. It won't cost you a dollar. You better teach that dog who's boss now before it's bigger than you.
Your dog should be walking either beside you or BEHIND you when you're walking. He should NEVER be in the lead. He should not go through gates or doors before you. He should not be on the furniture. Teach him NOW!
You and your puppy need to find a good training school or trainer -- they can help you with your problems. His behavior is very typical of his breed(s) and most likely age. He needs consistent training. Sometimes you can use books from the library and follow the directions in them.
If you cannot take him to training school, then maybe a private lesson or two would help. You don't say how old your puppy is, or whether or not he is neutered -- puppies are often busy and bossy.
I would use a crate at night and whenever you are not home -- he will learn to be house broken much more quickly using a crate and he will be safe from chewing things (such as electrical cords) that could hurt him.
If you can't take him to training then buy a Gentle Lead collar and try him with that.
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when i take him for walks he refuses to heal(walk slowly no pulling) and he rips and pulls me as i walk him. when we are walking it is like he is in a zone and doesnt kno im there. what can i do to help him.
sadly i cant take him to training right now.My puppy is crazy and wild and i need advice ive tried to use my own and it doesnt work?
Try watching the dog whisperer...a lot of times he works with disobedient dogs, and shows their owners how to manage them.My puppy is crazy and wild and i need advice ive tried to use my own and it doesnt work?
It depens on how old he is. You can't excpect a very young puppy to be completly housebroken, but if he is old enough, you need to make sure he goes potty before bed and as SOON as you get up. Get him into a habit. And you don't need to take him to training, do it yourself. Dogs are a lot smarter then we give them credit for. It just takes repitition and praise for a job well done. I don't know about the pitbull side but I have 3 labs and they learned very quickly it just took spending the time to teach them. Also, we watched the dog whisperer a lot. I know it sounds corny, but some of his stuff really works!! Especially the walking stuff. I can walk my 120lb, 90lb, and 40lb lab all together, and I weigh about 130! (And yes, I know they are overweight!)
Anyway, it's going to take some work and time on your part to train your pup. Be patient, if you train him well know, when he does grow out of the puppy stages (usually about 2 yrs for that size dog) he will be a great, trained dog.
Oh, and that's another thing, when my two boys turned two it was like night and day, one day they were eating the couch and the next day they were SO much calmer! I don't know what it was... must be puberty!
The business part will be easy.When I got my new puppy(JRT/MIX)I was determined to not have a dog that had accidents.I got him a pet taxi,just a little bigger than him.I brought him home in it.Then left him in it about 30 mins when we got home.Took him outside and said outside.he walked around for a while then went.I rewarded with a good boy and we went inside ,back to taxi(he was scared)I left it open for him.Every 2 hours out we went to same spot.Never any trouble.He goes to bed in the taxi now,at first I locked it up and took him out every 3 hours,Now he's 7 months and good to go.Give it a try,remember they have to run and play and chew.Buy him toys and when he chews anything else get his attention and give him his toy.He will remember the toys and the no chews.hope this helps.
First thing first, get a crate and put him in it at night and anytime he is alone. Crate training is one of the best ways to house break a dog. Second, you didnt say how old he was, but start looking for basic obedience training classes. Do some research on the web or go to the Library and look for books on training that you can do, and FOLLOW THE ADVICE!!! Don't try training for one day or two then say he can't learn. He can, but you need to be persistant.
1. Buy a crate and crate train for housebreaking. The crate will also help relieve you of the chewing and jumping issues.
2. Train that dog NOW. http://www.leerburg.com You could not take that dog to training classes as it behaves now anyway - so start on your own and remember dogs have only about a 10 minute tolerance for training so you need to do it bit by bit everyday!
There are lots of places on the internet which will help you learn how to train your animal. It won't cost you a dollar. You better teach that dog who's boss now before it's bigger than you.
Your dog should be walking either beside you or BEHIND you when you're walking. He should NEVER be in the lead. He should not go through gates or doors before you. He should not be on the furniture. Teach him NOW!
You and your puppy need to find a good training school or trainer -- they can help you with your problems. His behavior is very typical of his breed(s) and most likely age. He needs consistent training. Sometimes you can use books from the library and follow the directions in them.
If you cannot take him to training school, then maybe a private lesson or two would help. You don't say how old your puppy is, or whether or not he is neutered -- puppies are often busy and bossy.
I would use a crate at night and whenever you are not home -- he will learn to be house broken much more quickly using a crate and he will be safe from chewing things (such as electrical cords) that could hurt him.
If you can't take him to training then buy a Gentle Lead collar and try him with that.
