Never fall in love with what you have written. Be willing to rewrite and improve on your first drafts even if it means discarding some of your work!!
That is one of the hardest creative lessons to learn. Some composers have equated it to throwing your children away!!
Musician,composer,teacher.
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
I am considering entering a debt management program. Anyone have any advice?
I am considering entering a debt management program because I am way over my head in credit card debt. I know it may not be the best solution but it seems I keep putting it off, getting no where paying down my debt. Does anyone have advice or comments?I am considering entering a debt management program. Anyone have any advice?
Debt counseling is the best way to go instead of debt consolidation (which simply means one borrows more to get out of debt).
Here is a link to the FTC approved agencies. Some may charge a small fee and may not (depends upon your situation).
This will give you breathing time to catch up
http://www.usdoj.gov/ust/eo/bapcpa/ccde/鈥?/a>
Govt approved credit counseling agencies.
Good luck and hope this helps.I am considering entering a debt management program. Anyone have any advice?
You may want to approach a bank %26amp; see if you can get a loan to pay off all debts. The interest rate may be better there. In the mean time, cut up all your credit cards. Only buy what you need %26amp; with money you have.
To be honest:
Add up all your short term debt, if it is greater than 1 year's earnings, go broke.
Going broke (bankruptcy) is a big step, but because you will become credit immune for 5 years, you will learn how to PROPERLY handle your money.
As someone who's recovering from debt, I don't recommend credit counseling services.
For one thing, half of them are scams - you pay a fee, and there's no guarantee that your debt, your minimum payment or interest rate would be reduced. You see them advertised at the same times and places as ambulance-chasing lawyers and get-rich-quick schemes - that should tell you something about their credibility.
You are just as well off, if not more so, dealing with the creditor directly. I'm currently making automatic monthly payments out of my checking account with a reduced minimum payment and a significantly lower interest.
Because I dealt with the creditor directly, I don't have to pay a middleman, and my whole monthly payment goes towards my debt, instead of a percentage going to the credit cousnelor. Plus, I don't have to worry about missing a payment because of an administrative screw-up.
Seriously, call the credit company TODAY and get started on your plan. You'd be surprised how much nicer they are to you when you're up front about your situation.
And more importantly, take a look at your spending habits. Cut out every unnecessary item you can, including cable, magazine subscriptions, takeout food - you'd see how quickly even the little things like snacks and coffee add up.
I did this. It is a very good idea. The key is that you have to really understand what put you there. You have to change your habits, it is very easy to get back under.
Make sure you work with a reputable company. They should charge a minimal monthly fee only. They should also have the type of financial counseling that will help you manage your finances and budget. Ok, now two platitudes for you that have been helpful for me: ';It is not how much you save, it is what you don't spend';(I think Suze Orman said this) and *The road to debt is paved with discount* This is to help you to be frugal, and not pseudo frugal.
why pay someone to pay your credit card. sit down and budget. it takes alot of time and boring but it really pays off. i dont like any of these debt programs. its a ripoff. go to www.ripoffreport.com to see if the company u chose is on there and u can see what complaints have been made about the company. microsoft money has a budget program. there are a few others online as well u can download. try going to the community college in your area and see if they offer free debt management classes. also try the library, banks, or community center. where i live my community center offers debt and budgeting classes. some are free and some u have to pay but not much. also even some churchs offer classes. try those before having someone else pay your debt and then in turn u owe them.
Cut your credit cards up in little pieces and don't get another. Call your credit card companies and let them know you are going to transfer your debt to another credit card company for a lower rate. (This is only a threat) They will offer to lower your rate they don't want to lose your business.
Actually, it's a very good decision. Going into such a program will not only help you to reduce and eventually eliminate debt, it can, of itself, raise your credit score. Here's a link to Consumer Credit Counseling Service (CCCS), a non profit service, for your use. http://www.cccsatl.org/
Be careful, most of them are a rip off and charge you hefty fees (which you obviouly can't afford). Try to figure it out on your own or with a friend and do it yourself. It isn't that diffficult.
Debt counseling is the best way to go instead of debt consolidation (which simply means one borrows more to get out of debt).
Here is a link to the FTC approved agencies. Some may charge a small fee and may not (depends upon your situation).
This will give you breathing time to catch up
http://www.usdoj.gov/ust/eo/bapcpa/ccde/鈥?/a>
Govt approved credit counseling agencies.
Good luck and hope this helps.I am considering entering a debt management program. Anyone have any advice?
You may want to approach a bank %26amp; see if you can get a loan to pay off all debts. The interest rate may be better there. In the mean time, cut up all your credit cards. Only buy what you need %26amp; with money you have.
To be honest:
Add up all your short term debt, if it is greater than 1 year's earnings, go broke.
Going broke (bankruptcy) is a big step, but because you will become credit immune for 5 years, you will learn how to PROPERLY handle your money.
As someone who's recovering from debt, I don't recommend credit counseling services.
For one thing, half of them are scams - you pay a fee, and there's no guarantee that your debt, your minimum payment or interest rate would be reduced. You see them advertised at the same times and places as ambulance-chasing lawyers and get-rich-quick schemes - that should tell you something about their credibility.
You are just as well off, if not more so, dealing with the creditor directly. I'm currently making automatic monthly payments out of my checking account with a reduced minimum payment and a significantly lower interest.
Because I dealt with the creditor directly, I don't have to pay a middleman, and my whole monthly payment goes towards my debt, instead of a percentage going to the credit cousnelor. Plus, I don't have to worry about missing a payment because of an administrative screw-up.
Seriously, call the credit company TODAY and get started on your plan. You'd be surprised how much nicer they are to you when you're up front about your situation.
And more importantly, take a look at your spending habits. Cut out every unnecessary item you can, including cable, magazine subscriptions, takeout food - you'd see how quickly even the little things like snacks and coffee add up.
I did this. It is a very good idea. The key is that you have to really understand what put you there. You have to change your habits, it is very easy to get back under.
Make sure you work with a reputable company. They should charge a minimal monthly fee only. They should also have the type of financial counseling that will help you manage your finances and budget. Ok, now two platitudes for you that have been helpful for me: ';It is not how much you save, it is what you don't spend';(I think Suze Orman said this) and *The road to debt is paved with discount* This is to help you to be frugal, and not pseudo frugal.
why pay someone to pay your credit card. sit down and budget. it takes alot of time and boring but it really pays off. i dont like any of these debt programs. its a ripoff. go to www.ripoffreport.com to see if the company u chose is on there and u can see what complaints have been made about the company. microsoft money has a budget program. there are a few others online as well u can download. try going to the community college in your area and see if they offer free debt management classes. also try the library, banks, or community center. where i live my community center offers debt and budgeting classes. some are free and some u have to pay but not much. also even some churchs offer classes. try those before having someone else pay your debt and then in turn u owe them.
Cut your credit cards up in little pieces and don't get another. Call your credit card companies and let them know you are going to transfer your debt to another credit card company for a lower rate. (This is only a threat) They will offer to lower your rate they don't want to lose your business.
Actually, it's a very good decision. Going into such a program will not only help you to reduce and eventually eliminate debt, it can, of itself, raise your credit score. Here's a link to Consumer Credit Counseling Service (CCCS), a non profit service, for your use. http://www.cccsatl.org/
Be careful, most of them are a rip off and charge you hefty fees (which you obviouly can't afford). Try to figure it out on your own or with a friend and do it yourself. It isn't that diffficult.
NAVY SEALS- What was your experience like as a seal? What advice would you give me when I am a seal?
NAVY SEALS- What was your experience like as a seal? What advice would you give me BEFORE becoming a seal? Also, what advice would you give me AFTER becoming a seal?NAVY SEALS- What was your experience like as a seal? What advice would you give me when I am a seal?
I would questioning anyone answering HERE who claims to be a SEAL. There are many posers. Try an actually USN SEAL site like:
http://www.sealswcc.com/
or others
http://community.active.com/community/fi鈥?/a>
http://www.navyseals.com/forums/
http://www.navy-prt.com/training-eod-sea鈥?/a>
Also, ask a Navy recruiter to hook you up with a SEAL recrutier or someone qualified to talk to. Get the real deal from the right warfighter.NAVY SEALS- What was your experience like as a seal? What advice would you give me when I am a seal?
I was never a Seal, nor did I ever serve.
I do know of an extremely fit twenty three year old who died during Seal training. (Marine boot is also very challenging, if somewhat less so than Seal training, but both can be very hazardous and extremely unpleasant.) Injuries are not uncommon, even in training.
Seals, much like Marines and certain Army units, can expect to be deployed at a moment's notice, generally to areas that are hell on earth.
As an enlisted man, you'll be expected to follow orders without question; if you've any psychiatric or medical problems, you might not make it. Any sort of a family life can be very challenging; remember too that military life is very strict and ordered (as it has to be, especially in times of war).
But by all accounts, you'll also receive training that will prepare you for literally anything you encounter, in either military or civillian life. You'll certainly have adventures, and you'll be part of a very small, very valuable community.
But if you've the opportunity to finish college first, you might want to look into an ROTC program or OCS schooling - military officers, in general, have it better than the grunts, and the only real difference is a few years of school.
rough. about a 16wk basic training. if is a great thing to go into though, if up for the channgle go fo rit
I would questioning anyone answering HERE who claims to be a SEAL. There are many posers. Try an actually USN SEAL site like:
http://www.sealswcc.com/
or others
http://community.active.com/community/fi鈥?/a>
http://www.navyseals.com/forums/
http://www.navy-prt.com/training-eod-sea鈥?/a>
Also, ask a Navy recruiter to hook you up with a SEAL recrutier or someone qualified to talk to. Get the real deal from the right warfighter.NAVY SEALS- What was your experience like as a seal? What advice would you give me when I am a seal?
I was never a Seal, nor did I ever serve.
I do know of an extremely fit twenty three year old who died during Seal training. (Marine boot is also very challenging, if somewhat less so than Seal training, but both can be very hazardous and extremely unpleasant.) Injuries are not uncommon, even in training.
Seals, much like Marines and certain Army units, can expect to be deployed at a moment's notice, generally to areas that are hell on earth.
As an enlisted man, you'll be expected to follow orders without question; if you've any psychiatric or medical problems, you might not make it. Any sort of a family life can be very challenging; remember too that military life is very strict and ordered (as it has to be, especially in times of war).
But by all accounts, you'll also receive training that will prepare you for literally anything you encounter, in either military or civillian life. You'll certainly have adventures, and you'll be part of a very small, very valuable community.
But if you've the opportunity to finish college first, you might want to look into an ROTC program or OCS schooling - military officers, in general, have it better than the grunts, and the only real difference is a few years of school.
rough. about a 16wk basic training. if is a great thing to go into though, if up for the channgle go fo rit
What are some GOOD advice u would give students next school year to succeed?
if you were in highschool going on to the next grade...what advice would u give students following your footprints on how to succeed or how to be successful at school thanxWhat are some GOOD advice u would give students next school year to succeed?
Pay attention in English class so you can write a sentence correctly.
That would be my best advice.What are some GOOD advice u would give students next school year to succeed?
TAKE PLENTY OF NOTES AND DON'T SLACK OFFpores stop pimples
Pay attention in English class so you can write a sentence correctly.
That would be my best advice.What are some GOOD advice u would give students next school year to succeed?
TAKE PLENTY OF NOTES AND DON'T SLACK OFF
When do you realize that your advice or insight won't be heard?
when I notice the person making the same mistakes over %26amp; over again...but who am I to tell them??
they will fall on their own %26amp; face the reality they created..When do you realize that your advice or insight won't be heard?
nahh thank y0u !
When do you realize that your advice or insight won't be heard?
When I see that blank stare looking back at me.
I learn not to take for granted the advice i offer to anyone.
Usually in about 30 seconds on Yahoo Answers
its never heard
As soon as i'm giving it to myself.
noticed it about 15 years ago
kinda hurts
but i go on
cause i know im right
I never really know ,so I just keep on going.
Sure wish I knew a way to know.
when someone glares at me
When everyone ignores you as soon as you open your mouth to state it.
Right now
i know that it`s not always heard, but i do this mostly for fun!
right now
When I don't give it.
When I realize I'm talking to a deaf person
literally or sometimes figuratively (aka a hard headed twit)
A vacant look, or perhaps a subtle change of expression. Whenever I see it, I get the message, loud and clear.
When I begin to understand the person I'm giving it to.
when i don't get best answer for the questions i answer seriously.
they will fall on their own %26amp; face the reality they created..When do you realize that your advice or insight won't be heard?
nahh thank y0u !
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When do you realize that your advice or insight won't be heard?
When I see that blank stare looking back at me.
I learn not to take for granted the advice i offer to anyone.
Usually in about 30 seconds on Yahoo Answers
its never heard
As soon as i'm giving it to myself.
noticed it about 15 years ago
kinda hurts
but i go on
cause i know im right
I never really know ,so I just keep on going.
Sure wish I knew a way to know.
when someone glares at me
When everyone ignores you as soon as you open your mouth to state it.
Right now
i know that it`s not always heard, but i do this mostly for fun!
right now
When I don't give it.
When I realize I'm talking to a deaf person
literally or sometimes figuratively (aka a hard headed twit)
A vacant look, or perhaps a subtle change of expression. Whenever I see it, I get the message, loud and clear.
When I begin to understand the person I'm giving it to.
when i don't get best answer for the questions i answer seriously.
What is the best advice you've ever been given?
Why?What is the best advice you've ever been given?
At over 40 years old I knew zip about finances except for a checking account. My mother in law explained how to finance a car, about CD's and Money Markets, and loans. This helped me a lot.What is the best advice you've ever been given?
Silently pray to the Almighty even if you don't believe in God........ my father told me when I was 10 yrs old.
Silent prayer is an act in humility that strengthens our mind by silencing unwarranted worries and thereby improving focus on the task at hand.
';Your worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your own unguarded thoughts'; -Buddha
Our thoughts literally create our reality. This is currently accepted by quantum physics. It is just amazing, incredible...
the last time someone told me that this too shall pass and that I shouldn't allow others to manipulate me like that...
I have to thank my friend a million times for that!
';Get Lost!';
I did, and it turned out to be a pretty good TV series about plane crash survivors uncovering mysteries on a tropical island.
The wisdom in ';The Path of the Higher Self,'; Mark Prophet, is some of the best; it provides good insight into ';reality.';
Never look into the plate and pockets of others.
My father to me on contentment. It has worked to this day (30 years since he said that).
Don't take wooden nickles.
I forgot to answer why. It is because they are not REAL nickles.
Don't be an idiot.
';its not faith if your using your eyes.';
that just means follow your heart
Hakuna Matata.
Because my life is so much simpler now... no stress...
you think too much.
being.
At over 40 years old I knew zip about finances except for a checking account. My mother in law explained how to finance a car, about CD's and Money Markets, and loans. This helped me a lot.What is the best advice you've ever been given?
Silently pray to the Almighty even if you don't believe in God........ my father told me when I was 10 yrs old.
Silent prayer is an act in humility that strengthens our mind by silencing unwarranted worries and thereby improving focus on the task at hand.
';Your worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your own unguarded thoughts'; -Buddha
Our thoughts literally create our reality. This is currently accepted by quantum physics. It is just amazing, incredible...
the last time someone told me that this too shall pass and that I shouldn't allow others to manipulate me like that...
I have to thank my friend a million times for that!
';Get Lost!';
I did, and it turned out to be a pretty good TV series about plane crash survivors uncovering mysteries on a tropical island.
The wisdom in ';The Path of the Higher Self,'; Mark Prophet, is some of the best; it provides good insight into ';reality.';
Never look into the plate and pockets of others.
My father to me on contentment. It has worked to this day (30 years since he said that).
Don't take wooden nickles.
I forgot to answer why. It is because they are not REAL nickles.
Don't be an idiot.
';its not faith if your using your eyes.';
that just means follow your heart
Hakuna Matata.
Because my life is so much simpler now... no stress...
you think too much.
being.
What is the best advice you have ever been given?
You can pick your freinds!
You Can pick your nose!
But you cant pick your freinds nose!What is the best advice you have ever been given?
Write down what you want in life. Then it will come true for you.
If you do not write down what you want in life, others will decide your life for you.What is the best advice you have ever been given?
I had been doing volunteer work with special needs children and one of the nurses suggested I go to school and get paid for what I was doing for free. That career lasted 30 years and if I hadnt had brain surgery,I'd still be working.
';After night comes the light.';
It means that no matter how bad things get, it will get better. Like the bright day following the dark night.
Join the military and I did and I retired from the US Army after serving 21 years, then I got a job with the US Postal Service and retired from there after 20 Years.
Everything happens for a reason.
Just get over it. If you dont get over things it eats you up inside and its only you its hurting.
';always wash your hands after shaking someones hand
cause you never know where their hands have been.';
Don't do something for the sake of doing it. Do it because its something you want to do.
that everything that happenes in your life is a test
If you want to find someone to trust, look in the mirror and trust that guy.
popsicles are for summertime
If you cant tell your parents about it its probably wrong. parents were young to And love you
';Only The Strong Survive';...!!
i am in charge of my own destiny and my life is what i make of it..........
';With Great Power Comes Great Responsibly';
I told that to David Koepp, but now all he does is party. What a jerk.
';life is hell keep going and don't hold your hand for comfort';my co worker told me that..
FRiends are f0rever.........Boys aRe WhateVer!!!!!!!!
Grow older, but never grow up. When you grow up, you get old and die.
-Treat others how you wanna be treated
Don't listen to the Jonas Brothers.
Do what is right, and follow no one, you are a leader.
Find God and get lost in music.
Don't whiz on the electric fence.
Trust no one but Allah
when the pole is frozen
DONT LICK IT!!!!
From my Father, People can only take advantage of you, if you let them!
Never bring a knife to a gunfight.
keep your friends close %26amp; your enemies closer.
trust no one
God answers prayers 3 ways...Yes, Not yet %26amp; It's not best for you.
