What is up with my ten year old son, Advice?

My ten year old has been acting very strange. He has started to wet the bed,he has started to well touch himself in public and no mater what we do to try and stop that it dose not work. It is like he goes into a trance and dose not even realize what he is doing. He has also been crying allot, and also having allot of fits of rage. My husband has had to restrain my son and so have i. We are not sure where this behavior is coming from, he has never acted like this before. I am not sure what to do, Advice?What is up with my ten year old son, Advice?
THOSE are signs of sexual abuse,it doesn't mean that it is,but those are VERY VERY strong indications that it is.Please take him to someone like a therapist to talk to,he may be too embarrassed or ashamed to tell you,it's not a reflection on you as a mother if he won't tell you some kids just won't but always let him know that you are there no matter what to talk to and that there isn't anything that he can't tell you and that you will still love him no matter what and that your on his side.


This could be a family member,a peer,anyone really doing this,sexual predators are great liars/manipulators not just of their victims but of all the people in their lives,that how they get away with it or access and gain the trust of their victims in the first place.You have to consider everyone that has access to your son,sorry to say even your husband.





What is most striking is that you write ';started'; making me think that these are newer behaviors...meaning that they were obviously triggered by something....if that turns out not to be the case check for illness.Hope it gets better and you he gets help.What is up with my ten year old son, Advice?
I don't want to get all jumpy with answers about something I don't know well enough about, but here is a possibility:





Perhaps he is depressed?


Children exhibit symptoms of depression differently than an adult or teenager would.


They cry a lot, they're very aggitated and angry. They may complain of aches, pains, being tired a lot.


They're very frustrated.
Wow. Get him to a doctor right away. This is serious stuff. Could even be the result of abuse. Has he been spending time with a male member of the family? Or is he being bullied at school?





Something's not right in his life, something happened. I'd start with a regular doctor to look for signs of trauma or known conditions that could explain this. If nothing comes from it, then a visit to a psychiatrist couldn't hurt.
there is definetly something wrong he doesn't want to discuss. i would definetly take him to a primary care physician and then to a therapist... this is only if it coincides with your beliefs. (i.e. doctors, therapist etc.) as a mom i would be screaching for advice as well..
i think you should take him to see a councilor. they're be able to help him figure out what is bothering him. or try to talk to your son. hope this helps.
Bring this up to his Pediatrician or your Family Doctor. Get a referral for a Therapist. There is something going on that you are not being told.
Get him to a therapist/counselor now. There is something wrong and he's afraid or embarrassed to tell you. Don't wait.
Someone touched him.
your son has (or is) being sexual abused...find out by whom.
take him to a doctor. but maybe he's autistic...
Ugh,I hate to agree with him..but some..most of the things you say sound about the same..just a bit is different..I suggest you let him know that you love him..(it's best to have it just you and him..less pressure for him,makes it easier on you both)Their right when they say find out if someones abusing him..but do it softly..I know personally that anything public about it forces you to tell lies and/or be ashamed.





..I don't know for sure,but I went through a lot of that stuff in one way or another..it's a horrible thing,he's about the age I was to..I promise you he's unknowing about why he's wetting the bed..I was figuring out ways to hide it/make it look as though something different happened etc'...Don't rule this out..I know you might not ';buy it';,But my mother missed totally what was happening..Don't assume no one's a possible ';suspect';...Family is just as hard to trust..as a stranger..probably more..I promise you that.








Go soft on him is all I can say.It's tough stuff.
10 yrs old and wetting the bed is not a ';DIETARY PROBLEM'; this has never happened b4 and there are other characteristics that show there is nothing wrong with his stomach.





He is being abused in some way by someone he knows. especially if his behavior has been going on for a while.





My Honest advice would be to talk to him 1st alone and assure him that he is in NO way in trouble for anything and he has done Nothing wrong! and that talking with you will stay between you and him as long as what he has to say does not leave him vulnerable to being hurt in any way. don't yell at him and try and force him to tell you because he will with draw from you completely and fear that more harm will come to him. Just ask questions about alot of different thinks that could have happened. you will eventually ask the right question to where you get a look, a physical reaction, or an answer. and then you will know.





If he does admit to some1 abusing him you need to call the police 1st and immediately file charges and tell them you are taking him to Your Dr. or to the Emergency room and you want them to meet you there.


take him to the DR. and tell him everything that is going on. Tell him you are suspecting abuse in some way or that he has admitted to you what is happening to him.





No matter what it is you need to find out. and get him the help he needs for all your sakes.
Take him to a doctor instead of asking yahoo answers! Those are all signs of sexual abuse, and I don't want to scare you unnecessarily, but you need to talk to him and ask what's bothering him and if something's wrong. If he says ';nothing'; or resists talking, talk to his doctor or school counselor about finding a psychologist. Even if he's not being abused, clearly something is really bothering him and you need to get to the bottom of it.





And NO, psychologists won't just put him on medication (in fact, psychologists can't write prescriptions) like other posters have suggested. They are trained professionals who know how to help children in emotional distress. Yes, if he has no emotional issues, it's time to look for dietary concerns, but the most urgent possibilities should come first.





(Also, someone asked about spending time alone with a male relative. Not all abusers are male! But you should consider who he's been left alone with since just prior to the strange behavior.)





Good luck!
There are a few possibilities. One is that it could be dietary....sweetners such as aspartame, nutri-sweet, drinks such as diet coke which has such swwetners...some people can react very badly to these and actually they are bad for anyone. MSG is another food additive (621) that has bad effects. Now they only have to put the number of the additive on the food packet so you don't get to find out what it is. If you want a full list of the codes I can send it to you.


PS. watch out for psychologists who are re-knowned for sexual abuse on minors. Also watch out for anyone diagnosing such things as ADD, ADHD, SAD, Bi-Polar or any of the ';traditional'; psych labels which were invented and voted into being but have no scientific or medical basis and only made to enable prescribing drugs, for which they get kick-backs from the drug companies (a fact not mentioned by other posters to this answer who defend such people).


So allergy to certain foods could also change mood. Truly, it can have devastating effects.


Second, there may be problems at school. A child who is having difficulty with studies can get stressed and, like any adult, it can show up in their mood and behaviour. Bullying can also cause this.


My advice would be to take him for a standard medical check at a holistic natural health doctor such as a chiropractor.....but not a regualr doctor who will end up putting him on psychiatric drugs or sending him to someone who will put him on such drugs. They will tell you these drugs are necessary, but they are NOT. What is needed is a look into any allergies, nutritional deficiencies (sometimes low on a particular vitamin), or even any medical condition such as a tooth infection that is undiscovered.


Second look into how he is doing at study, if there are any kids giving him a hard time, or teachers for that matter. Check how much sugar he is having in his diet and cut sugar intake down. Make sure he is getting plenty of protein.


Welcome to message me for more help.


PS. watch out for psychologists who are renowned for sexual abuse of minors and try to label and then drug children while they live on the kick-backs they get from the drug companies who quote them on their prescriptions of certain drugs....a fact not mentioned by other posters. It starts off with psychologists and next thing you know they are in the hands of psychiatrists and labeled for life with a disability that is most usually caused by the drugs they prescribe. Take your son to a NATURAL HEALTH practitioner also qualified as a doctor so there is no chance of such happening.
GIVE THAT ***** A SPANKIN!!!!!
make him clean the gutters





that should toughen him up
Bad parenting.