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I tried restoring system and nothing happened, Is there anything else to try? Thank you for your advice?
I got some advice on restoring the system to previous date by two days and nothing changed still could no get the volume panel back. Desperately seeking help, but appreciative of previous advice.I tried restoring system and nothing happened, Is there anything else to try? Thank you for your advice?
Are you talking the Sound Control in the task bar?
You may actually want to try reinstalling it from your WinXP CD.
Your answer lies here:
http://www.velocityreviews.com/forums/t1鈥?/a>I tried restoring system and nothing happened, Is there anything else to try? Thank you for your advice?
Try going back a month.
If you have still got the original installation disc, run that, but select the ''repair'' option, that way all of the stuff you have on your HDD will be safe, just any problems with the windows settings will be rectified.
Hope that helps.
ur OS files may b corrupted repaire them using ur OS disc...
or it could b a virus/spyware
Are you talking the Sound Control in the task bar?
You may actually want to try reinstalling it from your WinXP CD.
Your answer lies here:
http://www.velocityreviews.com/forums/t1鈥?/a>I tried restoring system and nothing happened, Is there anything else to try? Thank you for your advice?
Try going back a month.
If you have still got the original installation disc, run that, but select the ''repair'' option, that way all of the stuff you have on your HDD will be safe, just any problems with the windows settings will be rectified.
Hope that helps.
ur OS files may b corrupted repaire them using ur OS disc...
or it could b a virus/spyware
Are there any animal psychologists out there with some advice about my violent cat?
I have a 4 year old neutered male cat, I rescued him when he was 1, he had been living wild. He is a wonderful, playful cat, but he will stalk me about the house, run up and bite me on the leg or foot. I tell him, loudly no! bad cat! but he keeps doing it...any suggestions?Are there any animal psychologists out there with some advice about my violent cat?
He is playing cat and mouse you are the mouse. My brother's cat did that but stopped when they got a dog she didn't like. Now another cat moved in and the first lives under the bed.Are there any animal psychologists out there with some advice about my violent cat?
As other posters said, your cat is having fun, and he's not going to stop doing it unless he no longer is rewarded.
If you can predict when he does, it will go a lot faster than if react after he attacks. You could put him in a collar with a bell on it, it will be annoying for a few days, but it will let you know where he is at all times.
So if you can predict when he will attack, Preempt him. When you hear him charge, turn around and charge back. Or quickly scoop him up and hold him close to you, when he starts struggling, hold for a few seconds more and put him down. You don't want to scare him, just annoy him so he stops. Don't do anything that you think will scare him. You can even divert him with a toy thrown away from you. Just remember, timing is everything, and you need to stop him before he gets rewarded (the satisfaction of jumping on you) or else this won't work. You also need to be consistant and stop him every single time. Let him through once, and it reinforces that he needs to try harder to get you.
If you can't predict when he will charge, you will have to punish after the fact. Immediately after he gets you, pick him up and hold him close for a few seconds, enough so he gets annoyed, or you can do kitty time out, where he gets locked in a room for a few minutes. It will take much longer to train. I wouldn't yell, it will just encourage him, but going this route means it takes a lot longer for your cat to understand the punishment is linked to pouncing on you.
Good luck!
It definitely sounds like your cat is playing with you. Have you tried providing toys that you cat can hunt and attack instead of you? Have you tried using water spray bottles before an attack? If you can identify when your cat is about to attack you use a sprits of water immediately at the first sign of attack. If you can catch your cat before it attacks it could be very effective. While enforcing the spray bottle for negative behavior make sure to also reward your cat when it is being calm and relaxing with you to reinforce that this type of behavior is good.
Back on the topic of toys, you may want to invest in different types of toys so that your cat might attack the toys over you. Toys that move, hand or bounce around are good. My cat really likes to attack smaller catnip toys that I got from Petsmart. He鈥檚 also in love with attacking a shiny gold gift ribbon.
Also, I鈥檓 not sure who you live with, but you鈥檒l want to make sure that no one is play fighting with your cat. Play fighting with a cat reinforces that the aggressive behavior is OK and is actually doing more harm than good 鈥?especially when you鈥檙e trying to teach that it is not OK.
I have a cat from the local Animal Control. She had been there for months, evidently because of running up to people and scratching the back of the knee. She always wants something when she does this. Hiss at him when he stalks.
Make sure you play with him often when he isn't stalking. I think this a cat with lots of prey drive/playfulness. It is a social animal that has bad manners.
Our attack kitty would attack the dogs and go for the eyes or the boys' groins. Very bad, mean girl! She almost never attacks anymore unless we haven't gotten her more food and she has asked politely.