You Can pick your nose!
But you cant pick your freinds nose!What is the best advice you have ever been given?
Write down what you want in life. Then it will come true for you.
If you do not write down what you want in life, others will decide your life for you.What is the best advice you have ever been given?
I had been doing volunteer work with special needs children and one of the nurses suggested I go to school and get paid for what I was doing for free. That career lasted 30 years and if I hadnt had brain surgery,I'd still be working.
';After night comes the light.';
It means that no matter how bad things get, it will get better. Like the bright day following the dark night.
Join the military and I did and I retired from the US Army after serving 21 years, then I got a job with the US Postal Service and retired from there after 20 Years.
Everything happens for a reason.
Just get over it. If you dont get over things it eats you up inside and its only you its hurting.
';always wash your hands after shaking someones hand
cause you never know where their hands have been.';
Don't do something for the sake of doing it. Do it because its something you want to do.
that everything that happenes in your life is a test
If you want to find someone to trust, look in the mirror and trust that guy.
popsicles are for summertime
If you cant tell your parents about it its probably wrong. parents were young to And love you
';Only The Strong Survive';...!!
i am in charge of my own destiny and my life is what i make of it..........
';With Great Power Comes Great Responsibly';
I told that to David Koepp, but now all he does is party. What a jerk.
';life is hell keep going and don't hold your hand for comfort';my co worker told me that..
FRiends are f0rever.........Boys aRe WhateVer!!!!!!!!
Grow older, but never grow up. When you grow up, you get old and die.
-Treat others how you wanna be treated
Don't listen to the Jonas Brothers.
Do what is right, and follow no one, you are a leader.
Find God and get lost in music.
Don't whiz on the electric fence.
Trust no one but Allah
when the pole is frozen
DONT LICK IT!!!!
From my Father, People can only take advantage of you, if you let them!
Never bring a knife to a gunfight.
keep your friends close %26amp; your enemies closer.
trust no one
God answers prayers 3 ways...Yes, Not yet %26amp; It's not best for you.
Can someone help me please? i lost a really good friend i need some advice to try to be a better friend please
be yourself and never ever lie to your friend no matter what. always be faithful to them cuz you never know when you might lose them or you never know when you might need them. learn from that mistake and never make it again.things will work out for the better!Can someone help me please? i lost a really good friend i need some advice to try to be a better friend please
First off if you did something to them , I would apoligize and if they don't except your apoligy then that's their problem, not yours.
First off if you did something to them , I would apoligize and if they don't except your apoligy then that's their problem, not yours.
I want to become a soccer player. What is the best advice?
i want to become a soccer player and i play alright. But how do i get into really good team so that a talent scout can spot me??????I want to become a soccer player. What is the best advice?
Compile your best games and make short clip (about 5mins). Then send it to all major clubs. Hopefully they will give you a tryout.I want to become a soccer player. What is the best advice?
MAKE A VIDEO AND POST IT ON YOUTUBE.COM!!!!!!! YOU'LL BE PROMOTED IN LESS THAN A MONTH ...if ur good
practice
Compile your best games and make short clip (about 5mins). Then send it to all major clubs. Hopefully they will give you a tryout.I want to become a soccer player. What is the best advice?
MAKE A VIDEO AND POST IT ON YOUTUBE.COM!!!!!!! YOU'LL BE PROMOTED IN LESS THAN A MONTH ...if ur good
practice
What is the best advice anyone has ever given you?
someone once told me to ';learn from other peoples mistakes';... that is the best advice I鈥檝e ever received... thank you grandpaWhat is the best advice anyone has ever given you?
Get busy livin' or get busy dyin'.
-OR-
Never marry a woman with big hands. Makes your **** look small.
You choose which is better. Both are from Grandpa.What is the best advice anyone has ever given you?
live as if you will die tomorrow
Always save one beer for morning.
It is better to have tried and failed than to never have tried at all.
Don't drink alcohol. Did I listen? Nah.
Choose your battles wisely, and never let your enemys know when your going to attack.
mine came from a third grade teacher who said do not let history repeat itself. that's almost the same in essence as what your grandpa gave you. great advice.
Always follow your dreams, cause u will never find a reason so pure or stronger that the desire of your heart.
relax. REEEELAAAALAAAALAAAXXXXX.
Never envy the man ahead, study his techniques instead!!
live ur life to the fullest and dont give up on what u want
';that which doesn't kill you will only make you stronger';pores stop pimples
Get busy livin' or get busy dyin'.
-OR-
Never marry a woman with big hands. Makes your **** look small.
You choose which is better. Both are from Grandpa.What is the best advice anyone has ever given you?
live as if you will die tomorrow
Always save one beer for morning.
It is better to have tried and failed than to never have tried at all.
Don't drink alcohol. Did I listen? Nah.
Choose your battles wisely, and never let your enemys know when your going to attack.
mine came from a third grade teacher who said do not let history repeat itself. that's almost the same in essence as what your grandpa gave you. great advice.
Always follow your dreams, cause u will never find a reason so pure or stronger that the desire of your heart.
relax. REEEELAAAALAAAALAAAXXXXX.
Never envy the man ahead, study his techniques instead!!
live ur life to the fullest and dont give up on what u want
';that which doesn't kill you will only make you stronger';
I wana be an A* Student! advice!?
I rli wana get gd grades for ma gcse,ma family isnt rli rich n i cud rli do wiv getin gd grades! im currently getin Cs 4 most in ma subjectz! hv u got ne advice? is da gcse rli hard? hw cn i get gd grades? thankz x x x xI wana be an A* Student! advice!?
work moreI wana be an A* Student! advice!?
correct ur spellings first
Without trying to be a smarta**, you should make sure that spelling words correctly is at the top of your list.
But eliminating mindless activities (like watching too much TV), studying a lot, hanging out with friends who value good grades (and study habits) and making sure to bear down with your homework, notes and test taking should get you there.
Good luck!
first of all learn proper english and spelling.
Pay attention to your teachers and do your homework.
If you have questions ask the teacher.
you can get good grades by listening very carefully and study hard for tests
Hey
I'm at an independent school, so gettin good grades is pretty much compulsory. I don't know why so many ppl r givin u whack 4 ur spellin - this is the internet ffs! neway, tips:
-if u like music, music GCSE is a gr8 subject 2 take cuz its pretty damn easy, specially if u ave a good teachr
-decide b4 if ur an arts person or a sciences person, then take:
For arts: Modern Languages/Classics (Latin%26amp;Greek%26amp;Class. Civ.)/Art/Music/RE/History/Anything related
For Sciences: Chem/Phy/Bio/ICT/Geog/Anything related
-I kno it'll b difficult, but u gotta have a lotta willpower, and cut down on stuff like the TV, computer games, texting, etc., as well as going out, etc.
-****Buy CGP Revision Guides**** I'm not advertising, but htese book reeli r gr8, so...mite wanna invest in dem....
-make sure ur notes r neat nd organised afta each lesson nd typin em up on2 the comp reeli helps to memorise stuff (if u got da time)
-listen 2 ur teacher's advice - if they say u shud take Foundation papers(even tho ur aimin 4 A*s), then its a good idea 2 listen 2 dem - a frend of mine didnt listen, took the higher papers and got Ds, meanin he failed those subjects
-i kno it sounds stupid, but try ta b enthusiastic bout classes - its tru dat if yo teacher likes u then theyll give u less stick and betta grades on coursework nd stuff
-see if u can start gettin music lessons - if theyre 2 xpensive then teach yoself somthin simple, e.g. guitar/ukelele/harmonica - theyll reeli help wen ur bored
-make flashcards wid facts on one side and questions on the otha - then c if u can rememba the answer....
-and finally, WORK HARD! U aint gonna get A*s by sittin on ur bum all day, u gotta get up and do it!!
1-what's gcse?
2-stop spelling like that. rli is spelled really. no really.
3-nothing is impossible. it doesn't matter if you're not rich. believe in yourself. study hard. go for it. change your world, man.
well first of alll your spelling is horrible (no offense sorry) get a dictionary read things like a page or 3 a day, then when u type use spell check. If you find out about a test start studying for it thant day not last minute. Yake notes during class and study a little each day. If you have a project start working on it a head of time you'll get a better grade. Ask your teacher for extra credit, ask you teachers or a smart classmate, for tutoring. Hope I helped :) please pick me for best answer!!!! :)
To get good grades is all about concentration, skill, and commitment. Being a student myself, I find that you need to value somethings over others. Instead of going to a party you may want to do some extra studying on a Saturday night, or maybe have less activities and hobbies and focus more on school work. It all depends on how much you want it, and how much you are willing to sacrifice to get it. Like my brother who only thinks about friends and going out partying, is a bad idea. I am not saying that yo should only do school work, but you should find a balance between being social and doing school work. After all, your friends are not the ones that are going to pay your rent when you get older, it's you.
STUDY hard. There is no other easy way. Good luck.
start with spelling... yours need a lot of work...
work moreI wana be an A* Student! advice!?
correct ur spellings first
Without trying to be a smarta**, you should make sure that spelling words correctly is at the top of your list.
But eliminating mindless activities (like watching too much TV), studying a lot, hanging out with friends who value good grades (and study habits) and making sure to bear down with your homework, notes and test taking should get you there.
Good luck!
first of all learn proper english and spelling.
Pay attention to your teachers and do your homework.
If you have questions ask the teacher.
you can get good grades by listening very carefully and study hard for tests
Hey
I'm at an independent school, so gettin good grades is pretty much compulsory. I don't know why so many ppl r givin u whack 4 ur spellin - this is the internet ffs! neway, tips:
-if u like music, music GCSE is a gr8 subject 2 take cuz its pretty damn easy, specially if u ave a good teachr
-decide b4 if ur an arts person or a sciences person, then take:
For arts: Modern Languages/Classics (Latin%26amp;Greek%26amp;Class. Civ.)/Art/Music/RE/History/Anything related
For Sciences: Chem/Phy/Bio/ICT/Geog/Anything related
-I kno it'll b difficult, but u gotta have a lotta willpower, and cut down on stuff like the TV, computer games, texting, etc., as well as going out, etc.
-****Buy CGP Revision Guides**** I'm not advertising, but htese book reeli r gr8, so...mite wanna invest in dem....
-make sure ur notes r neat nd organised afta each lesson nd typin em up on2 the comp reeli helps to memorise stuff (if u got da time)
-listen 2 ur teacher's advice - if they say u shud take Foundation papers(even tho ur aimin 4 A*s), then its a good idea 2 listen 2 dem - a frend of mine didnt listen, took the higher papers and got Ds, meanin he failed those subjects
-i kno it sounds stupid, but try ta b enthusiastic bout classes - its tru dat if yo teacher likes u then theyll give u less stick and betta grades on coursework nd stuff
-see if u can start gettin music lessons - if theyre 2 xpensive then teach yoself somthin simple, e.g. guitar/ukelele/harmonica - theyll reeli help wen ur bored
-make flashcards wid facts on one side and questions on the otha - then c if u can rememba the answer....
-and finally, WORK HARD! U aint gonna get A*s by sittin on ur bum all day, u gotta get up and do it!!
1-what's gcse?
2-stop spelling like that. rli is spelled really. no really.
3-nothing is impossible. it doesn't matter if you're not rich. believe in yourself. study hard. go for it. change your world, man.
well first of alll your spelling is horrible (no offense sorry) get a dictionary read things like a page or 3 a day, then when u type use spell check. If you find out about a test start studying for it thant day not last minute. Yake notes during class and study a little each day. If you have a project start working on it a head of time you'll get a better grade. Ask your teacher for extra credit, ask you teachers or a smart classmate, for tutoring. Hope I helped :) please pick me for best answer!!!! :)
To get good grades is all about concentration, skill, and commitment. Being a student myself, I find that you need to value somethings over others. Instead of going to a party you may want to do some extra studying on a Saturday night, or maybe have less activities and hobbies and focus more on school work. It all depends on how much you want it, and how much you are willing to sacrifice to get it. Like my brother who only thinks about friends and going out partying, is a bad idea. I am not saying that yo should only do school work, but you should find a balance between being social and doing school work. After all, your friends are not the ones that are going to pay your rent when you get older, it's you.
STUDY hard. There is no other easy way. Good luck.
start with spelling... yours need a lot of work...
Will we be asking hugo chavez for advice, next?
http://www.yahoo.com/s/1039526Will we be asking hugo chavez for advice, next?
No
No
I am moving out, and Im only 18. I just need some good advice on possibly things to think about.?
I get paid ten dollars an hour, and going to acc in the fall, taking 3 classes. Im also moving out, I have a good steady job, but I have never moved out before, so I just need some helpful advice. :) hope I get some good replies!I am moving out, and Im only 18. I just need some good advice on possibly things to think about.?
To start there aren't many places that will rent to an 18 year old. Besides rent you have security deposit on the apt. plus possibly any utilities deposits not covered in the rent such as electricity and telephone plus their monthlt bills. Then there's the furniture. You'll need everything except stove and refrigerator. Don't forget the food. How about car insurance, car repair and gas. I guess if your question had been answered by another 18 year old results would have been different. Sorry these are the facts. $10.00 an hour isn't going to stretch. It makes staying home sound a little better dosen't it.
P.S. What about books, tuition and supplies. Will you need a computer?I am moving out, and Im only 18. I just need some good advice on possibly things to think about.?
if i were you i would get an apartment simple because you wouldn't need the space of a house and (IMO) apartments seem more relaxed not rushing into the future having kids and whatnot
get what im saying?
To start there aren't many places that will rent to an 18 year old. Besides rent you have security deposit on the apt. plus possibly any utilities deposits not covered in the rent such as electricity and telephone plus their monthlt bills. Then there's the furniture. You'll need everything except stove and refrigerator. Don't forget the food. How about car insurance, car repair and gas. I guess if your question had been answered by another 18 year old results would have been different. Sorry these are the facts. $10.00 an hour isn't going to stretch. It makes staying home sound a little better dosen't it.
P.S. What about books, tuition and supplies. Will you need a computer?I am moving out, and Im only 18. I just need some good advice on possibly things to think about.?
if i were you i would get an apartment simple because you wouldn't need the space of a house and (IMO) apartments seem more relaxed not rushing into the future having kids and whatnot
get what im saying?
What is the best wedding advice you would give a bride who is planning her wedding?
1) Decide what you want your wedding to be like - small and intimate, simple and romantic, elaborate etc
2) Do your research on venues etc
3) Decide your budget - and stick to it
4) Don't underestimate the amount of time it will take to organise
5) Don't stress too much about bending over backwards to please your guests/people you don't want to invite
6) Remember what it's all about - you and your fiance getting married and being together
7) Have fun!
Good luck.What is the best wedding advice you would give a bride who is planning her wedding?
I would watch a show called whos wedding is it anyway.I've watched that show and its very good.It gives me alot of ideas for my wedding.you can also bough a book call planing a wdding to remember by beverly clark.Keep it simple and keep a budget. make sure you don't go over you're budget. good luckWhat is the best wedding advice you would give a bride who is planning her wedding?
Two things especially - for all these months leading up to the wedding, you get swept up in planning for the ';wedding'; and not so much on the marriage to come, which is more important. Make sure to spend time with your man - completely free of wedding talk - every once in a while. Just the two of you.
My second advice is based on personal experience, and it may or may not apply to you. I wear glasses, and my glasses broke the morning of the wedding. I picked them off the counter and they just cracked in two at the nosepiece. I had no backup! I was in a very small city with no optical places open on Sat., so just found a way to put them together so I could at least drive a bit. Went through my wedding ';blind'; - I can see close up, but not faraway. So, if you have corrective lenses of any type, have backup! (sorry for the big story if you don't) (but anything can happen).
Be organized. My friend had a binder with everything in it. Dress selection, flowers, catering, etc... She kept all the receipts in it so everything was together and in one place.
Don't go broke for this, if you have the money or someone is paying for it then great. But don't start your first year out in financial stress by charging everything and getting loans. Simple can sometimes be the prettiest wedding. The first year of marriage is hard enough without having bills left over from the wedding.
Check out that the fire door is open at the ceremony!
Only kidding, I wish you all the luck in the world for your future happiness. :-)
My wife and I opened a joint checking before we got married to help pay the wedding bills. We had auto pay from our own checking accounts ($100 a month each) to the joint account. It helped out when we were paying the bills i.e. DJ, photographer, flowers, etc.
take your time and make lots of notes and ask for help from your family and friends. try to stop %26amp; think before you buy something as to where you are going to use it, it will help you save money. try to outline what you what the overall feel of the wedding to be, if you have a theme in your head write it down and brainstorm what you picture going with that theme. It can be a little overwhelming, just take your time (i had 1.5 yrs to plan), make sure you let your wedding party/family that is helping you know how you picture your special day so that they can be of help to you. Good luck!!
Try and remember that you will have everyone telling you the ';right'; way to do things regarding your wedding, but ultimately it's your day and YOU should do it your way. That's really all you need to know. Trust me on this one.
Watch Bridezillas, and make a note to not act like them.
don't do it!
Expect the unexpected. More likely than not, something will not work out exactly as planned on your wedding day. Be prepared to take it in stride and try not to stress over every little detail.
For example on my wedding day we had an outdoor ceremony. We brought our own stereo/boom box to play the music on. It had batteries in it (thank god) because we used it the day before for rehearsal. For the actual day of the wedding they were suppose to bring electricity out to us (via an extension cord and some discretely placed electrical boxes on the location). However, on the day of the wedding they couldn't get it to work. So, it was a good thing we had batteries. The only downside was we were afraid that no one would be able to hear us (we had microphones prepared). So we just tried to speak up. Sure enough after the ceremony, everyone heard us just fine and had no clue we were planning on using microphones. It also ended up being a little windy for us to use the aisle runner and the place forgot to give us the stakes to stake it down (in case of wind), once again, no one noticed we were originally going to have an aisle runner. (The place refunded us the cost for both of these items, so if something doesn't work, be sure to ask)
Another issue was the DJ got a confused and played the wrong song during the removal of the garter belt. We just went with it and once again, no one noticed.