Be consistent and give it time!
well im not a psychologist but ill still try to help you out! :) If you see him stalking you, turn around and say no very sternly, dont yell though. If he bites you, spray him with a little bottle when ever he does this. Eventually he will learn that he gets sprayed when he bites.
He's just trying to play. Mine does the same. I don't mind it.
I'm not for physical reprimanding or ';the water spraying'; technique so...
I recommend wearing thick pants.
Or when you see him stalking...run up to him before he does to you. He'll most likely run away.
cry out REALLY loud in pain, even if it doesn't hurt.Your cat is trying to play so I would play with him more often, 15 mins at a time at least.
It definitely sounds like he is playing with you. Most cats are reluctant to stop a behavior that they enjoy, especially one that they have been doing for a long time. Have you tried carrying a spray bottle of water and squirting him when he does this? It doesn't hurt them but most cats hate it. If you are consistent with him he may stop. If you shake your foot a lot he will probably just think you are playing back. Most animals think that quick movement is either threatening or playful so maybe when he's attacking you stay still. Or if you see him stalking you you could stop moving around for a while until he gets bored or go sit down somewhere. Most cats that I have had experience with have had no concept of the word NO and bad cat meant nothing to them. Try hissing loudly with your tongue just to get his attention. If it is an obsessive thing a loud noise a lot of times will break his concentration and shift his focus. Good luck! Hope something there helps
Make sure you play with him for at least 15 minutes per day. Otherwise they will get bored and make up games of their own, (like this).
Don't assume automatically that cats that bite are vicious creatures. You must distinct between play-biting and real aggressive biting. Kittens for example like to play, and sometimes pretty rough. They use their claws and teeth to wrestle with each other. This is how they learn to hunt and catch prey, so that鈥檚 normal. They usually go unharmed because their fur protects them from serious wounds. However, human skin is a different story, but kittens don't know that.
When you stroke your kitten it can take it as an invitation to play and clasps your hand and bites. That might hurt a little but is generally nothing to worry about. Some cats make a sport out of leg biting. They jump up on you and dig in. Research has show that it鈥檚 a sort of unsatisfied hunting and prey instinct and lack of activity.
- Teach your kitten from an early age that hands are for feeding and stroking and NOT a toy!
- Avoid playing with your bare hands
- Use a fluffy toy or a feather on a string instead
- In case it grabs your hand, draw it away slowly and do NOT punish your cat, it will understand it as an attack and make matters worse.
- Anytime your cat scratches or bites you, make a loud yowling sound to show that you have been hurt, (even if you really aren鈥檛 hurt). Your cat will understand.
- If your cat is a ';leg biter'; try to spend more time playing with it and redirect its attack to a toy. Leave toys lying around so that he can also amuse itself, particular when you keep your cat indoors. Cats need a wide variety of toys to keep them interested, so don鈥檛 expect a couple toy mice to help.
He is playing cat and mouse you are the mouse. My brother's cat did that but stopped when they got a dog she didn't like. Now another cat moved in and the first lives under the bed.Are there any animal psychologists out there with some advice about my violent cat?
As other posters said, your cat is having fun, and he's not going to stop doing it unless he no longer is rewarded.
If you can predict when he does, it will go a lot faster than if react after he attacks. You could put him in a collar with a bell on it, it will be annoying for a few days, but it will let you know where he is at all times.
So if you can predict when he will attack, Preempt him. When you hear him charge, turn around and charge back. Or quickly scoop him up and hold him close to you, when he starts struggling, hold for a few seconds more and put him down. You don't want to scare him, just annoy him so he stops. Don't do anything that you think will scare him. You can even divert him with a toy thrown away from you. Just remember, timing is everything, and you need to stop him before he gets rewarded (the satisfaction of jumping on you) or else this won't work. You also need to be consistant and stop him every single time. Let him through once, and it reinforces that he needs to try harder to get you.
If you can't predict when he will charge, you will have to punish after the fact. Immediately after he gets you, pick him up and hold him close for a few seconds, enough so he gets annoyed, or you can do kitty time out, where he gets locked in a room for a few minutes. It will take much longer to train. I wouldn't yell, it will just encourage him, but going this route means it takes a lot longer for your cat to understand the punishment is linked to pouncing on you.
Good luck!
It definitely sounds like your cat is playing with you. Have you tried providing toys that you cat can hunt and attack instead of you? Have you tried using water spray bottles before an attack? If you can identify when your cat is about to attack you use a sprits of water immediately at the first sign of attack. If you can catch your cat before it attacks it could be very effective. While enforcing the spray bottle for negative behavior make sure to also reward your cat when it is being calm and relaxing with you to reinforce that this type of behavior is good.
Back on the topic of toys, you may want to invest in different types of toys so that your cat might attack the toys over you. Toys that move, hand or bounce around are good. My cat really likes to attack smaller catnip toys that I got from Petsmart. He鈥檚 also in love with attacking a shiny gold gift ribbon.
Also, I鈥檓 not sure who you live with, but you鈥檒l want to make sure that no one is play fighting with your cat. Play fighting with a cat reinforces that the aggressive behavior is OK and is actually doing more harm than good 鈥?especially when you鈥檙e trying to teach that it is not OK.
I have a cat from the local Animal Control. She had been there for months, evidently because of running up to people and scratching the back of the knee. She always wants something when she does this. Hiss at him when he stalks.
Make sure you play with him often when he isn't stalking. I think this a cat with lots of prey drive/playfulness. It is a social animal that has bad manners.
Our attack kitty would attack the dogs and go for the eyes or the boys' groins. Very bad, mean girl! She almost never attacks anymore unless we haven't gotten her more food and she has asked politely.
Be consistent and give it time!
well im not a psychologist but ill still try to help you out! :) If you see him stalking you, turn around and say no very sternly, dont yell though. If he bites you, spray him with a little bottle when ever he does this. Eventually he will learn that he gets sprayed when he bites.
He's just trying to play. Mine does the same. I don't mind it.
I'm not for physical reprimanding or ';the water spraying'; technique so...
I recommend wearing thick pants.
Or when you see him stalking...run up to him before he does to you. He'll most likely run away.
cry out REALLY loud in pain, even if it doesn't hurt.Your cat is trying to play so I would play with him more often, 15 mins at a time at least.
It definitely sounds like he is playing with you. Most cats are reluctant to stop a behavior that they enjoy, especially one that they have been doing for a long time. Have you tried carrying a spray bottle of water and squirting him when he does this? It doesn't hurt them but most cats hate it. If you are consistent with him he may stop. If you shake your foot a lot he will probably just think you are playing back. Most animals think that quick movement is either threatening or playful so maybe when he's attacking you stay still. Or if you see him stalking you you could stop moving around for a while until he gets bored or go sit down somewhere. Most cats that I have had experience with have had no concept of the word NO and bad cat meant nothing to them. Try hissing loudly with your tongue just to get his attention. If it is an obsessive thing a loud noise a lot of times will break his concentration and shift his focus. Good luck! Hope something there helps
Make sure you play with him for at least 15 minutes per day. Otherwise they will get bored and make up games of their own, (like this).
Don't assume automatically that cats that bite are vicious creatures. You must distinct between play-biting and real aggressive biting. Kittens for example like to play, and sometimes pretty rough. They use their claws and teeth to wrestle with each other. This is how they learn to hunt and catch prey, so that鈥檚 normal. They usually go unharmed because their fur protects them from serious wounds. However, human skin is a different story, but kittens don't know that.
When you stroke your kitten it can take it as an invitation to play and clasps your hand and bites. That might hurt a little but is generally nothing to worry about. Some cats make a sport out of leg biting. They jump up on you and dig in. Research has show that it鈥檚 a sort of unsatisfied hunting and prey instinct and lack of activity.
- Teach your kitten from an early age that hands are for feeding and stroking and NOT a toy!
- Avoid playing with your bare hands
- Use a fluffy toy or a feather on a string instead
- In case it grabs your hand, draw it away slowly and do NOT punish your cat, it will understand it as an attack and make matters worse.
- Anytime your cat scratches or bites you, make a loud yowling sound to show that you have been hurt, (even if you really aren鈥檛 hurt). Your cat will understand.
- If your cat is a ';leg biter'; try to spend more time playing with it and redirect its attack to a toy. Leave toys lying around so that he can also amuse itself, particular when you keep your cat indoors. Cats need a wide variety of toys to keep them interested, so don鈥檛 expect a couple toy mice to help.
Is there any Forum in Aus to give legal advice to ladies who are victem of husband`s cruelity ?
hi,
why not create your own forum on this? :)
you can create the free forum using this free hosting provider -%26gt; http://kohost.0lx.net
just register for a free hosting account and install the forum software.
drop me a message if you need my help, i can help you create the forum ...
:)Is there any Forum in Aus to give legal advice to ladies who are victem of husband`s cruelity ?
Each Australian State's Legal Aid system has a specific ';Domestic Violence'; unit to give immediate help. Available by phone, Google ';legal aid domestic violence'; and your state name to find them.