Also, be sure to go over your photo must list with your photographer. In the confusion we ended up missing a couple of shots we would really loved having. In all of the confusion we thought that the photographer took a couple of shots (that when the pics came back we realized he didn't).
So, if something happens to go wrong, just go with. Be happy and just have fun. The day goes by way to quickly to fuss over every single little detail.
Now I know this may sound like my big day went horribly wrong, but it did not. It ended up being a really wonderful day. However, it could have went by a little slower. Before we knew it, it was all over.
Good Luck with your planning!
To get a Miss Manners book and read it cover to cover before planning any specific details. Nothing is more important than getting your etiquette right and being a gracious bride and host!
relax, have fun with it. you hopefully only get one wedding, dont ruin it for yourself. dont sweat the small stuff that you dont even really care about. do what you and your fiance want, not what your mom wants or your sister, ect. Also, delegate responsibilities, it'll make things so much easier on you.
Valium.... It's sad but true... weight until your mother start going on about inviting people and your mother in law is giving you a list of all of her friends.... and your FI is fighting you with the cost of flowers because Rose can't possible cost that much....
LOL- it's really not that bad but someday I could pull my hair out.
You just need to plan and be well organized. That's the best advice I can give you. And book right away, everything books very quickly these days!!
Simple is best and plan it however you and your fiancee want. Enjoy!!
Don't get stressed enjoy the planning.
First, STAY ORGANIZED . I had a three-ringed binder with plastic sleeves to keep all important paper wok ( contracts, recipes, etc). Secondly, Give yourself enough time to PLAN. And Third, do not be afraid to DELEGATE responsibility. During your planning stage people will say things like ';If there is any thing that I can do...'; Take them up on it!. If your aunt is a baker, have her bake your cake, if your friend is a D.J., hire him to D.J. the wedding. You don't have to spend a million dollars to have a beautiful, elegant wedding.
Accept offers of help
Let your brides maids choose their own dresses (in complimentary colors)
Simplify!
1. Don't get so caught up in the planning that you forget about the marriage, or nurturing your current relationship.
2. Everyone will want a say. How you deal with it will set the tone of your wedding.
3. Keep it simple. People remember the little moments more than the centerpieces they can't see over.
4. Start your own family tradition at your wedding. Personalize it.
5. Say thank you and be gracious to anyone who helps. Don't expect people to do things just because it's ';tradition'; or ';etiquette';.
6. Breathe.
Remember your wedding will only last ONE day, but your marriage is forever, so get out now, while you still have a chance!!Only kidding, just remember WHY you are getting married, don't get too caught up in planning the ';party';!!
If you have the services in the area, hire a wedding coordinator. Planning a wedding is a huge ordeal and if you never have done it, you will have a lot of stress. If you have no coordinator in your area ask for help from others that have planned weddings, like the vendors you are hiring.
Just remember that things go wrong, you can't please everyone, it is over before you know it, and no matter what you will be married to the person you love at the end of it all.
Don't sweat the small stuff. This is supposed to be a very exciting and fun time in your life. So, plan something that you know you and your husband to be will enjoy.
2) Do your research on venues etc
3) Decide your budget - and stick to it
4) Don't underestimate the amount of time it will take to organise
5) Don't stress too much about bending over backwards to please your guests/people you don't want to invite
6) Remember what it's all about - you and your fiance getting married and being together
7) Have fun!
Good luck.What is the best wedding advice you would give a bride who is planning her wedding?
I would watch a show called whos wedding is it anyway.I've watched that show and its very good.It gives me alot of ideas for my wedding.you can also bough a book call planing a wdding to remember by beverly clark.Keep it simple and keep a budget. make sure you don't go over you're budget. good luckWhat is the best wedding advice you would give a bride who is planning her wedding?
Two things especially - for all these months leading up to the wedding, you get swept up in planning for the ';wedding'; and not so much on the marriage to come, which is more important. Make sure to spend time with your man - completely free of wedding talk - every once in a while. Just the two of you.
My second advice is based on personal experience, and it may or may not apply to you. I wear glasses, and my glasses broke the morning of the wedding. I picked them off the counter and they just cracked in two at the nosepiece. I had no backup! I was in a very small city with no optical places open on Sat., so just found a way to put them together so I could at least drive a bit. Went through my wedding ';blind'; - I can see close up, but not faraway. So, if you have corrective lenses of any type, have backup! (sorry for the big story if you don't) (but anything can happen).
Be organized. My friend had a binder with everything in it. Dress selection, flowers, catering, etc... She kept all the receipts in it so everything was together and in one place.
Don't go broke for this, if you have the money or someone is paying for it then great. But don't start your first year out in financial stress by charging everything and getting loans. Simple can sometimes be the prettiest wedding. The first year of marriage is hard enough without having bills left over from the wedding.
Check out that the fire door is open at the ceremony!
Only kidding, I wish you all the luck in the world for your future happiness. :-)
My wife and I opened a joint checking before we got married to help pay the wedding bills. We had auto pay from our own checking accounts ($100 a month each) to the joint account. It helped out when we were paying the bills i.e. DJ, photographer, flowers, etc.
take your time and make lots of notes and ask for help from your family and friends. try to stop %26amp; think before you buy something as to where you are going to use it, it will help you save money. try to outline what you what the overall feel of the wedding to be, if you have a theme in your head write it down and brainstorm what you picture going with that theme. It can be a little overwhelming, just take your time (i had 1.5 yrs to plan), make sure you let your wedding party/family that is helping you know how you picture your special day so that they can be of help to you. Good luck!!
Try and remember that you will have everyone telling you the ';right'; way to do things regarding your wedding, but ultimately it's your day and YOU should do it your way. That's really all you need to know. Trust me on this one.
Watch Bridezillas, and make a note to not act like them.
don't do it!
Expect the unexpected. More likely than not, something will not work out exactly as planned on your wedding day. Be prepared to take it in stride and try not to stress over every little detail.
For example on my wedding day we had an outdoor ceremony. We brought our own stereo/boom box to play the music on. It had batteries in it (thank god) because we used it the day before for rehearsal. For the actual day of the wedding they were suppose to bring electricity out to us (via an extension cord and some discretely placed electrical boxes on the location). However, on the day of the wedding they couldn't get it to work. So, it was a good thing we had batteries. The only downside was we were afraid that no one would be able to hear us (we had microphones prepared). So we just tried to speak up. Sure enough after the ceremony, everyone heard us just fine and had no clue we were planning on using microphones. It also ended up being a little windy for us to use the aisle runner and the place forgot to give us the stakes to stake it down (in case of wind), once again, no one noticed we were originally going to have an aisle runner. (The place refunded us the cost for both of these items, so if something doesn't work, be sure to ask)
Another issue was the DJ got a confused and played the wrong song during the removal of the garter belt. We just went with it and once again, no one noticed.
Also, be sure to go over your photo must list with your photographer. In the confusion we ended up missing a couple of shots we would really loved having. In all of the confusion we thought that the photographer took a couple of shots (that when the pics came back we realized he didn't).
So, if something happens to go wrong, just go with. Be happy and just have fun. The day goes by way to quickly to fuss over every single little detail.
Now I know this may sound like my big day went horribly wrong, but it did not. It ended up being a really wonderful day. However, it could have went by a little slower. Before we knew it, it was all over.
Good Luck with your planning!
To get a Miss Manners book and read it cover to cover before planning any specific details. Nothing is more important than getting your etiquette right and being a gracious bride and host!
relax, have fun with it. you hopefully only get one wedding, dont ruin it for yourself. dont sweat the small stuff that you dont even really care about. do what you and your fiance want, not what your mom wants or your sister, ect. Also, delegate responsibilities, it'll make things so much easier on you.
Valium.... It's sad but true... weight until your mother start going on about inviting people and your mother in law is giving you a list of all of her friends.... and your FI is fighting you with the cost of flowers because Rose can't possible cost that much....
LOL- it's really not that bad but someday I could pull my hair out.
You just need to plan and be well organized. That's the best advice I can give you. And book right away, everything books very quickly these days!!
Simple is best and plan it however you and your fiancee want. Enjoy!!
Don't get stressed enjoy the planning.
First, STAY ORGANIZED . I had a three-ringed binder with plastic sleeves to keep all important paper wok ( contracts, recipes, etc). Secondly, Give yourself enough time to PLAN. And Third, do not be afraid to DELEGATE responsibility. During your planning stage people will say things like ';If there is any thing that I can do...'; Take them up on it!. If your aunt is a baker, have her bake your cake, if your friend is a D.J., hire him to D.J. the wedding. You don't have to spend a million dollars to have a beautiful, elegant wedding.
Accept offers of help
Let your brides maids choose their own dresses (in complimentary colors)
Simplify!
1. Don't get so caught up in the planning that you forget about the marriage, or nurturing your current relationship.
2. Everyone will want a say. How you deal with it will set the tone of your wedding.
3. Keep it simple. People remember the little moments more than the centerpieces they can't see over.
4. Start your own family tradition at your wedding. Personalize it.
5. Say thank you and be gracious to anyone who helps. Don't expect people to do things just because it's ';tradition'; or ';etiquette';.
6. Breathe.
Remember your wedding will only last ONE day, but your marriage is forever, so get out now, while you still have a chance!!Only kidding, just remember WHY you are getting married, don't get too caught up in planning the ';party';!!
If you have the services in the area, hire a wedding coordinator. Planning a wedding is a huge ordeal and if you never have done it, you will have a lot of stress. If you have no coordinator in your area ask for help from others that have planned weddings, like the vendors you are hiring.
Just remember that things go wrong, you can't please everyone, it is over before you know it, and no matter what you will be married to the person you love at the end of it all.
Don't sweat the small stuff. This is supposed to be a very exciting and fun time in your life. So, plan something that you know you and your husband to be will enjoy.
Please don't prejudge me, try to be in my shoes (long but I need advice, I have no one to talk to) 10 points..
Where do I start? ufff
ok, I am 31 year old American soldier stationed in Belgium, when I first came to Belgium I left in California a partner (I am gay) of 4 years.... we started doing the long distance relationship but eventually we grew apart (apparently I did more) though we still call each other and we haven't broken up.
Almost 7 months ago I met this Hungarian guy working tempoerarily in Belgium and we started as simply friends, eventually we both fell in love and became who I consider to be my soul mate, everything I look for in a person.... (did I mention I am gay?), he is 33 and once again, e was living in Belgium temporarily until august 01,08 because of his job; make story short, he also had a long distance relationship back in hungary with his partner of 6 years, although according to his account, the relationship was pretty much over after he found a profile on the internet from his partner, looking for sexual partners......
we decided to give it a try without talking to our respective partners eventhugh we both knew that our relationship would eventually become long distance as I am in the Army and he was going to hungary and we had both long term long distance relationships.
We became quite attached and pretty much soul mates to the point he proposed me to get out of the army and marry him under european gay marriage laws so I could stay in europe and work and live with him to which I accepted.
well the time came for him to leave and he is now back in hungary, I am going thru a lot of pain because of the distance and the fact that I am also sort of fed up of being in the military, I have a year and a half left in my contract.
he calls me and tells me he misses me and all, me moving to hungary is not an option as once again I am in the Army, but there are certain things that bother me, one he has been in hungary for a week and he has yet to speak with his so called partner about his new life and how they should both terminate the relationship.... two, I see pictures from my california partner and i feel like I still have feelings for him and third
we talk for a few minutes 16 minutes or so every day, mostly at night and then he has to go because his brother/ friend/ parents/ dinner date with colleagues etc, so talking to me becomes like a secondary priority over his social affairs.
Me, I am tremendously lonely here in belgium, I am in a very rural area with not many things to do so my escape is the weekends which I use to go to paris, london, amsterdam etc. he on the other hand is back in his home country surrounded by his family, friends, culture etc..... this gives me the feelings I am suffering more and makes it feel like it is unfair to me for some reason.
I sent him a very honest open email about my feelings the same day he left (6 days ago) and I have yet to see a reply because he doesnt have internet yet, but his parents, friends , brother have internet, he saw the email and is waiting for the internet to be connected in his home, if it was me i would have replied long ago already from a friend's computer if i love him that much!! my sweet phone messages come back with a simple.......... yeah I love u too baby.
He claims he loves me and actually cried when I told him maybe we should go our own ways like a month before because he said he is convinced i am the love of his life.
I love him a lot and it hurts me to think that our relationship might just come to an end because of the situation, maybe it was not meant to be but on the other hand I believe he is the love of my life and I don't want to lose him... I feel as if I should fight it for him, I mean why not take the risk and tell the army i am gay so I can be discharged and go to him? would that be smart?
I feel as if God or destiny just likes to play with my feelings....
I am really in need of some advice of what should I do....
I need some tips on how to live day by day in this tiny little town while he is away, I also want him to communicate more with me..... 16 minute calls every day at night is not enough, he wont text message me unless I text message him and then when he calls me he sort of rushes things so he can hang up the phone..... I feel as if he is having it easier than although he claims he is not.
please help me somehow, I am desperate and tired and lonely.Please don't prejudge me, try to be in my shoes (long but I need advice, I have no one to talk to) 10 points..
All of you problems are arising out of one thing. Your mind is either in the past or the future. You are not attempting to spend most of your thoughts in the present moment. When we think of the past or the future, it always is worry, concern, fear or something else. If we attempt to live in the now and life that moment we feel more at peace. Do not do anything at this time, because you sound too confused. Try to keep your mind out of the past and the future and go on with your day to day life. Give yourself a month or more and then choose a direction which gives you more peace in your heart. You always have a way out of the army if you want to (telling them you are gay) so you do not have to concern yourself about that. Let things come to you, don't go chasing after what you feel you want at this time. If you are meant to be togehter with your new soul mate, you will, if you do not stress over it. Let things happen. I do not belong to an organized religion but I do believe that if you ';Let go and let God'; in otherwords just let things happen, you are always better off.
Good luck.
GrandmotherPlease don't prejudge me, try to be in my shoes (long but I need advice, I have no one to talk to) 10 points..
Go look for someone else because it is Definitely possible that he is into girls now.
Tell the story where there's love can be.
First of all -the boyfriend in California. I think you just need to ask him (and yourself) some really important questions. Like - Does he still want to be in this relationship? Is he willing to work out any problems you might have, maybe with counseling? maybe his distant behaviour is because he feels like the relationship is already lost and if you both are not really saying how you feel then there will be a lot of confusion and neither of you wanting to say incase the other one doesn't agree. Can you write him a letter? That way you can think about what you want say and you won't hurt him by blurting something out when you are angry or upset. Be open and honest about what you want from him and if he wants the same, then great. If not then you are going to have to accept that it's over.
The Hungarian - I think when you met him, you were feeling rejected and lonely and while I'm not saying that the feelings weren't real, ask yourself if you would have considered it if the circumstances had been different? Maybe he was just lookin for a bit of fun while he was in Belgium, safe in the knowledge that he wouldn't get caught? I think the reason he hasn't broken up with his partner is because he has no intention of doing so. You should maybe forget about him;he is just going to hurt you and confuse you even more. Try and work things out with your boyfriend and if you can't, take it as an opportunity to sort out what YOU want. Good luck in whatever decision you make
I hope you're okay. I know it's hard. I'm going through a similar situation in my life (emotionally, at least). It's so confusing, and it's so hard to know what is the right thing to do. The only advice I can really give (and I am trying to do this too) is to follow your heart. Your heart will hopefully lead you to do what is best for you. What would make you most happy? What would make life really worth living? Who would you rather spend the rest of your life with? And try to stay positive even though it's hard. Maybe he doesn't call because he's going through similar emotions as you are, maybe he's doubting himself or worrying and this is making him be distant.
I hope you're doing all right and I wish you the best. Really. I know I don't know you but I know how painful it is to be dealing with confusing relationships like you are describing, and it just breaks my heart to know you're going through something like this too.
Aw hunny that's horrible. It sounds like your partner's depressed about being away from you, It happens to me with friends when I moved interstate, it was so hard to talk, we had short answers to each others questions and it felt like we were drifting away, but it turns out we're still best buddies and we still love each other just as much if not more.
i am 36 with 4 kids if you need to talk im me. im female
instant message me i am a good listener and i do not judge, all my friends ring me for advice. im the agony aunt.
Hey Soldier..I'm sorry that you're lonely. I'm trying to remove the military component from your question, mostly becuase relationships are pretty much the same no matter the context (yes there are peculiarities to a military relationship, but I don't think they have bearing in this case). Sounds like the ';love of your life'; isn't all he's cracked up to be. Personally I think you are being played. He hasn't broken up with his boyfriend, he hasn't replied to your email, and his reply is ';yeah, I love you too baby';? Destiny's Child had it right with their song ';Say my Name';. If he's so in love with you, why isn't he shouting it from the rooftops? Why hasn't he broken up with his current boyfriend? I think he's just stringing you along. I know this is hard to hear, but I definitely wouldn't jeopardize my military career by outing yourself. I think it's really sad that the military has a ';don't ask don't tell'; policy in the first place. It's never good to have to hide who you are. Having said that, it is the way it is. Don't ruin your career over a guy who isn't worth it. And for the record anyone (man or woman) who doesn't give you the same love you give them isn't worth it.
First of all i need to thank you for fighting for our country. second i need to say if it is meant to be then it will happen. but it sounds like you are more committed than he. when he is with you he cant imagine anything else but when you are apart he has other things on his mind... i know this is hard to hear and hard for me to judge as well... but it kind of sounds like he may have something still with his ex. they have been together for six years and they obviously see something in eachother that they like or even love...and no matter how great his love for you is, when he sees this other man who he loves and who loves him, well it can get distracting. but also he doesnt seem like the faithful type, when something is new and exciting thats all he can think about but when the excitement is gone he seems to move on. he cheated on his partner for you, but this pattern could repeat itsself... just dont get hurt. tell him how you feel sweetie. and try to take up a hobby that will distract you and make you happy. think carefully about the relationship you left behind in California. Think about how you feel about him. Talk to him just to settle your emotions to either confirm your love for the man from Hungary or your feelings for the guy from California. Dont make any rash decisions. you have a lot of time! relax and try not to think about it so hard. listen to your heart and a little of your brain ;). you just need to make sure you are putting your love and faith in someone that truly deserves it. maybe you just need to look at both of them or something. whatever helps you. Good luck with your relationships and thank you for your hard work!
I hope everything works out!
~L.
p.s. please answer mine!
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I can see you have a strong devotion to him. Some people will say he moved on, still, I'd like to note that people handle that sort of thing a different way. I've known girls in long distance relationships who kinda avoid their lover because they miss them so much and it hurts to talk to them. I'm sorry you're having this trouble.
you know what, i somehow can relate to you. however, your situation is pretty difficult. you can't make choices. you can't make decisions. settle your feelings to the guy you left in california. do you love him still? do still care for him?
about the guy you met in belgium, do you love him as much as you love the one in california? or do you love him more?
weigh things carefully. don't let some things cloud your judgment.
you're depressed. look for some outlets like stroll around, eat, think of the happy moments you've been together.
by the way, it's not the end of the world yet. you still can look for guys. cheer up! maybe greater things are in store for you. who knows.
ok, I am 31 year old American soldier stationed in Belgium, when I first came to Belgium I left in California a partner (I am gay) of 4 years.... we started doing the long distance relationship but eventually we grew apart (apparently I did more) though we still call each other and we haven't broken up.
Almost 7 months ago I met this Hungarian guy working tempoerarily in Belgium and we started as simply friends, eventually we both fell in love and became who I consider to be my soul mate, everything I look for in a person.... (did I mention I am gay?), he is 33 and once again, e was living in Belgium temporarily until august 01,08 because of his job; make story short, he also had a long distance relationship back in hungary with his partner of 6 years, although according to his account, the relationship was pretty much over after he found a profile on the internet from his partner, looking for sexual partners......
we decided to give it a try without talking to our respective partners eventhugh we both knew that our relationship would eventually become long distance as I am in the Army and he was going to hungary and we had both long term long distance relationships.
We became quite attached and pretty much soul mates to the point he proposed me to get out of the army and marry him under european gay marriage laws so I could stay in europe and work and live with him to which I accepted.
well the time came for him to leave and he is now back in hungary, I am going thru a lot of pain because of the distance and the fact that I am also sort of fed up of being in the military, I have a year and a half left in my contract.
he calls me and tells me he misses me and all, me moving to hungary is not an option as once again I am in the Army, but there are certain things that bother me, one he has been in hungary for a week and he has yet to speak with his so called partner about his new life and how they should both terminate the relationship.... two, I see pictures from my california partner and i feel like I still have feelings for him and third
we talk for a few minutes 16 minutes or so every day, mostly at night and then he has to go because his brother/ friend/ parents/ dinner date with colleagues etc, so talking to me becomes like a secondary priority over his social affairs.
Me, I am tremendously lonely here in belgium, I am in a very rural area with not many things to do so my escape is the weekends which I use to go to paris, london, amsterdam etc. he on the other hand is back in his home country surrounded by his family, friends, culture etc..... this gives me the feelings I am suffering more and makes it feel like it is unfair to me for some reason.
I sent him a very honest open email about my feelings the same day he left (6 days ago) and I have yet to see a reply because he doesnt have internet yet, but his parents, friends , brother have internet, he saw the email and is waiting for the internet to be connected in his home, if it was me i would have replied long ago already from a friend's computer if i love him that much!! my sweet phone messages come back with a simple.......... yeah I love u too baby.
He claims he loves me and actually cried when I told him maybe we should go our own ways like a month before because he said he is convinced i am the love of his life.
I love him a lot and it hurts me to think that our relationship might just come to an end because of the situation, maybe it was not meant to be but on the other hand I believe he is the love of my life and I don't want to lose him... I feel as if I should fight it for him, I mean why not take the risk and tell the army i am gay so I can be discharged and go to him? would that be smart?
I feel as if God or destiny just likes to play with my feelings....
I am really in need of some advice of what should I do....
I need some tips on how to live day by day in this tiny little town while he is away, I also want him to communicate more with me..... 16 minute calls every day at night is not enough, he wont text message me unless I text message him and then when he calls me he sort of rushes things so he can hang up the phone..... I feel as if he is having it easier than although he claims he is not.
please help me somehow, I am desperate and tired and lonely.Please don't prejudge me, try to be in my shoes (long but I need advice, I have no one to talk to) 10 points..
All of you problems are arising out of one thing. Your mind is either in the past or the future. You are not attempting to spend most of your thoughts in the present moment. When we think of the past or the future, it always is worry, concern, fear or something else. If we attempt to live in the now and life that moment we feel more at peace. Do not do anything at this time, because you sound too confused. Try to keep your mind out of the past and the future and go on with your day to day life. Give yourself a month or more and then choose a direction which gives you more peace in your heart. You always have a way out of the army if you want to (telling them you are gay) so you do not have to concern yourself about that. Let things come to you, don't go chasing after what you feel you want at this time. If you are meant to be togehter with your new soul mate, you will, if you do not stress over it. Let things happen. I do not belong to an organized religion but I do believe that if you ';Let go and let God'; in otherwords just let things happen, you are always better off.
Good luck.
GrandmotherPlease don't prejudge me, try to be in my shoes (long but I need advice, I have no one to talk to) 10 points..
Go look for someone else because it is Definitely possible that he is into girls now.
Tell the story where there's love can be.
First of all -the boyfriend in California. I think you just need to ask him (and yourself) some really important questions. Like - Does he still want to be in this relationship? Is he willing to work out any problems you might have, maybe with counseling? maybe his distant behaviour is because he feels like the relationship is already lost and if you both are not really saying how you feel then there will be a lot of confusion and neither of you wanting to say incase the other one doesn't agree. Can you write him a letter? That way you can think about what you want say and you won't hurt him by blurting something out when you are angry or upset. Be open and honest about what you want from him and if he wants the same, then great. If not then you are going to have to accept that it's over.
The Hungarian - I think when you met him, you were feeling rejected and lonely and while I'm not saying that the feelings weren't real, ask yourself if you would have considered it if the circumstances had been different? Maybe he was just lookin for a bit of fun while he was in Belgium, safe in the knowledge that he wouldn't get caught? I think the reason he hasn't broken up with his partner is because he has no intention of doing so. You should maybe forget about him;he is just going to hurt you and confuse you even more. Try and work things out with your boyfriend and if you can't, take it as an opportunity to sort out what YOU want. Good luck in whatever decision you make
I hope you're okay. I know it's hard. I'm going through a similar situation in my life (emotionally, at least). It's so confusing, and it's so hard to know what is the right thing to do. The only advice I can really give (and I am trying to do this too) is to follow your heart. Your heart will hopefully lead you to do what is best for you. What would make you most happy? What would make life really worth living? Who would you rather spend the rest of your life with? And try to stay positive even though it's hard. Maybe he doesn't call because he's going through similar emotions as you are, maybe he's doubting himself or worrying and this is making him be distant.
I hope you're doing all right and I wish you the best. Really. I know I don't know you but I know how painful it is to be dealing with confusing relationships like you are describing, and it just breaks my heart to know you're going through something like this too.
Aw hunny that's horrible. It sounds like your partner's depressed about being away from you, It happens to me with friends when I moved interstate, it was so hard to talk, we had short answers to each others questions and it felt like we were drifting away, but it turns out we're still best buddies and we still love each other just as much if not more.
i am 36 with 4 kids if you need to talk im me. im female
instant message me i am a good listener and i do not judge, all my friends ring me for advice. im the agony aunt.
Hey Soldier..I'm sorry that you're lonely. I'm trying to remove the military component from your question, mostly becuase relationships are pretty much the same no matter the context (yes there are peculiarities to a military relationship, but I don't think they have bearing in this case). Sounds like the ';love of your life'; isn't all he's cracked up to be. Personally I think you are being played. He hasn't broken up with his boyfriend, he hasn't replied to your email, and his reply is ';yeah, I love you too baby';? Destiny's Child had it right with their song ';Say my Name';. If he's so in love with you, why isn't he shouting it from the rooftops? Why hasn't he broken up with his current boyfriend? I think he's just stringing you along. I know this is hard to hear, but I definitely wouldn't jeopardize my military career by outing yourself. I think it's really sad that the military has a ';don't ask don't tell'; policy in the first place. It's never good to have to hide who you are. Having said that, it is the way it is. Don't ruin your career over a guy who isn't worth it. And for the record anyone (man or woman) who doesn't give you the same love you give them isn't worth it.
First of all i need to thank you for fighting for our country. second i need to say if it is meant to be then it will happen. but it sounds like you are more committed than he. when he is with you he cant imagine anything else but when you are apart he has other things on his mind... i know this is hard to hear and hard for me to judge as well... but it kind of sounds like he may have something still with his ex. they have been together for six years and they obviously see something in eachother that they like or even love...and no matter how great his love for you is, when he sees this other man who he loves and who loves him, well it can get distracting. but also he doesnt seem like the faithful type, when something is new and exciting thats all he can think about but when the excitement is gone he seems to move on. he cheated on his partner for you, but this pattern could repeat itsself... just dont get hurt. tell him how you feel sweetie. and try to take up a hobby that will distract you and make you happy. think carefully about the relationship you left behind in California. Think about how you feel about him. Talk to him just to settle your emotions to either confirm your love for the man from Hungary or your feelings for the guy from California. Dont make any rash decisions. you have a lot of time! relax and try not to think about it so hard. listen to your heart and a little of your brain ;). you just need to make sure you are putting your love and faith in someone that truly deserves it. maybe you just need to look at both of them or something. whatever helps you. Good luck with your relationships and thank you for your hard work!
I hope everything works out!
~L.
p.s. please answer mine!
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;…
I can see you have a strong devotion to him. Some people will say he moved on, still, I'd like to note that people handle that sort of thing a different way. I've known girls in long distance relationships who kinda avoid their lover because they miss them so much and it hurts to talk to them. I'm sorry you're having this trouble.
you know what, i somehow can relate to you. however, your situation is pretty difficult. you can't make choices. you can't make decisions. settle your feelings to the guy you left in california. do you love him still? do still care for him?
about the guy you met in belgium, do you love him as much as you love the one in california? or do you love him more?
weigh things carefully. don't let some things cloud your judgment.
you're depressed. look for some outlets like stroll around, eat, think of the happy moments you've been together.
by the way, it's not the end of the world yet. you still can look for guys. cheer up! maybe greater things are in store for you. who knows.
Are you good at relationship advice? Can you help me out?
I've been dating my best friend for 3 years, and have lived with him for 2. He has not proposed yet, although one minute we're looking for rings and the next minute he's saying he can't afford it. Our sex life is not good (he lasts for 2 minutes), and recently I have been meeting an old friend to fill in the sex department. I clean up after my bf and his dogs like I'm his maid, and his excuse is that he ';works';. He does not give me $ or pay for my living expenses, so I don't see that as an excuse. Needless to say, he doesn't make me feel ';special'; anymore either.
What would you do? I love him but I'm contemplating moving out. Is this just a rutt that some couples go through?Are you good at relationship advice? Can you help me out?
This is not a rutt. You answered yourself when you met your ';old friend'; for sex. If you loved this guy, the kind of love that should lead to marriage, which is not easy under the best circumstances, then you would never be meeting an ';old friend'; for sex.
You can love someone but not be in love. Don't get married, move on, move out, tell him you are sorry but you just want to stay friends and part ways.
Remember that song ';just drop off the key Lee and set yourself free';Are you good at relationship advice? Can you help me out?
It doesn't sounds like you are getting your physical or emotional needs met. I certainly wouldn't consider marrying him with the feelings you are having. Marriage won't fix him...he'll still be the same guy with the same personality so think hard about that. I think it's time to ask yourself what you are getting out of this relationship. It should work both ways. You should each do things around the house and you should both make each other feel special. Maybe moving out will help you to think clearer and take an outside look at him and your relationship. You have already gone outside of your relationship for sex, that isn't going to help fix this relationship you are in. Take a break and see how you feel without him for a while. Always take care of yourself and be sure your needs are met as well as his. Everyone deserves to feel happy and special. Good luck to you.BTW, have you talked to him openly about how you feel? If he's not willing to work on changing for the better, then I think you know the answer....you deserve more out of a relationship.
i feel for u I'm going threw the same thing. and i wish i had the answer myself. i know it hurts, but sometimes its better to throw the towel in, and say the hell with this. there is more to life then feeling lonely,and unhappy. you have pretty much answered your question when u say things are bad in the bedroom, or he don't make you feel special any more. you deserve to be happy and so does he, maybe he's not happy either. ask him how he feels. i will tell u it's not any greener on the other side of the fence, just so u know that. good luck in what ever you need to do. i hope all turns out well. and everybody is happy in the end.
Gee wiz girl move your b-t out and get your own place!
Why live with guy you know you will never be married to!
Find a meaningfull relationship, fall in love first marry the guy your in love with that respects you and returns your love!
Love is not something you just throw around like a dirty pair of underware!
You're not being faithful and it doesn't sound like he's that into the relationship. I would say this isn't a ';rutt';.
When you are in a truly succesful relationship you manage to fill eachother's needs (emotional, sexual, etc.) without going outside of the relationship. Things may be bumpy at times, and you may not have your wants but your needs and your partners needs should be filled. It doesn't sound like you have that.
well the first thing is you are talking to us not him although he may not have or want to change you are already out the door having sex with someone else you shouldn't need to clean so much after him should be a more 50/50 do not tell him of affair but tell hime you are tired of the routine you say he doesn't pay your way but also say you don't work (or at least imply) if that is the contention get a job you are unfulfilled and a little change may be all you need.
If you're not happy with him now, do you think you're going to be happy with him in another 30 years? Probably not. It's possible that this is the glitter fading from a good relationship, it happens a lot. Then again, sometimes the glitter just covers up the rust. If I were you, I'd probably think about it for a week or two, but I'd most likely end up leaving him.
Your meeting an ';old friend'; to fill in the sex department is an act of betrayal. You would not do that to someone you love. So admit to yourself that you do not love him and begin the process of moving on with your life.pores stop pimples
What would you do? I love him but I'm contemplating moving out. Is this just a rutt that some couples go through?Are you good at relationship advice? Can you help me out?
This is not a rutt. You answered yourself when you met your ';old friend'; for sex. If you loved this guy, the kind of love that should lead to marriage, which is not easy under the best circumstances, then you would never be meeting an ';old friend'; for sex.
You can love someone but not be in love. Don't get married, move on, move out, tell him you are sorry but you just want to stay friends and part ways.
Remember that song ';just drop off the key Lee and set yourself free';Are you good at relationship advice? Can you help me out?
It doesn't sounds like you are getting your physical or emotional needs met. I certainly wouldn't consider marrying him with the feelings you are having. Marriage won't fix him...he'll still be the same guy with the same personality so think hard about that. I think it's time to ask yourself what you are getting out of this relationship. It should work both ways. You should each do things around the house and you should both make each other feel special. Maybe moving out will help you to think clearer and take an outside look at him and your relationship. You have already gone outside of your relationship for sex, that isn't going to help fix this relationship you are in. Take a break and see how you feel without him for a while. Always take care of yourself and be sure your needs are met as well as his. Everyone deserves to feel happy and special. Good luck to you.BTW, have you talked to him openly about how you feel? If he's not willing to work on changing for the better, then I think you know the answer....you deserve more out of a relationship.
i feel for u I'm going threw the same thing. and i wish i had the answer myself. i know it hurts, but sometimes its better to throw the towel in, and say the hell with this. there is more to life then feeling lonely,and unhappy. you have pretty much answered your question when u say things are bad in the bedroom, or he don't make you feel special any more. you deserve to be happy and so does he, maybe he's not happy either. ask him how he feels. i will tell u it's not any greener on the other side of the fence, just so u know that. good luck in what ever you need to do. i hope all turns out well. and everybody is happy in the end.
Gee wiz girl move your b-t out and get your own place!
Why live with guy you know you will never be married to!
Find a meaningfull relationship, fall in love first marry the guy your in love with that respects you and returns your love!
Love is not something you just throw around like a dirty pair of underware!
You're not being faithful and it doesn't sound like he's that into the relationship. I would say this isn't a ';rutt';.
When you are in a truly succesful relationship you manage to fill eachother's needs (emotional, sexual, etc.) without going outside of the relationship. Things may be bumpy at times, and you may not have your wants but your needs and your partners needs should be filled. It doesn't sound like you have that.
well the first thing is you are talking to us not him although he may not have or want to change you are already out the door having sex with someone else you shouldn't need to clean so much after him should be a more 50/50 do not tell him of affair but tell hime you are tired of the routine you say he doesn't pay your way but also say you don't work (or at least imply) if that is the contention get a job you are unfulfilled and a little change may be all you need.
If you're not happy with him now, do you think you're going to be happy with him in another 30 years? Probably not. It's possible that this is the glitter fading from a good relationship, it happens a lot. Then again, sometimes the glitter just covers up the rust. If I were you, I'd probably think about it for a week or two, but I'd most likely end up leaving him.
Your meeting an ';old friend'; to fill in the sex department is an act of betrayal. You would not do that to someone you love. So admit to yourself that you do not love him and begin the process of moving on with your life.
Should yahoo answers be re-named yahoo advice?
considering all the bad answers and the what should i do type of questions, there seems to be a LOT more advice than real answers on this site.... thoughts?Should yahoo answers be re-named yahoo advice?
i don't think that's true. this site is made for human interaction.
i mean, if i had a question that has precise answers, i'd go search on Google. in case i didn't get a sufficient answer, or my question must be answered by humans, i'd ask here.
i think that's why most questions seem like ';seeking advice';. and it's not bad at all ..Should yahoo answers be re-named yahoo advice?