Eg, if you're in NSW, the Legal aid Domestic Violence helpers can be contacted on
Albury 02 6021 3059
Armidale 02 6771 4221
Bankstown 02 9709 5622
Bega 02 6492 5002
Blacktown 02 9671 9126
Blue Mountains/Lithgow 02 4782 4155
Bourke/Brewarrina 02 6872 1200
Broken Hill 08 8087 2053
Central Coast 02 4350 3064/02 4325 6941
Coffs Harbour 02 6650 0302
Downing Centre (Redfern) 02 9698 7277
Dubbo 02 6884 7388
Hastings 02 6583 4179
Hawkesbury 02 4588 5618
Hornsby 02 9485 3017
Hunter 02 4929 7036
Illawarra 02 4228 1499
Inner West 02 9744 1866
Kempsey 02 6563 1479
Liverpool/Fairfield 02 9601 6988
Macarthur 02 4628 6170
Maitland 02 4934 5332
Manly/Warringah 02 9971 4499
Moree 02 6752 7135
Newtown 02 9559 2899
Northern Rivers 1300 720 606
Nowra 02 4423 2949
Parramatta/Ryde 02 9760 0441
Penrith/Mt Druitt 02 4731 5098
Southern Sydney 02 9589 1200
Taree 02 6553 0009
Wagga Wagga 02 6921 6227
Waverley 02 9315 5700
And for more information and help
Domestic Violence Advocacy service
Phone: 02 8745 6999
1800 810 784
why not create your own forum on this? :)
you can create the free forum using this free hosting provider -%26gt; http://kohost.0lx.net
just register for a free hosting account and install the forum software.
drop me a message if you need my help, i can help you create the forum ...
:)Is there any Forum in Aus to give legal advice to ladies who are victem of husband`s cruelity ?
Each Australian State's Legal Aid system has a specific ';Domestic Violence'; unit to give immediate help. Available by phone, Google ';legal aid domestic violence'; and your state name to find them.
Eg, if you're in NSW, the Legal aid Domestic Violence helpers can be contacted on
Albury 02 6021 3059
Armidale 02 6771 4221
Bankstown 02 9709 5622
Bega 02 6492 5002
Blacktown 02 9671 9126
Blue Mountains/Lithgow 02 4782 4155
Bourke/Brewarrina 02 6872 1200
Broken Hill 08 8087 2053
Central Coast 02 4350 3064/02 4325 6941
Coffs Harbour 02 6650 0302
Downing Centre (Redfern) 02 9698 7277
Dubbo 02 6884 7388
Hastings 02 6583 4179
Hawkesbury 02 4588 5618
Hornsby 02 9485 3017
Hunter 02 4929 7036
Illawarra 02 4228 1499
Inner West 02 9744 1866
Kempsey 02 6563 1479
Liverpool/Fairfield 02 9601 6988
Macarthur 02 4628 6170
Maitland 02 4934 5332
Manly/Warringah 02 9971 4499
Moree 02 6752 7135
Newtown 02 9559 2899
Northern Rivers 1300 720 606
Nowra 02 4423 2949
Parramatta/Ryde 02 9760 0441
Penrith/Mt Druitt 02 4731 5098
Southern Sydney 02 9589 1200
Taree 02 6553 0009
Wagga Wagga 02 6921 6227
Waverley 02 9315 5700
And for more information and help
Domestic Violence Advocacy service
Phone: 02 8745 6999
1800 810 784
I need an individual cell phone plan. All the ones I can find are really expensive! Any advice?
I go to school and work part time, so I want an affordable plan, but one that gives me unlimited nights and weekends. If anyone has or knows of this miracle plan, let me know.I need an individual cell phone plan. All the ones I can find are really expensive! Any advice?
Get At%26amp;t's $39.99 plan. You get your unused minutes rolled over. Plus you have unlimited nights and weekends. If you can't afford that, I'd suggest going for a prepaid phone.I need an individual cell phone plan. All the ones I can find are really expensive! Any advice?
what do u consider to be ';too expensive';? 39.99 is pretty much the standard among the big ';3';. plus when u add taxes and fees; ur looking bout $50 a month. sprints and Verizon plan has unlimited N/W for that price; but AT%26amp;T. but sprint can 1-up verizon; there nights and weekends start at 7pm. u might even get a discount from sprint. they offer a lot of discount base on who u wrk for.