That probably wouldn't be a bad idea.
maybe
Yahoo! Nonsense
Yahoo! POP (pisses off people)
Yahoo! Racists
Yahoo! Christian Haters
Yahoo! Children
Yahoo! Avatar Judging
Yahoo! Pregnancy
Yahoo! Masturbation
All of these names would be great...
Agree. In fact I think it should be renamed to the ';Yahoo Gigantic Blathering Chat Room';.
It should be re-named Yahoo! I Don't Know!
My thought is that you were scrounging for 10 points or whatever it is you get for asking a question. In answer to your question, many of the questions here REQUIRE subjective answers, and in fact are exactly what are being asked for. In that regard perhaps Yahoo Bad Advice would be better.
no, you got your answer, like it or not.
Maybe it should be yahoo answers and advice. There are some places on here where there are a lot more answers than advice. Such as the maths or science questions.
yea
i don't think no one have the right answers .it just depends if u take the advice for ur answer to ur questions.. but yes i think it needs another name.
There is no need to change ..
Look it up in the M-W dictionary ,comes like this :
Main Entry: 1an路swer
Pronunciation: 'an(t)-s%26amp;r
Function: noun
Etymology: Middle English, from Old English andswaru (akin to Old Norse andsvar answer); akin to Old English and- against, swerian to swear -- more at ANTE-
1 a : something spoken or written in reply to a question b : a correct response %26lt;knows the answer%26gt;
2 : a reply to a legal charge or suit : PLEA; also : DEFENSE
3 : something done in response or reaction %26lt;his only answer was to walk out%26gt;
4 : a solution of a problem %26lt;more money is not the answer%26gt;
5 : one that imitates, matches, or corresponds to another %26lt;television's answer to the news magazines%26gt;
i don't think that's true. this site is made for human interaction.
i mean, if i had a question that has precise answers, i'd go search on Google. in case i didn't get a sufficient answer, or my question must be answered by humans, i'd ask here.
i think that's why most questions seem like ';seeking advice';. and it's not bad at all ..Should yahoo answers be re-named yahoo advice?
That probably wouldn't be a bad idea.
maybe
Yahoo! Nonsense
Yahoo! POP (pisses off people)
Yahoo! Racists
Yahoo! Christian Haters
Yahoo! Children
Yahoo! Avatar Judging
Yahoo! Pregnancy
Yahoo! Masturbation
All of these names would be great...
Agree. In fact I think it should be renamed to the ';Yahoo Gigantic Blathering Chat Room';.
It should be re-named Yahoo! I Don't Know!
My thought is that you were scrounging for 10 points or whatever it is you get for asking a question. In answer to your question, many of the questions here REQUIRE subjective answers, and in fact are exactly what are being asked for. In that regard perhaps Yahoo Bad Advice would be better.
no, you got your answer, like it or not.
Maybe it should be yahoo answers and advice. There are some places on here where there are a lot more answers than advice. Such as the maths or science questions.
yea
i don't think no one have the right answers .it just depends if u take the advice for ur answer to ur questions.. but yes i think it needs another name.
There is no need to change ..
Look it up in the M-W dictionary ,comes like this :
Main Entry: 1an路swer
Pronunciation: 'an(t)-s%26amp;r
Function: noun
Etymology: Middle English, from Old English andswaru (akin to Old Norse andsvar answer); akin to Old English and- against, swerian to swear -- more at ANTE-
1 a : something spoken or written in reply to a question b : a correct response %26lt;knows the answer%26gt;
2 : a reply to a legal charge or suit : PLEA; also : DEFENSE
3 : something done in response or reaction %26lt;his only answer was to walk out%26gt;
4 : a solution of a problem %26lt;more money is not the answer%26gt;
5 : one that imitates, matches, or corresponds to another %26lt;television's answer to the news magazines%26gt;
Considering adopting: to those who have been adopted, would you offer me some advice?
I'm considering adopting. Actually, I'm pretty sure I want to. For those who have been adopted, what advice could you give me? Obviously I'd want to be the best parent possible in terms of what I know, but I want to know what I should be aware of the child's sake. ThanksConsidering adopting: to those who have been adopted, would you offer me some advice?
Ask yourself this - are you able - with all your heart - to allow an adoptee to love %26amp; know both his/her bio family and his/her adoptive family - and NOT EVER ask that adoptee to take sides against either????
It means - above all - to put the child's needs above your own.
(too often adult needs are put before the child's needs)
A child does NOT choose to be taken from one family and given to another - those are adult decisions - and a child should NEVER be made to suffer for those decisions.
For greater emotional and psychological health - an adoptee needs to know - personally if at ALL possible - his/her bio family. The family he/she shares looks, talents, personal traits with.
When an adoptee is not allowed his/her truth - and is not allowed to be a part of what I've outlined above - an adoptee has a far harder time with self image - and self worth issues.
An adoptee has two families.
That's their reality.
Please do not force an adoptee to pretend that one family never existed.
Also - be aware of your ability to accept the child - just the way they are. A child can't change what is genetically embedded.
Adoption is extremely complicated.
Read, read and read some more.
Especially books and blogs by adult adoptees.
Here's a start - links to many blogging adoptees on the web -
http://www.adultadoptees.org/forum/index鈥?/a>
I wish you the best.Considering adopting: to those who have been adopted, would you offer me some advice?
I agree with what Possum said - and she laid it out beautifully. My only addition would be to caution you that not all adoptees feel the need to search - and that's OK, too. I think we often see the issue of adoption as a black-or-white thing, and it isn't always that way. An adoptee might have a difficult time with their adoption, or they might not have difficulty with it at all - or anything in between, and all of those scenarios are just fine. Speaking as a person who is very glad she was adopted, I encourage you to go into it with an open heart, and just be there for your child (adopted or not) and let them be who they need to be.
Good luck!
to the person who said ';dont tell';--THAT IS THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO! when i found out i was adopted, i was 9 years old %26amp; i was soooo upset that my parents hadnt told me earlier. i had alot of anger towards them for a while after that. the best thing you can do is tell him/her.
if you are adopting abroad, make sure to tell the child a little bit about his heritage. if u are adopting within the US, having a little [but not TOO much] contact with the biological parent(s), if possible, would be good. i never got to meet my birth parents because my doptive parents thought it wouldnt be good for me. i kinda wish i was able to.
good luck %26amp; god bless :]
my advice is that you are a special person that want to do so. I have 2 cousins that are adopted and they are the most wonderful kids in the world. I would just be careful and realize that one day they will want to know where their birth parents are and to watch my aunt go through that it is not easy but she did tell them and one of them wanted to the other did not. Good Luck
If you are adopting a baby be very open with them! You must tell them they are adopted.
My parents were very open with me about it and I love them so much
on the other hand i have friends who adoptive parents waited till they were in high school to tell them. it wasnt pretty
The blogs Possum pointed to are a must.
Here are some books that I would recommend as well...
* ';Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self'; by Brodzinsky, Schecter, and Henig
* ';Journey of the Adopted Self'; by Betty Jean Lifton
* ';The Primal Wound'; by Nancy Verrier
I'm with those who said you have to tell them right away. Here's the thing...yes adoption is complex in it's very nature, but it doesn't have to be a big issue.
My adoption was arranged before I was born. I came home to my parents (adoptive...but they're just my parents) when I was two days old. They've told me from the minute I came home that I was adopted. They always explained it to me by telling me that it wasn't because my biological parents didn't love me...it was because they DID love me that they decided to give me to a family that could better take care of me. I never felt rejected, angry or bitter, because I always realized that I wouldn't have had the opportunities that I did if I was with my bio-parents.
It's never been a big deal or a hurtful thing, it's something that I talk about openly. My mom understood that the best thing she could do was be as open and honest and supportive of me in anything questions or when it came to finding my bio-parents (more on that later). It was harder for my dad, because I think he's a little insecure and it upset him to think that I could have another dad or love another dad. But for me...he will always be my dad. I call my bio-dad by name out of respect for my dad and because that's just what I'm comfortable with.
I know and have always known that the critical trust between parents and child would have been destroyed if they'd waited to tell me. I would have been so angry and so hurt. I don't hold grudges easily, but that's one that I think I could have held. But if you tell them from the start and just make them understand that they've always been and will always be loved, it doesn't have to be a big issue.
Now, I've mentioned my birthparents several times. My story is strange in that connecting with my bio-parents kind of just fell in my lap. My bio-dad married the aunt of a friend of mine. They got to talking and just sort of figured it out. She didn't tell me for a long time, because she wasn't sure if I was ready to know. But eventually she did and when I was ready (several years later) I contacted him. He knew how to contact my bio-mom, so he gave me her info and it all went from there.
Now I have a healthy relationship with ALL of my parents and have gotten to know my brothers and sisters. I went from being an only child to having FIVE brothers and sisters. The youngest is 20 years younger than me. But it's fun and new and it has been a great experience.
Of course, not everybody's story will be so happy. But I just think the most important thing is to love that child like they're your own BECAUSE THEY ARE. There should be no difference to you or them where they came from. Be open to their questions (even if it'll be awkward for you at times) and let them know that they have always been loved and always will be.
:)
My sister and her husband adopted a little boy about 46 years ago and he doesn't know that he is adopted. To this day he believes that his parents are his adopted parents.
Don't tell!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Ask yourself this - are you able - with all your heart - to allow an adoptee to love %26amp; know both his/her bio family and his/her adoptive family - and NOT EVER ask that adoptee to take sides against either????
It means - above all - to put the child's needs above your own.
(too often adult needs are put before the child's needs)
A child does NOT choose to be taken from one family and given to another - those are adult decisions - and a child should NEVER be made to suffer for those decisions.
For greater emotional and psychological health - an adoptee needs to know - personally if at ALL possible - his/her bio family. The family he/she shares looks, talents, personal traits with.
When an adoptee is not allowed his/her truth - and is not allowed to be a part of what I've outlined above - an adoptee has a far harder time with self image - and self worth issues.
An adoptee has two families.
That's their reality.
Please do not force an adoptee to pretend that one family never existed.
Also - be aware of your ability to accept the child - just the way they are. A child can't change what is genetically embedded.
Adoption is extremely complicated.
Read, read and read some more.
Especially books and blogs by adult adoptees.
Here's a start - links to many blogging adoptees on the web -
http://www.adultadoptees.org/forum/index鈥?/a>
I wish you the best.Considering adopting: to those who have been adopted, would you offer me some advice?
I agree with what Possum said - and she laid it out beautifully. My only addition would be to caution you that not all adoptees feel the need to search - and that's OK, too. I think we often see the issue of adoption as a black-or-white thing, and it isn't always that way. An adoptee might have a difficult time with their adoption, or they might not have difficulty with it at all - or anything in between, and all of those scenarios are just fine. Speaking as a person who is very glad she was adopted, I encourage you to go into it with an open heart, and just be there for your child (adopted or not) and let them be who they need to be.
Good luck!
to the person who said ';dont tell';--THAT IS THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO! when i found out i was adopted, i was 9 years old %26amp; i was soooo upset that my parents hadnt told me earlier. i had alot of anger towards them for a while after that. the best thing you can do is tell him/her.
if you are adopting abroad, make sure to tell the child a little bit about his heritage. if u are adopting within the US, having a little [but not TOO much] contact with the biological parent(s), if possible, would be good. i never got to meet my birth parents because my doptive parents thought it wouldnt be good for me. i kinda wish i was able to.
good luck %26amp; god bless :]
my advice is that you are a special person that want to do so. I have 2 cousins that are adopted and they are the most wonderful kids in the world. I would just be careful and realize that one day they will want to know where their birth parents are and to watch my aunt go through that it is not easy but she did tell them and one of them wanted to the other did not. Good Luck
If you are adopting a baby be very open with them! You must tell them they are adopted.
My parents were very open with me about it and I love them so much
on the other hand i have friends who adoptive parents waited till they were in high school to tell them. it wasnt pretty
The blogs Possum pointed to are a must.
Here are some books that I would recommend as well...
* ';Being Adopted: The Lifelong Search for Self'; by Brodzinsky, Schecter, and Henig
* ';Journey of the Adopted Self'; by Betty Jean Lifton
* ';The Primal Wound'; by Nancy Verrier
I'm with those who said you have to tell them right away. Here's the thing...yes adoption is complex in it's very nature, but it doesn't have to be a big issue.
My adoption was arranged before I was born. I came home to my parents (adoptive...but they're just my parents) when I was two days old. They've told me from the minute I came home that I was adopted. They always explained it to me by telling me that it wasn't because my biological parents didn't love me...it was because they DID love me that they decided to give me to a family that could better take care of me. I never felt rejected, angry or bitter, because I always realized that I wouldn't have had the opportunities that I did if I was with my bio-parents.
It's never been a big deal or a hurtful thing, it's something that I talk about openly. My mom understood that the best thing she could do was be as open and honest and supportive of me in anything questions or when it came to finding my bio-parents (more on that later). It was harder for my dad, because I think he's a little insecure and it upset him to think that I could have another dad or love another dad. But for me...he will always be my dad. I call my bio-dad by name out of respect for my dad and because that's just what I'm comfortable with.
I know and have always known that the critical trust between parents and child would have been destroyed if they'd waited to tell me. I would have been so angry and so hurt. I don't hold grudges easily, but that's one that I think I could have held. But if you tell them from the start and just make them understand that they've always been and will always be loved, it doesn't have to be a big issue.
Now, I've mentioned my birthparents several times. My story is strange in that connecting with my bio-parents kind of just fell in my lap. My bio-dad married the aunt of a friend of mine. They got to talking and just sort of figured it out. She didn't tell me for a long time, because she wasn't sure if I was ready to know. But eventually she did and when I was ready (several years later) I contacted him. He knew how to contact my bio-mom, so he gave me her info and it all went from there.
Now I have a healthy relationship with ALL of my parents and have gotten to know my brothers and sisters. I went from being an only child to having FIVE brothers and sisters. The youngest is 20 years younger than me. But it's fun and new and it has been a great experience.
Of course, not everybody's story will be so happy. But I just think the most important thing is to love that child like they're your own BECAUSE THEY ARE. There should be no difference to you or them where they came from. Be open to their questions (even if it'll be awkward for you at times) and let them know that they have always been loved and always will be.
:)
My sister and her husband adopted a little boy about 46 years ago and he doesn't know that he is adopted. To this day he believes that his parents are his adopted parents.
Don't tell!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Could it be implantation? I need your advice!?
On feb 02-08 I had a period first normal one in a while, We did have sex once at the end of my period when I was barley bleeding, today the 13th when I went to the bathroom I was bleeding a brownish pink, I was so disappointed because we have been ttc since last april...Can anyone tell me what this is? Thanks soo much
I was supposed to ovulate today or 2mrw does this mean I wont?Could it be implantation? I need your advice!?
I got the same stuff when I was ovulating earlier this week. It could be caused because of ovulation. I would recommend to do some baby dancing this weekend.
Good Luck!
Baby dust to you!Could it be implantation? I need your advice!?
It is highly unlikely that was implantation bleeding. However it could haved been spotting due to ovulation.
Hey girlie!!
I don't know if it was or not but I saw your question and I just wanted to say hi and good luck!!
Make sure to get busy this weekend if you think you are ovulating! :)
Keep me updated!!
I was supposed to ovulate today or 2mrw does this mean I wont?Could it be implantation? I need your advice!?
I got the same stuff when I was ovulating earlier this week. It could be caused because of ovulation. I would recommend to do some baby dancing this weekend.
Good Luck!
Baby dust to you!Could it be implantation? I need your advice!?
It is highly unlikely that was implantation bleeding. However it could haved been spotting due to ovulation.
Hey girlie!!
I don't know if it was or not but I saw your question and I just wanted to say hi and good luck!!
Make sure to get busy this weekend if you think you are ovulating! :)
Keep me updated!!
Advice would be nice?
I have had my cat Sally for about five years and she is around six years. Shes absolutely a delight and is well behaved and overall a very sweet cat. The only thing is she'll sometime eat her food to fast and then vomit it back up, is there any way to prevent this so she'll be happier and I'll have less to clean up?Advice would be nice?
I spoke to the people at my pet shop, and they recommended a specific food. She may be eating too fast due to the food being less filling, or being full of carbs.
I had a cat that did that too and when I switched her to a low grain, low carb dry food, she stopped. There are some really good ones out there, the ones I know of are EVO and Taste of the Wild. You may have to look real hard for the second one, but it's less expensive than the EVO.
You could also try a hairball treatment. It worked for a bit on the same cat.Advice would be nice?
I have a cat that has been vomiting about once a week and it's just his food. He's been behaving perfectly normal other than that and my husband suggested that perhaps we're putting too much food out for him at a time. Maybe you should try feeding Sally a small amount of food a couple or multiple times throughout the day. (this worked for a friend of mine with her beagle who would drink too water too fast and then throw it back up)
Only feed her a teaspoon full at a time, and space out her feeding somewhat. This will slow down her eating and halt her from scarfing it all down at one time. Also you don't mention if this is dry or wet food. Some cats will throw up wet food if their stomachs can't tolerate it. One of ours was like this and for 21 years we had to feed her a special diet.
So if lowering the amount she eats and monitoring her intake doesn't work you may want to speak to her vet about your concerns. Oh, and also check to make sure she doesn't have any teeth that are giving her a problem, some cats will gobble down their food instead of chewing it well, if they have dental problems or any kind of tooth pain.
Good luck.
Train her by eating slow by giving her a bite size of food in her ball and when she has eaten it repeat this. Do this for a week and if you see no improvement do it a bit longer. If it still doesn't work take it to the vet.
I haven't found a way. I got one too. She's much better since she's been eating mostly wet food lately. I feed her whiskas in the package now. Anyway, hope it helps you out too. Good luck!
My 8 year old male does the same thing. They sell dog bowls to stop this but not cat bowls. Try giving her smaller amounts , more often during the day.
I spoke to the people at my pet shop, and they recommended a specific food. She may be eating too fast due to the food being less filling, or being full of carbs.
I had a cat that did that too and when I switched her to a low grain, low carb dry food, she stopped. There are some really good ones out there, the ones I know of are EVO and Taste of the Wild. You may have to look real hard for the second one, but it's less expensive than the EVO.
You could also try a hairball treatment. It worked for a bit on the same cat.Advice would be nice?
I have a cat that has been vomiting about once a week and it's just his food. He's been behaving perfectly normal other than that and my husband suggested that perhaps we're putting too much food out for him at a time. Maybe you should try feeding Sally a small amount of food a couple or multiple times throughout the day. (this worked for a friend of mine with her beagle who would drink too water too fast and then throw it back up)
Only feed her a teaspoon full at a time, and space out her feeding somewhat. This will slow down her eating and halt her from scarfing it all down at one time. Also you don't mention if this is dry or wet food. Some cats will throw up wet food if their stomachs can't tolerate it. One of ours was like this and for 21 years we had to feed her a special diet.
So if lowering the amount she eats and monitoring her intake doesn't work you may want to speak to her vet about your concerns. Oh, and also check to make sure she doesn't have any teeth that are giving her a problem, some cats will gobble down their food instead of chewing it well, if they have dental problems or any kind of tooth pain.
Good luck.
Train her by eating slow by giving her a bite size of food in her ball and when she has eaten it repeat this. Do this for a week and if you see no improvement do it a bit longer. If it still doesn't work take it to the vet.
I haven't found a way. I got one too. She's much better since she's been eating mostly wet food lately. I feed her whiskas in the package now. Anyway, hope it helps you out too. Good luck!
My 8 year old male does the same thing. They sell dog bowls to stop this but not cat bowls. Try giving her smaller amounts , more often during the day.
Please I need your help! comments or advice will be fine?
My anniversary is coming up I don't know what to get him. He's tall like 5ft7 and up; likes to play football; likes to eat alot; runs track; like ps2 he could play it all day; he's humble; we both agree on its the thought that countsPlease I need your help! comments or advice will be fine?
combine two of his likes
get him a football game for ps2
and then write him a sweet letter or cook him dinner to go along with itPlease I need your help! comments or advice will be fine?
I don't go with that jerk i aint gettin him $hit
easy!! if he likes psp so much get him a foot ball game....ooooo!!!! also you can get him a foot ball with an autograph at sports athority or sumthing...%26lt;33
From the heart. You go girl.
take him out for a fun activity at night, that way you dont have to wrack your brain for the right gift.
i think a gift from the heart is always better and it seams to means so much more to men of any age
take him to a game store see what games he is stareing at to play for his ps2 and get it for him later to suprize him
gift from the heart... but u can spend some money, don't just knit him a sweater
A gift from the heart is definitely better! Maybe some new sneakers or something he would definitely use- like some new ps2 games? or something you two could do together, like some restaurants have classes where you can help cook the meal then eat it!
i agree with xkillerpiratex combine both ideas. like u could cook for him and play ps2 with him. or u could race him for a prize. like u could say ';let's race! and if u win i'll give u a prize!'; and when he wins give him a big kiss and hug and take him out to eat or give him a present.
combine two of his likes
get him a football game for ps2
and then write him a sweet letter or cook him dinner to go along with itPlease I need your help! comments or advice will be fine?
I don't go with that jerk i aint gettin him $hit
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easy!! if he likes psp so much get him a foot ball game....ooooo!!!! also you can get him a foot ball with an autograph at sports athority or sumthing...%26lt;33
From the heart. You go girl.
take him out for a fun activity at night, that way you dont have to wrack your brain for the right gift.
i think a gift from the heart is always better and it seams to means so much more to men of any age
take him to a game store see what games he is stareing at to play for his ps2 and get it for him later to suprize him
gift from the heart... but u can spend some money, don't just knit him a sweater
A gift from the heart is definitely better! Maybe some new sneakers or something he would definitely use- like some new ps2 games? or something you two could do together, like some restaurants have classes where you can help cook the meal then eat it!
i agree with xkillerpiratex combine both ideas. like u could cook for him and play ps2 with him. or u could race him for a prize. like u could say ';let's race! and if u win i'll give u a prize!'; and when he wins give him a big kiss and hug and take him out to eat or give him a present.
Hey frnds!....I'm going to be ragged in my college.Can you please advice me on how shud I?
prepare myself before being ragged by seniors.??Hey frnds!....I'm going to be ragged in my college.Can you please advice me on how shud I?
Well you can start with LEARNING TO SPELL, I'd be surprised if then even let you on a college campus.pores stop pimples
Well you can start with LEARNING TO SPELL, I'd be surprised if then even let you on a college campus.
Light's on or off? any advice would be great!?
Hey all, Sorry to ask another silly penis size related question but not a subject you can ask your friends, I did ask if it was small a month ago and that was cool at least I know now... but I have met a really cool girl I and am so worried she will laugh at me or make fun behind my back! We have messed around but I am always quick to cover up when flaccid or make sure it is pretty dark... I am not sure what to do???? I don't want to mess it up being paranoid! Thanks for your advice...Light's on or off? any advice would be great!?
size really doesn't make any difference u see, its how u perceive, a girl can reach or ga sm even if her partner has a small member. But people think diffrent, so i suggest u do it with lights off and make her feel good with a long forplay %26amp; pasionate love making, if she enjoys with u then later on even if she discovers your size it woudn't be a problem. But it true that u cant really hide it for long, so bet is stop worrying about it %26amp; try making her feel ecstatic with other ways of love making.Light's on or off? any advice would be great!?
better to know how she'll react sooner than later.
Its not the size of the boat, its the motion of the ocean pmsl!!
off
You should let her touch it, without seeing it first. That way here she can get a feel for you. Kind of rub up against her or something as long as she is comfortable. I am trying to be serious not inappropriate.
Makes no diference , they usually close their eyes
Clearly then, lights off.
(and I get 2 points for this....! That's amazing.)
Your fine! You can't help what your body is like. Let her see it. If she's to shallow to overcome something like this then she's not as cool as you thought she was. You can't hide forever!
The main thing is NOT TO WORRY about it. It's your body, feel good in it.
I'm sure you wouldn't go round laughing behind your GF's back if you thought her breats were smaller than average. Why? Because you like her for who she is. Be confident that she likes you not just for your penis, but for who you are.
Relax, be confident, don't worry and don't think about it all the time. Just be yourself.
SHe's going to find out sooner or later. YOu can't hide your smallness forever. Either way, she'll probably leave you, and you'll cry like a little girl.
in all fairness mr. u tink more of your lad than u do of anything else. if u lik that gal an she likes u whats the big deal. it all does the same job no matter big small. relationships arent all about sex remember that ...
don't worry,the size doesn't really matter...i think that the technique is more important than the size of your penis,all my friends think the same.So go get her, you tiger!!!!
I really wouldn't worry about it. Every man is different, obviously women know this. So this lady you met will expect yours to be unique. It's all in the technique anyway. There are positions that make penetration deeper. The average size of a woman is two inch long (inside) anything longer than that stretches the woman. so even a three inch penis with a good penetration position can be good.
Good luck, and stop worrying
size really doesn't make any difference u see, its how u perceive, a girl can reach or ga sm even if her partner has a small member. But people think diffrent, so i suggest u do it with lights off and make her feel good with a long forplay %26amp; pasionate love making, if she enjoys with u then later on even if she discovers your size it woudn't be a problem. But it true that u cant really hide it for long, so bet is stop worrying about it %26amp; try making her feel ecstatic with other ways of love making.Light's on or off? any advice would be great!?
better to know how she'll react sooner than later.
Its not the size of the boat, its the motion of the ocean pmsl!!
off
You should let her touch it, without seeing it first. That way here she can get a feel for you. Kind of rub up against her or something as long as she is comfortable. I am trying to be serious not inappropriate.
Makes no diference , they usually close their eyes
Clearly then, lights off.
(and I get 2 points for this....! That's amazing.)
Your fine! You can't help what your body is like. Let her see it. If she's to shallow to overcome something like this then she's not as cool as you thought she was. You can't hide forever!
The main thing is NOT TO WORRY about it. It's your body, feel good in it.
I'm sure you wouldn't go round laughing behind your GF's back if you thought her breats were smaller than average. Why? Because you like her for who she is. Be confident that she likes you not just for your penis, but for who you are.
Relax, be confident, don't worry and don't think about it all the time. Just be yourself.
SHe's going to find out sooner or later. YOu can't hide your smallness forever. Either way, she'll probably leave you, and you'll cry like a little girl.
in all fairness mr. u tink more of your lad than u do of anything else. if u lik that gal an she likes u whats the big deal. it all does the same job no matter big small. relationships arent all about sex remember that ...
don't worry,the size doesn't really matter...i think that the technique is more important than the size of your penis,all my friends think the same.So go get her, you tiger!!!!
I really wouldn't worry about it. Every man is different, obviously women know this. So this lady you met will expect yours to be unique. It's all in the technique anyway. There are positions that make penetration deeper. The average size of a woman is two inch long (inside) anything longer than that stretches the woman. so even a three inch penis with a good penetration position can be good.
Good luck, and stop worrying
What is the best advice you were ever given? Did you follow it?
How's that workin out for ya?What is the best advice you were ever given? Did you follow it?
Get out and stay out of debt.
It worked great. I have no debts, am retired, and all my savings are now in fixed annuities (unaffected by the market). My living expense is about $1k a month and that includes property tax, insurance, utilities, food, and some traveling. My income from various sources is several times that and I don't have to work. Spoiling grand kids is great!What is the best advice you were ever given? Did you follow it?
Both my parents and teachers advised me against going into anything BUT Art, since I'd been in art since I was tiny and very virtuous at it. It all happened - this advice given to me, AND STRONGLY - when during the summer between my last High School year and my Freshman year in art-school, I wanted to work eternally for the phone company. Don't ask me why, I don't remember. But working for the phone company became an obsession my parents and teachers broke me out of!
Now that I look back I can understand why they needed to set my head (BACK) on the right track!
How did it work for me?
FABULOUSLY!!!
It was from a book called ';I Am That.'; By Sri Nasargedatta Maharaj. Yes, I have followed it but I had practiced it for years before it finally sank. :)
He said to stop looking for God outside of your own heart. If it is a Guru you seek, seek the Guru that lives within your own heart, and not one which is outside of yourself. In other words, the God within....';seek that.';
Also, ';you can't change the circumstances that surround you, but you CAN change your attitude about it.';
This has made all the difference in my own life all the way around. I dropped everything I had ever heard growing up and began from scratch with reference to God. That is when I began to have success. I can only speak for myself. Also, ';Love your enemy,'; was another great gift from Jesus. :)
There are several pieces of advice actually. ';Be the change you wish to see in the world.'; Gandhi...
I've been given lots of great advice from some very dear people.
But my favorite so far is, ';There is no right or wrong choice you can make, Larissa. So long as you learn from your mistakes.';
That and, ';Dude, if he drives a lambo, he's got a little d*ck. Don't fall for it.';
this is too hard... too much advice given troughout my whole life, so much that i dont even remember... but i hav, was very impressed with the one mentioned i the answer right above mine... ';be the change u want to see in the world'; thats just great... am gonna try and do that and ill let u know how it works out! :D:D
First thing that came to mind is the advice given by a good friend from here in R%26amp;S, in the form of a question:
What would you do if you weren't afraid?
Haven't completely followed it yet . . . kinda scared to (lol), but we'll see what happens.
';Never drink from the can you used as an ash tray.';
I try to follow it. There's nothing like a moutful of ash to keep you sniffing soda cans before you take a swig.
It works on metaphorical levels as well, so it makes me feel smart.
If given the choice between being a spectator or a participant, choose spectator every time.
It has kept me out of a lot of trouble over the years...
';Wear a condom';
They however failed to specify that only extra-safe trusted brand condoms comply with this advice
Also, do not ever sleep with a polish woman.
';If wisdom's ways you wisely seek,
Five things observe with care:
To whom you speak,
Of whom you speak,
And how, and when, and where.';
Its working out pretty good so far.
I would assume that the advice that had gotten the best results happens to be the ';best'; advice. I was told to live life, and love. I still have troubles doing this.
';Don't be moody.';
That's when I discovered that I'm just as contrary as my late mother -- she also tended to reject the best advice out of hand, simply because it annoyed her.
the seven p's...
proper, prior, planning, prevents, piss, poor, performance!
Works for everything!
If it looks like a duck, and sounds like a duck...it must be a duck.
Leave no room for anyone to talk ; ) And I try to follow it as best I can and you know what? No one can say anything bad about me, because I take care of my business! ha
';Never underestimate the importance of a good pair of gloves and hat.';
Theistic religion is nonsense, don't believe it. Yes.
To never give advice unless it has been asked for.
Whadda think?
Best regards.
Best advice ever, don't get a credit card and no I didn't listen.
Watch out for that trip wire.
Don't pick that. Nah.
if you pick at it, it won't heal.
surprisingly this applies to many things!
';Be who you are, not what others want you to be.';
God wanted me to be a subservient housewife.
No thank you.
it was to choose Life..and yes so far Im following ever time I breathe in and exhale and its going well thanks..
never sign a check your tush can't cash
to not believe in god.. because it is all made up. and its not real-thank you dad for the heads up
Get out and stay out of debt.
It worked great. I have no debts, am retired, and all my savings are now in fixed annuities (unaffected by the market). My living expense is about $1k a month and that includes property tax, insurance, utilities, food, and some traveling. My income from various sources is several times that and I don't have to work. Spoiling grand kids is great!What is the best advice you were ever given? Did you follow it?
Both my parents and teachers advised me against going into anything BUT Art, since I'd been in art since I was tiny and very virtuous at it. It all happened - this advice given to me, AND STRONGLY - when during the summer between my last High School year and my Freshman year in art-school, I wanted to work eternally for the phone company. Don't ask me why, I don't remember. But working for the phone company became an obsession my parents and teachers broke me out of!
Now that I look back I can understand why they needed to set my head (BACK) on the right track!
How did it work for me?
FABULOUSLY!!!
It was from a book called ';I Am That.'; By Sri Nasargedatta Maharaj. Yes, I have followed it but I had practiced it for years before it finally sank. :)
He said to stop looking for God outside of your own heart. If it is a Guru you seek, seek the Guru that lives within your own heart, and not one which is outside of yourself. In other words, the God within....';seek that.';
Also, ';you can't change the circumstances that surround you, but you CAN change your attitude about it.';
This has made all the difference in my own life all the way around. I dropped everything I had ever heard growing up and began from scratch with reference to God. That is when I began to have success. I can only speak for myself. Also, ';Love your enemy,'; was another great gift from Jesus. :)
There are several pieces of advice actually. ';Be the change you wish to see in the world.'; Gandhi...
I've been given lots of great advice from some very dear people.
But my favorite so far is, ';There is no right or wrong choice you can make, Larissa. So long as you learn from your mistakes.';
That and, ';Dude, if he drives a lambo, he's got a little d*ck. Don't fall for it.';
this is too hard... too much advice given troughout my whole life, so much that i dont even remember... but i hav, was very impressed with the one mentioned i the answer right above mine... ';be the change u want to see in the world'; thats just great... am gonna try and do that and ill let u know how it works out! :D:D
First thing that came to mind is the advice given by a good friend from here in R%26amp;S, in the form of a question:
What would you do if you weren't afraid?
Haven't completely followed it yet . . . kinda scared to (lol), but we'll see what happens.
';Never drink from the can you used as an ash tray.';
I try to follow it. There's nothing like a moutful of ash to keep you sniffing soda cans before you take a swig.
It works on metaphorical levels as well, so it makes me feel smart.
If given the choice between being a spectator or a participant, choose spectator every time.
It has kept me out of a lot of trouble over the years...
';Wear a condom';
They however failed to specify that only extra-safe trusted brand condoms comply with this advice
Also, do not ever sleep with a polish woman.
';If wisdom's ways you wisely seek,
Five things observe with care:
To whom you speak,
Of whom you speak,
And how, and when, and where.';
Its working out pretty good so far.
I would assume that the advice that had gotten the best results happens to be the ';best'; advice. I was told to live life, and love. I still have troubles doing this.
';Don't be moody.';
That's when I discovered that I'm just as contrary as my late mother -- she also tended to reject the best advice out of hand, simply because it annoyed her.
the seven p's...
proper, prior, planning, prevents, piss, poor, performance!
Works for everything!
If it looks like a duck, and sounds like a duck...it must be a duck.
Leave no room for anyone to talk ; ) And I try to follow it as best I can and you know what? No one can say anything bad about me, because I take care of my business! ha
';Never underestimate the importance of a good pair of gloves and hat.';
Theistic religion is nonsense, don't believe it. Yes.
To never give advice unless it has been asked for.
Whadda think?
Best regards.
Best advice ever, don't get a credit card and no I didn't listen.
Watch out for that trip wire.
Don't pick that. Nah.
if you pick at it, it won't heal.
surprisingly this applies to many things!
';Be who you are, not what others want you to be.';
God wanted me to be a subservient housewife.
No thank you.
it was to choose Life..and yes so far Im following ever time I breathe in and exhale and its going well thanks..
never sign a check your tush can't cash
to not believe in god.. because it is all made up. and its not real-thank you dad for the heads up
I am in court tomorrow and I am so nervous, any advice?
I am giving evidence for the prosecution and I feel so nervous I feel sick, any advice?I am in court tomorrow and I am so nervous, any advice?
Plead innocence on account of insanity. If you wear a bib, they'll be more convinced.I am in court tomorrow and I am so nervous, any advice?
o.k just relax now. breath. keep in your mind that this is something you just have to do. picture your self at the end of the day cozy in your bed and as long as you know that will come to pass the day will be a breeze. keep your chin up. good luck!!
Tell the truth. you might take something to settle your stomach. Take deep breaths, and don't let anyone rush you. Take your time and think about your answers before you give them.