P.S. Legend is wrng; AT%26amp;T's $39.99 plan does not come w/ unlimited N/W only 5000, and no roleover mins.
go to tmobile.com they have extremely affordable plans and very nice phones I would suggest you getting the 300 minute plan and put mobile to mobile on you phone and if you want to text get the 400 txt message service your bill would come out to no more than like $40 a month maybe less good luck!!!!
prepaid phone plan, with verizon wireless you can have a chocolate, though the minutes expire on it. i use at%26amp;t
you can have a cheap plan or a plan with unlimited minutes, but not both. You pay for the services you want to have.
Get At%26amp;t's $39.99 plan. You get your unused minutes rolled over. Plus you have unlimited nights and weekends. If you can't afford that, I'd suggest going for a prepaid phone.I need an individual cell phone plan. All the ones I can find are really expensive! Any advice?
what do u consider to be ';too expensive';? 39.99 is pretty much the standard among the big ';3';. plus when u add taxes and fees; ur looking bout $50 a month. sprints and Verizon plan has unlimited N/W for that price; but AT%26amp;T. but sprint can 1-up verizon; there nights and weekends start at 7pm. u might even get a discount from sprint. they offer a lot of discount base on who u wrk for.
P.S. Legend is wrng; AT%26amp;T's $39.99 plan does not come w/ unlimited N/W only 5000, and no roleover mins.
go to tmobile.com they have extremely affordable plans and very nice phones I would suggest you getting the 300 minute plan and put mobile to mobile on you phone and if you want to text get the 400 txt message service your bill would come out to no more than like $40 a month maybe less good luck!!!!
prepaid phone plan, with verizon wireless you can have a chocolate, though the minutes expire on it. i use at%26amp;t
you can have a cheap plan or a plan with unlimited minutes, but not both. You pay for the services you want to have.
What is important for you when reading someones story advice.?
Hey there (:
I love writing alot but i wouldn't say i was as good as others and i'm needing some advice and help on a few things so i'm wondering what is important in a story and how can i describe it well and how to be original ?
thank you xWhat is important for you when reading someones story advice.?
when someone reads my work and gives me advice i listen to it, after all they represent a reader, so their advice is valid.
after that i think about what they said. often many of thier suggestions i can toss to the side, but when they ask questions about contiuity, or about characters i hadn't really considered before, then i listen.
if six people read it and make the same comments then i know something is wrong, so i look to fixing that.
my point is - don't focus too much on what one person tells you unless you really trust and respect thier opinion, but if several people tell you the same thing then llistenWhat is important for you when reading someones story advice.?
Welcome to Writing to Publish
We are a critique group dedicated to helping fiction writers develop their talents and get published. This site showcases the work of our members, and serves to assist all writers in improving their skills.
http://www.cuebon.com/ewriters/index.htm鈥?/a>
http://www.worthyofpublishing.com/
Mibba is a creative site designed for young authors to share their stories and poems and gain feedback from a growing audience.
http://www.mibba.com/
Um.
This is a hard question to answer. You mean in general?
Just be yourself and don't try to hard. Just like anything else, that will get you through.
And think: if you write just THREE pages a day, in SIX months, you'll have THRE HUNDRED AND SIXTY pages. Great concept, huh?
I love writing alot but i wouldn't say i was as good as others and i'm needing some advice and help on a few things so i'm wondering what is important in a story and how can i describe it well and how to be original ?
thank you xWhat is important for you when reading someones story advice.?
when someone reads my work and gives me advice i listen to it, after all they represent a reader, so their advice is valid.
after that i think about what they said. often many of thier suggestions i can toss to the side, but when they ask questions about contiuity, or about characters i hadn't really considered before, then i listen.
if six people read it and make the same comments then i know something is wrong, so i look to fixing that.
my point is - don't focus too much on what one person tells you unless you really trust and respect thier opinion, but if several people tell you the same thing then llistenWhat is important for you when reading someones story advice.?
Welcome to Writing to Publish
We are a critique group dedicated to helping fiction writers develop their talents and get published. This site showcases the work of our members, and serves to assist all writers in improving their skills.
http://www.cuebon.com/ewriters/index.htm鈥?/a>
http://www.worthyofpublishing.com/
Mibba is a creative site designed for young authors to share their stories and poems and gain feedback from a growing audience.
http://www.mibba.com/
Um.
This is a hard question to answer. You mean in general?
Just be yourself and don't try to hard. Just like anything else, that will get you through.
And think: if you write just THREE pages a day, in SIX months, you'll have THRE HUNDRED AND SIXTY pages. Great concept, huh?
What is up with my ten year old son, Advice?