Be sick.
LIE! Don't let them take you alive!
Plead innocence on account of insanity. If you wear a bib, they'll be more convinced.I am in court tomorrow and I am so nervous, any advice?
o.k just relax now. breath. keep in your mind that this is something you just have to do. picture your self at the end of the day cozy in your bed and as long as you know that will come to pass the day will be a breeze. keep your chin up. good luck!!
Tell the truth. you might take something to settle your stomach. Take deep breaths, and don't let anyone rush you. Take your time and think about your answers before you give them.
Be sick.
LIE! Don't let them take you alive!
Need some good dating advice, been out of practice for a while?
I can't stop thinking about this guy. I've only talked to him once, just to ask a simple question. I don't even know his name, but I see him every week. I don't think he is going to try to initiate anything, but I really want to get to know him. Any advice?Need some good dating advice, been out of practice for a while?
It's hard for me to give you specific advice since I don't know in what context you know him, so I'll give you the textbook answer and hopefully you can adjust it to your situation. Small talk is always a good way to get things going. Ask him about his week, day. Talk about the weather, what he did over the weekend, and maybe questions that have to do with why you see him every week. Get friendly with him, become comfortable enough with him to have casual conversations and to say hi. Then once you two are comfortable with each other, ask him to hang out. Or maybe he'll be so charmed, he'll ask you.Need some good dating advice, been out of practice for a while?
You will have to initiate something to get him to notice you and for both of you to get to know each other better.
Just a light compliment or comment will help, such as: ';good answer in class';, ';cool shoes';, or ';oops, excuse me';.
It's hard for me to give you specific advice since I don't know in what context you know him, so I'll give you the textbook answer and hopefully you can adjust it to your situation. Small talk is always a good way to get things going. Ask him about his week, day. Talk about the weather, what he did over the weekend, and maybe questions that have to do with why you see him every week. Get friendly with him, become comfortable enough with him to have casual conversations and to say hi. Then once you two are comfortable with each other, ask him to hang out. Or maybe he'll be so charmed, he'll ask you.Need some good dating advice, been out of practice for a while?
You will have to initiate something to get him to notice you and for both of you to get to know each other better.
Just a light compliment or comment will help, such as: ';good answer in class';, ';cool shoes';, or ';oops, excuse me';.
What is the best advice about life (anything), that you think a girl should know?
I just wanted some good morales.What is the best advice about life (anything), that you think a girl should know?
Never do what you do not want to do. Stick to your beliefs no matter what. Don't care what other people think of what you do, do what you want and feel is right. I'll give you an example, I was once offered pot, I said ';you ever offer me that sh*it, and I will never talk to you again';... never again did they ask me. I remained a virgin until I got married at 24 years old, a LOT of people critisized me for it and told me to just have fun.. didn't listen and I do NOT regret it. A lot of people didn't believe I remained a virgin either.. but you know what? I didn't care. My virginity and how I felt about it was between me, God, and my husband... who cares what others say?
Just be yourself, and don't let anyone pressure you into anything.. no matter what it is.What is the best advice about life (anything), that you think a girl should know?
I believe every girl should be brought up with a sense of self, to know who she is, what she wants and how to achieve her dreams.To also know that there is no person on this earth that is perfect and no one can make her happy except herself. With that knowledge a girl can become a woman and achieve anything she should wish in life.
I'd say, know yourself, love yourself and don't let anyone else change that! Don't let anyone tell you how to feel or what's right or wrong. Go with your heart! Give and receive love. Treat others the way you expect to be treated! And don't do drugs! :)
Boys are like pebbles, there are plenty of them you will meet along the way so don't settle for pebbles, find a ROCK among them.
identify who your friends are and if they are really worth hanging around with
Always think about the consequenses of your actions before you do anything you'll regret later. This includes things like smoking, drinking, sex, buckling into to peer pressure, etc. You get the idea.
I grew up in the 1950's, and my parents all taught me right from wrong at an early age. Associate with people of good moral stock, and you can go wrong. When I was a kid of 9 and throughout my life, because of my parent's moral upbringing, I was never steered into doing what is immoral, or not right. I sincerely hope that you will heed the advise I am giving you.
Be yourself, don't let anyone pressure you into doing what you don't want to do, be a positive person, get an education. Don't let people put you down because you are a woman, we should be treated as equally as men. Stand up for what you believe in and stand up for your friends when they are right. I can't think of anything else, just smile and enjoy life!!! :0)
You are never too young to start a Roth IRA.
yea i think that is rite girl can know it
Never do what you do not want to do. Stick to your beliefs no matter what. Don't care what other people think of what you do, do what you want and feel is right. I'll give you an example, I was once offered pot, I said ';you ever offer me that sh*it, and I will never talk to you again';... never again did they ask me. I remained a virgin until I got married at 24 years old, a LOT of people critisized me for it and told me to just have fun.. didn't listen and I do NOT regret it. A lot of people didn't believe I remained a virgin either.. but you know what? I didn't care. My virginity and how I felt about it was between me, God, and my husband... who cares what others say?
Just be yourself, and don't let anyone pressure you into anything.. no matter what it is.What is the best advice about life (anything), that you think a girl should know?
I believe every girl should be brought up with a sense of self, to know who she is, what she wants and how to achieve her dreams.To also know that there is no person on this earth that is perfect and no one can make her happy except herself. With that knowledge a girl can become a woman and achieve anything she should wish in life.
I'd say, know yourself, love yourself and don't let anyone else change that! Don't let anyone tell you how to feel or what's right or wrong. Go with your heart! Give and receive love. Treat others the way you expect to be treated! And don't do drugs! :)
Boys are like pebbles, there are plenty of them you will meet along the way so don't settle for pebbles, find a ROCK among them.
identify who your friends are and if they are really worth hanging around with
Always think about the consequenses of your actions before you do anything you'll regret later. This includes things like smoking, drinking, sex, buckling into to peer pressure, etc. You get the idea.
I grew up in the 1950's, and my parents all taught me right from wrong at an early age. Associate with people of good moral stock, and you can go wrong. When I was a kid of 9 and throughout my life, because of my parent's moral upbringing, I was never steered into doing what is immoral, or not right. I sincerely hope that you will heed the advise I am giving you.
Be yourself, don't let anyone pressure you into doing what you don't want to do, be a positive person, get an education. Don't let people put you down because you are a woman, we should be treated as equally as men. Stand up for what you believe in and stand up for your friends when they are right. I can't think of anything else, just smile and enjoy life!!! :0)
You are never too young to start a Roth IRA.
yea i think that is rite girl can know it
What is the best advice you have ever been given?
Never put off till tomorrow what you can do today.
I have seen friends say they'll do it tomorrow. And the next day they have to do something else. And the first task either doesn't get completed or they are struggling twice as hard to do it than it would have taken in the first place.What is the best advice you have ever been given?
Hope is a belief in a positive outcome related to
events and circumstances in one's life. Hope
implies a certain amount of perseverance i.e.
believing that a positive outcome is possible even
when there is some evidence to the contrary.
A person who dreads of 'what tomorrow may bring'
looses the zeal of life itself. He can not live in
the present even for one day. I do not agree that
'any person can fight the battles of just one
day'. There are many in the world who fight their
battles life long, and still live with some hope.
It is nice to live for today and complete what is
to be done today. But humans are distinguished
from the rest of the living beings by hope. For
other living beings, there may not be tomorrow.
But hope is life for humans. Tomorrow may not come
for a few. But the others are sure that there will
be a day after present one. And it is hoped by
many to be a little better than today. What is not
realized today may be within our reach tomorrow.
It is hope that make people to live through all
torments of life. The moment a person loses hope,
the very zeal to live is lost.
Living in the past is dreaming. Living in the
present is intuition connected to basic instincts.
Living in hope of is humanistic rationality
to look for future.
Hope - Pandora brought the jar with the evils and
opened it. It was the gods` gift to man, on the
outside a beautiful, enticing gift, called the
';lucky jar.'; Then all the evils, those lively,
winged beings, flew out of it. Since that time,
they roam around and do harm to men by day and
night. One single evil had not yet slipped out of
the jar. As Zeus had wished, Pandora slammed the
top down and it remained inside. So now man has
the lucky jar in his house forever and thinks the
world of the treasure. It is at his service; he
reaches for it when he fancies it. For he does not
know that the jar which Pandora brought was the
jar of evils, and he takes the remaining evil for
the greatest worldly good - it is hope! For Zeus
did not want man to throw his life away, no matter
how much the other evils might torment him, but
rather to go on letting himself be tormented anew.
To that end, he gives man hope.
“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity;
an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.”
- Winston Churchill
';Three grand essentials to happiness in this life
are something to do, something to love, and
something to hope for.'; - Joseph Addison
Hope! Hope! Hope!
Delicious Hope! when naught to man is left -
Of fortune destitute, of friends bereft;
When even his dog deserts him, and his goat
With tranquil disaffection chews his coat
While yet it hangs upon his back; then thou,
The star far-flaming on thine angel brow,
Descendest, radiant, from the far skies
To touch the deepest depths of the heart
People sow seeds with hope
And hope is the seed of life
People through ages hoped for eternity
Because hope is as great as eternity
Never give-up hope, never ever
Hope is your best mate, all the time
Even if all desert you unexpectedly
Hope will be with you, if you wish....What is the best advice you have ever been given?
if you act like someone without caring what others think of you you will eventually be that someone, but if you care what others think of you you will only be dissapointed from a detour
';The time is always right to do what is right.'; MLK Jr.
Have fun at all times, within reason.
Don`t take out loans.
to exercise my right to remain silent when arrestedpores jane iredale
I have seen friends say they'll do it tomorrow. And the next day they have to do something else. And the first task either doesn't get completed or they are struggling twice as hard to do it than it would have taken in the first place.What is the best advice you have ever been given?
Hope is a belief in a positive outcome related to
events and circumstances in one's life. Hope
implies a certain amount of perseverance i.e.
believing that a positive outcome is possible even
when there is some evidence to the contrary.
A person who dreads of 'what tomorrow may bring'
looses the zeal of life itself. He can not live in
the present even for one day. I do not agree that
'any person can fight the battles of just one
day'. There are many in the world who fight their
battles life long, and still live with some hope.
It is nice to live for today and complete what is
to be done today. But humans are distinguished
from the rest of the living beings by hope. For
other living beings, there may not be tomorrow.
But hope is life for humans. Tomorrow may not come
for a few. But the others are sure that there will
be a day after present one. And it is hoped by
many to be a little better than today. What is not
realized today may be within our reach tomorrow.
It is hope that make people to live through all
torments of life. The moment a person loses hope,
the very zeal to live is lost.
Living in the past is dreaming. Living in the
present is intuition connected to basic instincts.
Living in hope of is humanistic rationality
to look for future.
Hope - Pandora brought the jar with the evils and
opened it. It was the gods` gift to man, on the
outside a beautiful, enticing gift, called the
';lucky jar.'; Then all the evils, those lively,
winged beings, flew out of it. Since that time,
they roam around and do harm to men by day and
night. One single evil had not yet slipped out of
the jar. As Zeus had wished, Pandora slammed the
top down and it remained inside. So now man has
the lucky jar in his house forever and thinks the
world of the treasure. It is at his service; he
reaches for it when he fancies it. For he does not
know that the jar which Pandora brought was the
jar of evils, and he takes the remaining evil for
the greatest worldly good - it is hope! For Zeus
did not want man to throw his life away, no matter
how much the other evils might torment him, but
rather to go on letting himself be tormented anew.
To that end, he gives man hope.
“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity;
an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.”
- Winston Churchill
';Three grand essentials to happiness in this life
are something to do, something to love, and
something to hope for.'; - Joseph Addison
Hope! Hope! Hope!
Delicious Hope! when naught to man is left -
Of fortune destitute, of friends bereft;
When even his dog deserts him, and his goat
With tranquil disaffection chews his coat
While yet it hangs upon his back; then thou,
The star far-flaming on thine angel brow,
Descendest, radiant, from the far skies
To touch the deepest depths of the heart
People sow seeds with hope
And hope is the seed of life
People through ages hoped for eternity
Because hope is as great as eternity
Never give-up hope, never ever
Hope is your best mate, all the time
Even if all desert you unexpectedly
Hope will be with you, if you wish....What is the best advice you have ever been given?
if you act like someone without caring what others think of you you will eventually be that someone, but if you care what others think of you you will only be dissapointed from a detour
';The time is always right to do what is right.'; MLK Jr.
Have fun at all times, within reason.
Don`t take out loans.
to exercise my right to remain silent when arrested
How do I handle this? Any advice could be helpful.?
My ex girlfriend and I have a child together. We dated for 5 years and we know exactly how to push each others buttons. Anyway, We broke up because I had school and work. She believed That I was cheating. Which was the furthest thing I would ever do to someone. She decided that since she belived I was fooling around, she would too. She cheated on me. I left and we haven't been together since. That was in 05. I pay my child support and been seeing my little girl since. Now since she found out I'm getting married she won't let me see my daughter. How can I handle this mess?How do I handle this? Any advice could be helpful.?
that is bs! My bf has an ex wife that is a real b*tch and pulls the same type of crap. for awhile she didnt allow them to come to the house or be with him without supervision because she said I'm a little sleeze and not decent influence and she doesnt know if it's safe for them to be around me (I'm a Paramedic for god's sake practically!) Fact is, you ex is jealous, conniving, and probably knows she screwed up and since she cant have you, and she know you DONOT want her back, this is her only real way of hurting you and getting even. Call Domestic Relations, or better yet a lawyer who deals with this crap. You are one of the few guys out there being a good man and father and she pulls this! She doesnt know how lucky she and your daughter are, you could have been like many guys and left them high-and-dry then she'd have to do it all by herself. And if it gets reallly bad,like it did here, do what my bf did. He went to a lawyer and filed for full custody ( he knew he would get it cuz he works, she doesnt, he keeps a clean safe home, she doesnt, she is just a poor mother in general)Well, the thought of losing all that support money and actually having to pay HIM, really woke her up and straightened her out. We havent had a problem with her since!!! Good luck and you and your new wifey to be don't deserve this.. how old is your daughter? when she is old enough she can legally tell a court who she wants to live with, by the way...How do I handle this? Any advice could be helpful.?
If you are paying child support to her she cant keep your daughter from you. If you have to get a lawyer and let him handle it. She sounds like she is jealous that you have found someone that makes you happy and she is not.
Sounds like it was definitely her own problem, or maybe she was subconsciously feeling temptation of some sort, and then subconsciously got it in her head that you were the one cheating.
I would write her a long letter, (Suck up a little too) while saying that it wasn't you that initiated the breakup or infidelity.
Put your real feelings out there and let her know what it would mean to you to lose visitation rights.
Also, make a copy, send registered mail with a copy, something you can show in court if it gets ugly, which I hope it doesn't.
Be sure not to yell too much, or give any reason for the courts to hold against you.
But I really can't see the courts doing that, I just suggest covering all the bases.
If i were you i would ask her again to see you daughter, if she says no i would go to the friend of the court and report her. you have the right to see your daughter. By law she has to let you see your daughter. Go to the friend of court.
find a good lawyer and file for child custody...do not see this as a mess but rather a problem that needs a fixing...you need to explain the whole situation to your spouse-to-be...once everything is settled, you'll be able to enjoy a good and peaceful life with your wife
Exercise good communication - Agree to listen to what each has to say. If you can't agree on that, then that's a dead end. Both of you need to start with listening. From there, everything will proceed more smoothly. You know, for the sake of your child, both of you have to put more effort in working this out.
leave them alon.you enjoy your life with your new would be wife.
You need to take this to court even if it means that you cant see her for a while to an outcome, but it will be better in the long run , but dont forget to involve your soon to be wife and show her love at the same time, as it seems like your ex is using your daughter to hide her jelously, i have more less been in same position, me being the new girlfriend(although not married), You need to get it legally in writing your rights so that she cant keep using it against you, speak to citizens advice
Take her to court for a regulated visitation schedule. It maps out what times how often and days also holidays. If it is a court order to allow you to see her then there is no way she can stop you she can go to jail for not following through on it. Good Luck
that is bs! My bf has an ex wife that is a real b*tch and pulls the same type of crap. for awhile she didnt allow them to come to the house or be with him without supervision because she said I'm a little sleeze and not decent influence and she doesnt know if it's safe for them to be around me (I'm a Paramedic for god's sake practically!) Fact is, you ex is jealous, conniving, and probably knows she screwed up and since she cant have you, and she know you DONOT want her back, this is her only real way of hurting you and getting even. Call Domestic Relations, or better yet a lawyer who deals with this crap. You are one of the few guys out there being a good man and father and she pulls this! She doesnt know how lucky she and your daughter are, you could have been like many guys and left them high-and-dry then she'd have to do it all by herself. And if it gets reallly bad,like it did here, do what my bf did. He went to a lawyer and filed for full custody ( he knew he would get it cuz he works, she doesnt, he keeps a clean safe home, she doesnt, she is just a poor mother in general)Well, the thought of losing all that support money and actually having to pay HIM, really woke her up and straightened her out. We havent had a problem with her since!!! Good luck and you and your new wifey to be don't deserve this.. how old is your daughter? when she is old enough she can legally tell a court who she wants to live with, by the way...How do I handle this? Any advice could be helpful.?
If you are paying child support to her she cant keep your daughter from you. If you have to get a lawyer and let him handle it. She sounds like she is jealous that you have found someone that makes you happy and she is not.
Sounds like it was definitely her own problem, or maybe she was subconsciously feeling temptation of some sort, and then subconsciously got it in her head that you were the one cheating.
I would write her a long letter, (Suck up a little too) while saying that it wasn't you that initiated the breakup or infidelity.
Put your real feelings out there and let her know what it would mean to you to lose visitation rights.
Also, make a copy, send registered mail with a copy, something you can show in court if it gets ugly, which I hope it doesn't.
Be sure not to yell too much, or give any reason for the courts to hold against you.
But I really can't see the courts doing that, I just suggest covering all the bases.
If i were you i would ask her again to see you daughter, if she says no i would go to the friend of the court and report her. you have the right to see your daughter. By law she has to let you see your daughter. Go to the friend of court.
find a good lawyer and file for child custody...do not see this as a mess but rather a problem that needs a fixing...you need to explain the whole situation to your spouse-to-be...once everything is settled, you'll be able to enjoy a good and peaceful life with your wife
Exercise good communication - Agree to listen to what each has to say. If you can't agree on that, then that's a dead end. Both of you need to start with listening. From there, everything will proceed more smoothly. You know, for the sake of your child, both of you have to put more effort in working this out.
leave them alon.you enjoy your life with your new would be wife.
You need to take this to court even if it means that you cant see her for a while to an outcome, but it will be better in the long run , but dont forget to involve your soon to be wife and show her love at the same time, as it seems like your ex is using your daughter to hide her jelously, i have more less been in same position, me being the new girlfriend(although not married), You need to get it legally in writing your rights so that she cant keep using it against you, speak to citizens advice
Take her to court for a regulated visitation schedule. It maps out what times how often and days also holidays. If it is a court order to allow you to see her then there is no way she can stop you she can go to jail for not following through on it. Good Luck
Hello...i juz wna ask an advice abut my upcoming 18 bday party...my plan is dat, the theme wud be fairytale...
instead of 18 roses and 18 candles, wat wil i hav...i hope u can help...tanxHello...i juz wna ask an advice abut my upcoming 18 bday party...my plan is dat, the theme wud be fairytale...
How about a theme of education and learning to write properly. My goodness it took me several minutes to figure out what you were asking. I thought it was foreign language.Hello...i juz wna ask an advice abut my upcoming 18 bday party...my plan is dat, the theme wud be fairytale...
Sweetie.
I don't know how to help you with your party.
But how about I get you some free lessons too Sylvan Learning Center for your birthday, yah? : ]
Now, let's rephrase your 'question' shall we?
';Hello, I would like to ask for some advice on my upcoming 18th birthday party. My theme is going to be fairytale. . .
Instead of having 18 roses and 18 candles, what do you suggest?
I hope you can help me.
Thank you.';
Not that hard.
Woot. %26lt;3
How about a theme of education and learning to write properly. My goodness it took me several minutes to figure out what you were asking. I thought it was foreign language.Hello...i juz wna ask an advice abut my upcoming 18 bday party...my plan is dat, the theme wud be fairytale...
Sweetie.
I don't know how to help you with your party.
But how about I get you some free lessons too Sylvan Learning Center for your birthday, yah? : ]
Now, let's rephrase your 'question' shall we?
';Hello, I would like to ask for some advice on my upcoming 18th birthday party. My theme is going to be fairytale. . .
Instead of having 18 roses and 18 candles, what do you suggest?
I hope you can help me.
Thank you.';
Not that hard.
Woot. %26lt;3
I am looking to buy a few fluorescent coral, does anyone have advice on where to buy?
which are the best to start with?I am looking to buy a few fluorescent coral, does anyone have advice on where to buy?
What's your tank set up? Size, lighting, how long its been set up etc. You mean live coral correct?
Sites such as http://www.liveaquaria.com have good guides on coral species, they also sell if you are in the US.
What's your tank set up? Size, lighting, how long its been set up etc. You mean live coral correct?
Sites such as http://www.liveaquaria.com have good guides on coral species, they also sell if you are in the US.
Why is it that so many people on here give the advice that toddlers don't need to brush their teeth?
I have read post after post where people are are telling mothers or caregivers not to worry about brushing their kids teeth until they are 3-4 years old!! To me that's just CRAZY! Baby teeth should be taken care of too- so what if they are replaced later with permanent teeth! Who wants their kids teeth to rot?? Plus teach them young about good oral hygiene.
I just hate to think that there are parents out there who don't brush their kids teeth! I would feel so guilty taking care of mine and not taking care of my helpless toddler's teeth!
What a shame!Why is it that so many people on here give the advice that toddlers don't need to brush their teeth?
Brushing baby teeth is a must! Not only does it prevent rotting, but teaches kids the habit very early, and with kids the earlier you get them doing the right thing, the better!!
Some people shouldn't give advice! And you never know, the parents may not be taking care of their own teeth, either.Why is it that so many people on here give the advice that toddlers don't need to brush their teeth?
even infants need their gums wiped with a clean cloth. anything left on the gums can cause baby teeth to become effected. thats why you never lput a baby to bed with a bottle.that causes baby bottle mouth. rotten teeth can cause a lot of health problems,including heart disease. bacteria can infect heart valves,and be very dangerous.
Wow, I didn't realise that was happening!
There are seriously some people who don't brush their children's teeth? EWWW! What happened to teaching good hygiene habits early on?
I agree with you. I started brushing my son's teeth as soon has he had some. Now he is 3 and we brush his teeth twice a day, I brush them for him, then allow him to brush some more for his-self. There are times he asks to brush his teeth (besides the 2 times), and I'm more than happy to let him. Its good from children to learn the importance of taking care of there teeth, along with other good hygiene practices.
because they are not dentists doctors or in the medical field you are asking laypeople on yahoo instead of a professional makes sense doesnt it now call a dentist please.
That is scary, glad I missed them.
Let me tell you a story, my cousin is three years old, he just had major dental surgery costing my aunt an out of pocket cost of over 6,000 dollars. Some insurances do not cover dental surgery on younger children, why because they shouldn't need it. That is what she was told. He had his front top teeth porcelain capped, the bottom two porcelain capped, at least four teeth needed enamel capping and two steel capped.
Why? Because he didn't like to brush his teeth and instead of being set to it she just kind of let it go. Plus he was allowed to drink sodas, kool aids, and candy, often not just an every once in the while treat. This lead to his teeth being bad enough for what is considered major dental work. Which is all on teeth that will fall out, but if it was not done, it would have ruined his permanent teeth.
Brushing of those little teeth that are just going to fall out is important, because if proper care is not taken with those it will not be taken with the real ones either.
baby teeth rotting is not good, my godson had his pulled at 3 and it took a very very long time for his permanent teeth to grow in and because he did not have teeth for so long he has a speech problem
Really? I find that surprising, I usually see that everyone feels parents should be brushing their teeth young. I started brushing my daughter's teeth, but my mom never did ours that young and ours were fine. So she doesn't see what the fuss is about. But I think about what she eats during the day and it feels wrong not to brush them, because if you don't she'd have food sitting on them, just like we do as adults. Plus, a few years is plenty of time for baby teeth to get bad. Why not start them on the good habit early, so it's not an issue later, right?
I started to brush my baby's'; teeth ';before she had teeth.
I was brushing her gums before her first teeth came up and I now brush then twice a day for a minute each time!!
A child should be brushing their teeth by age 2. That is also the time when they should begin to visit a dentist regularly. These are probably the same people that think its ok to give toddlers bottles...
I Know, my cousin is a dentist for kids and she tells me that even when they are babys and their teeth start coming out you should brush the with a very soft special brush (no tooth paste), that way they start creating the habbit and when they are older they won't give you a hard time. And toddlers do need to brush their teeth.
I'm lucky, our daughter luvs brushing her teeth with daddy in the morning, its part of our morning ritual.
not everyone i have had my kids to the dentist since they whre babies just to maintain good oral hygiene and also n 2 b scard o dentists that y toothpaste designd for kids from 6 mths old n just 3/4 yr olds wit planet they *** fae
I just hate to think that there are parents out there who don't brush their kids teeth! I would feel so guilty taking care of mine and not taking care of my helpless toddler's teeth!
What a shame!Why is it that so many people on here give the advice that toddlers don't need to brush their teeth?
Brushing baby teeth is a must! Not only does it prevent rotting, but teaches kids the habit very early, and with kids the earlier you get them doing the right thing, the better!!
Some people shouldn't give advice! And you never know, the parents may not be taking care of their own teeth, either.Why is it that so many people on here give the advice that toddlers don't need to brush their teeth?
even infants need their gums wiped with a clean cloth. anything left on the gums can cause baby teeth to become effected. thats why you never lput a baby to bed with a bottle.that causes baby bottle mouth. rotten teeth can cause a lot of health problems,including heart disease. bacteria can infect heart valves,and be very dangerous.
Wow, I didn't realise that was happening!
There are seriously some people who don't brush their children's teeth? EWWW! What happened to teaching good hygiene habits early on?
I agree with you. I started brushing my son's teeth as soon has he had some. Now he is 3 and we brush his teeth twice a day, I brush them for him, then allow him to brush some more for his-self. There are times he asks to brush his teeth (besides the 2 times), and I'm more than happy to let him. Its good from children to learn the importance of taking care of there teeth, along with other good hygiene practices.
because they are not dentists doctors or in the medical field you are asking laypeople on yahoo instead of a professional makes sense doesnt it now call a dentist please.
That is scary, glad I missed them.
Let me tell you a story, my cousin is three years old, he just had major dental surgery costing my aunt an out of pocket cost of over 6,000 dollars. Some insurances do not cover dental surgery on younger children, why because they shouldn't need it. That is what she was told. He had his front top teeth porcelain capped, the bottom two porcelain capped, at least four teeth needed enamel capping and two steel capped.
Why? Because he didn't like to brush his teeth and instead of being set to it she just kind of let it go. Plus he was allowed to drink sodas, kool aids, and candy, often not just an every once in the while treat. This lead to his teeth being bad enough for what is considered major dental work. Which is all on teeth that will fall out, but if it was not done, it would have ruined his permanent teeth.
Brushing of those little teeth that are just going to fall out is important, because if proper care is not taken with those it will not be taken with the real ones either.
baby teeth rotting is not good, my godson had his pulled at 3 and it took a very very long time for his permanent teeth to grow in and because he did not have teeth for so long he has a speech problem
Really? I find that surprising, I usually see that everyone feels parents should be brushing their teeth young. I started brushing my daughter's teeth, but my mom never did ours that young and ours were fine. So she doesn't see what the fuss is about. But I think about what she eats during the day and it feels wrong not to brush them, because if you don't she'd have food sitting on them, just like we do as adults. Plus, a few years is plenty of time for baby teeth to get bad. Why not start them on the good habit early, so it's not an issue later, right?
I started to brush my baby's'; teeth ';before she had teeth.
I was brushing her gums before her first teeth came up and I now brush then twice a day for a minute each time!!
A child should be brushing their teeth by age 2. That is also the time when they should begin to visit a dentist regularly. These are probably the same people that think its ok to give toddlers bottles...
I Know, my cousin is a dentist for kids and she tells me that even when they are babys and their teeth start coming out you should brush the with a very soft special brush (no tooth paste), that way they start creating the habbit and when they are older they won't give you a hard time. And toddlers do need to brush their teeth.
I'm lucky, our daughter luvs brushing her teeth with daddy in the morning, its part of our morning ritual.
not everyone i have had my kids to the dentist since they whre babies just to maintain good oral hygiene and also n 2 b scard o dentists that y toothpaste designd for kids from 6 mths old n just 3/4 yr olds wit planet they *** fae
I am starting a student newspaper, could anyone give me some advice.?
I recently received cart blanche from my University鈥檚 administration to start a newspaper for the business school of my institution.
As such I am currently going about the process of finding a qualified and willing editorial and journalist staff.
I am also concerned in about the tools and supplies I will need order to create a layout and design the paper.
Since I have never done this type of thing before, I would really appreciate advice from people who have knowledge of what tools are needed to create a successful college newspaper.I am starting a student newspaper, could anyone give me some advice.?
Get a faculty advisor. Write about things pertaining to your area of study. Always fact check. You can find a layout and design that suits your needs in template form on the net or check with the Columbia School of Journalism. Pick a layout that is clear and reflects business. The longest column should not be any more than 4 inches if you are writing parallel columns (no more than 4 across) or six inches it if wraps to another page...too much ink in one place makes people turn off.
Use an inverted pyramid style with the most important facts on top and the least at the bottom (and you can edit from the bottom for space that way).
Use pictures, drawings and graphics to open your page up.
A picture and cutline can be used as a story by itself if it conveys a story.
The computer is your primary tool and when you have laid out the paper and checked it, you can download your layout and give it to a printer.I am starting a student newspaper, could anyone give me some advice.?
How do you plan to pay for printing and materials? Do you plan on selling advertising? Is your paper going to be free to readers? Where will you have it printed, you need to get a printer set up before you go any further, know the costs, and figure out how you are going to pay for it.
If you are going to sell ad space you need a sales team and perhaps this could be handled by volunteers from a marketing program
First, find a faculty adviser. You'll want someone who can give you time and provide help, not just someone on the faculty looking to get in the administration's good graces.
Once you've got that, try to find the writers. Ask professors to announce you're looking for writers in their classes. Contact student organizations and their leaders, they'll likely be the people with the most involvement in the school anyway and will either be able to give you good leads or provide you with plenty of content. Just make sure you don't turn into a PR outlet for them.
While you may not get a lot of consistent writers, you'll probably be able to find people willing to do a story here and there, which will help a lot. If your university is giving you a budget to pay them, $10-$20 per story would be decent for a college paper. That is probably out of the question right away, but you could do it in the future if you plan on selling ads.
Speaking of ads, you'll need to contact local businesses about advertising if you plan on doing that to subsidize the costs. Find ones that have been charitable to the school before and talk to those in the immediate area. The coffee shop across the street from the business school will be a lot more likely to advertise in it than someone across town.
As far as designing the paper, you'll need a decent computer and I'd recommend either Quark or InDesign. You can find newsletter and newspaper templates easily enough for those programs, and if you find someone with even a little experience in those programs, you can make it look however you'd like. Try to find someone doing a graphic design degree, or maybe someone in the university's journalism program looking for some extra experience laying out pages. Also, get access to a camera. The main story on each page should have some kind of art with it, whether it's a graphic or a photo of the subject. You can use Photoshop to doll up the photos.
Contact a local print shop and tell them what you're trying to do. If you're doing enough copies and they realize you're a non-profit, they may give you a discount. Ask them about printing options. Most college papers are tabloid size (11.5 x 17), and you can discuss color options with them once you have a rough page count and paper size in mind.
Here's what I'd do first, though. Figure out if you have access to the computer programs via the library or computer lab. If not, get the costs. Talk with the adviser about the size of the paper. Once you have a rough idea, contact the print shop. Then present your financier with you expected budget.
Then get to work making sure you have both interesting content and an accessible paper. Make sure it's some place that everyone can find one, and don't forget to make sure it has something interesting enough to make them want the next one, too.
As such I am currently going about the process of finding a qualified and willing editorial and journalist staff.
I am also concerned in about the tools and supplies I will need order to create a layout and design the paper.
Since I have never done this type of thing before, I would really appreciate advice from people who have knowledge of what tools are needed to create a successful college newspaper.I am starting a student newspaper, could anyone give me some advice.?
Get a faculty advisor. Write about things pertaining to your area of study. Always fact check. You can find a layout and design that suits your needs in template form on the net or check with the Columbia School of Journalism. Pick a layout that is clear and reflects business. The longest column should not be any more than 4 inches if you are writing parallel columns (no more than 4 across) or six inches it if wraps to another page...too much ink in one place makes people turn off.
Use an inverted pyramid style with the most important facts on top and the least at the bottom (and you can edit from the bottom for space that way).
Use pictures, drawings and graphics to open your page up.
A picture and cutline can be used as a story by itself if it conveys a story.
The computer is your primary tool and when you have laid out the paper and checked it, you can download your layout and give it to a printer.I am starting a student newspaper, could anyone give me some advice.?
How do you plan to pay for printing and materials? Do you plan on selling advertising? Is your paper going to be free to readers? Where will you have it printed, you need to get a printer set up before you go any further, know the costs, and figure out how you are going to pay for it.
If you are going to sell ad space you need a sales team and perhaps this could be handled by volunteers from a marketing program
First, find a faculty adviser. You'll want someone who can give you time and provide help, not just someone on the faculty looking to get in the administration's good graces.
Once you've got that, try to find the writers. Ask professors to announce you're looking for writers in their classes. Contact student organizations and their leaders, they'll likely be the people with the most involvement in the school anyway and will either be able to give you good leads or provide you with plenty of content. Just make sure you don't turn into a PR outlet for them.
While you may not get a lot of consistent writers, you'll probably be able to find people willing to do a story here and there, which will help a lot. If your university is giving you a budget to pay them, $10-$20 per story would be decent for a college paper. That is probably out of the question right away, but you could do it in the future if you plan on selling ads.
Speaking of ads, you'll need to contact local businesses about advertising if you plan on doing that to subsidize the costs. Find ones that have been charitable to the school before and talk to those in the immediate area. The coffee shop across the street from the business school will be a lot more likely to advertise in it than someone across town.
As far as designing the paper, you'll need a decent computer and I'd recommend either Quark or InDesign. You can find newsletter and newspaper templates easily enough for those programs, and if you find someone with even a little experience in those programs, you can make it look however you'd like. Try to find someone doing a graphic design degree, or maybe someone in the university's journalism program looking for some extra experience laying out pages. Also, get access to a camera. The main story on each page should have some kind of art with it, whether it's a graphic or a photo of the subject. You can use Photoshop to doll up the photos.
Contact a local print shop and tell them what you're trying to do. If you're doing enough copies and they realize you're a non-profit, they may give you a discount. Ask them about printing options. Most college papers are tabloid size (11.5 x 17), and you can discuss color options with them once you have a rough page count and paper size in mind.
Here's what I'd do first, though. Figure out if you have access to the computer programs via the library or computer lab. If not, get the costs. Talk with the adviser about the size of the paper. Once you have a rough idea, contact the print shop. Then present your financier with you expected budget.
Then get to work making sure you have both interesting content and an accessible paper. Make sure it's some place that everyone can find one, and don't forget to make sure it has something interesting enough to make them want the next one, too.
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