My ten year old has been acting very strange. He has started to wet the bed,he has started to well touch himself in public and no mater what we do to try and stop that it dose not work. It is like he goes into a trance and dose not even realize what he is doing. He has also been crying allot, and also having allot of fits of rage. My husband has had to restrain my son and so have i. We are not sure where this behavior is coming from, he has never acted like this before. I am not sure what to do, Advice?What is up with my ten year old son, Advice?
Take him to the Doctors it sounds like he has been molested. But you should take him to his pediatrician. I pray to god it is not molestation.
P.S people should not call other users Trolls without some kind of proof :) Just a thoughtWhat is up with my ten year old son, Advice?
Assuming that you're not a troll, the answer is take him to your pediatrician ASAP. There are many things that this behavior could indicate, but from the way the question is phrased molestation seems to be the obvious answer.
In the future, your first stop should always be the doctor, not Yahoo Answers.
well, i know an 11 yr old boy who last year went through that kinda stuff too. not quite as severe but bed wetting, mood swings. Its probably just hormones but get a hold on it. His grades started to suffer. Take away drinks at night and make him change his own sheets. thats what he had to do and it worked! My suggestion is to be very firm and let him know that the behavior will not be tolerated. If he doesn't improve take him to a counsoler. Most kids hate going so much that it alone will help!!
sounds like child molestation and i hope its not that thats awful i have 2 boys and 1 baby girlcartridge scars
Take him to the Doctors it sounds like he has been molested. But you should take him to his pediatrician. I pray to god it is not molestation.
P.S people should not call other users Trolls without some kind of proof :) Just a thoughtWhat is up with my ten year old son, Advice?
Assuming that you're not a troll, the answer is take him to your pediatrician ASAP. There are many things that this behavior could indicate, but from the way the question is phrased molestation seems to be the obvious answer.
In the future, your first stop should always be the doctor, not Yahoo Answers.
well, i know an 11 yr old boy who last year went through that kinda stuff too. not quite as severe but bed wetting, mood swings. Its probably just hormones but get a hold on it. His grades started to suffer. Take away drinks at night and make him change his own sheets. thats what he had to do and it worked! My suggestion is to be very firm and let him know that the behavior will not be tolerated. If he doesn't improve take him to a counsoler. Most kids hate going so much that it alone will help!!
sounds like child molestation and i hope its not that thats awful i have 2 boys and 1 baby girl
I am upside down in my car loan and really want to get out of it. Any advice?
Trading my car in several times over the last few years has finally caught up with me. I want to get something cheaper but of course can't roll in all that negative equity. Any advice would be awesome.I am upside down in my car loan and really want to get out of it. Any advice?
That's a really tough one. What you don't want to do is just walk away from it, defeated, and ruin your credit in the process. Then in will be hard to get a loan in the future. The best you could really hope for is to sell your car as a private party, getting every dime out of it that you can. Dealers have to make a profit, so they give you a low trade in value. Get what you can, and then make arrangements with your finance company to pay off the balance. You may want to check with the finance company first about what procedures to follow before you sell, so you don't get caught up in something financially that hurts your credit. Another solution would be to just borrow the difference between the blue book value and what you owe, so when you sell it as a private party, you can pay off the entire balance at once. When you call your finance company, you may want to speak with someone in customer relations, rather than just customer service. (Kind of an elevated level of customer service that most people don't know to ask for.) The first line of reps that answer the phone may not have to right kind of advice for you. Good luck.I am upside down in my car loan and really want to get out of it. Any advice?
Three letters GAP....
Usually once you're upside down, there's no way out except to keep the vehicle and pay it off. The other person didn't explain what GAP is, but it is insurance that covers you if your vehicle is totalled - it will pay what you owe, not what your vehicle is worth. This would be a good thing for you to do just in case.
Have some one take over the payments. You may have to put in to reduce its monthly note. Offer to reduce the monthly payment by 50$ with no money down. Its better than paying full amount each month. Take it at a loss and move on.
Hey, I'm in the same boat! You pretty much have to suck it up and pay down on your current car. DON';T TRADE!!! I learned this the hard way!
Well, like the other answerers said, you're basically stuck.
Your only choices are to keep paying and driving your current car, make a big payment to catch up, or trade it in for a cheaper car, and be upside down in that one too. Hopefully, if you do that, your payments will be cheaper.
If you do trade it in, make sure this new car is one you'll keep for at least the life of the loan, so you can catch up.
Take this as a life lesson about the personal costs of always having to have the latest thing.
Can't really do much. Just keep paying it down and STOP TRADING YOUR CAR IN!!!!
you should report stolen and burn it. lol
That's a really tough one. What you don't want to do is just walk away from it, defeated, and ruin your credit in the process. Then in will be hard to get a loan in the future. The best you could really hope for is to sell your car as a private party, getting every dime out of it that you can. Dealers have to make a profit, so they give you a low trade in value. Get what you can, and then make arrangements with your finance company to pay off the balance. You may want to check with the finance company first about what procedures to follow before you sell, so you don't get caught up in something financially that hurts your credit. Another solution would be to just borrow the difference between the blue book value and what you owe, so when you sell it as a private party, you can pay off the entire balance at once. When you call your finance company, you may want to speak with someone in customer relations, rather than just customer service. (Kind of an elevated level of customer service that most people don't know to ask for.) The first line of reps that answer the phone may not have to right kind of advice for you. Good luck.I am upside down in my car loan and really want to get out of it. Any advice?
Three letters GAP....
Usually once you're upside down, there's no way out except to keep the vehicle and pay it off. The other person didn't explain what GAP is, but it is insurance that covers you if your vehicle is totalled - it will pay what you owe, not what your vehicle is worth. This would be a good thing for you to do just in case.
Have some one take over the payments. You may have to put in to reduce its monthly note. Offer to reduce the monthly payment by 50$ with no money down. Its better than paying full amount each month. Take it at a loss and move on.
Hey, I'm in the same boat! You pretty much have to suck it up and pay down on your current car. DON';T TRADE!!! I learned this the hard way!
Well, like the other answerers said, you're basically stuck.
Your only choices are to keep paying and driving your current car, make a big payment to catch up, or trade it in for a cheaper car, and be upside down in that one too. Hopefully, if you do that, your payments will be cheaper.
If you do trade it in, make sure this new car is one you'll keep for at least the life of the loan, so you can catch up.
Take this as a life lesson about the personal costs of always having to have the latest thing.
Can't really do much. Just keep paying it down and STOP TRADING YOUR CAR IN!!!!
you should report stolen and burn it. lol
Can anyone who is a good dancer give me advice?
OK ive been in this dance class for a few months. Im in the begginner class right now and I really want to make it to the advance class buy january of next year. As of right now the dance class is on a break. I want to improve my dancing by myself so that when i get back ill be really good. Can any one give me tips on what i should do to improve?Would feestyling in my room help at all? Any book i could read that might help?Can anyone who is a good dancer give me advice?
Well you could practice in your room and just try to really feel the music so that you can get into it. but as for actually training, that takes a lot of comitment and effort. It also depends what kind of dance you are learning. With hip hop you can at least free style and have fun on youtube. But with latin or ballroom dances, it takes a teacher, not a book. You got to get out there and feel it, not read it.
Ive been dancing for 11 years (since i was 6) But that was only because my family is Cuban and most of them are pros in latin dancing. You should try to get some of your friends together and dance with each other to practice with them and improve your skills while having a blast. Have fun.Can anyone who is a good dancer give me advice?
hon to be really good it takes years unless ur the most talented human being on the planet.
just try to improve ur danceing and set the bar lower like maybe intermediate by january and take more classes to improve. while its break just stretch and try to perfect what you've learned in class
you should go on youtube and look at ''how to routines'' and try those. you could also go to a different dance studio and take classes there until you classes get off break. it will give you experience with other teachers and you will continue dancing.
if you go to see the advanced try to learn the moves they do and try to exaggerate the dance put more energy
make up dances according to the level you are and memorize it then when you go back its like oh this is easy thanks lola.
Well you could practice in your room and just try to really feel the music so that you can get into it. but as for actually training, that takes a lot of comitment and effort. It also depends what kind of dance you are learning. With hip hop you can at least free style and have fun on youtube. But with latin or ballroom dances, it takes a teacher, not a book. You got to get out there and feel it, not read it.
Ive been dancing for 11 years (since i was 6) But that was only because my family is Cuban and most of them are pros in latin dancing. You should try to get some of your friends together and dance with each other to practice with them and improve your skills while having a blast. Have fun.Can anyone who is a good dancer give me advice?
hon to be really good it takes years unless ur the most talented human being on the planet.
just try to improve ur danceing and set the bar lower like maybe intermediate by january and take more classes to improve. while its break just stretch and try to perfect what you've learned in class
you should go on youtube and look at ''how to routines'' and try those. you could also go to a different dance studio and take classes there until you classes get off break. it will give you experience with other teachers and you will continue dancing.
if you go to see the advanced try to learn the moves they do and try to exaggerate the dance put more energy
make up dances according to the level you are and memorize it then when you go back its like oh this is easy thanks lola.
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